Wedding planning can be tiresome for many couples, but when partners have conflicting opinions on something major, it can be a recipe for disaster. Here’s a recent example from one vegan bride-to-be and her fiancé. “There wasn’t much that disagreed on during the wedding planning except for food,” wrote Sarahjlk2022 on Reddit . “Me and my family are vegans, and there’s plenty of reasons why we chose this lifestyle and one of them being that we have a history of health issues,” she explained. Meanwhile, her fiancé and his family are “h******e meat eaters.” However, when deciding on the wedding food menu, Sarahjlk2022 ran into trouble when her fiancé and his mom objected saying adding vegan options was a waste of money over food that “isn’t real food”. Now feuding with her fiancé behind her back over the food menu, Sarahjlk2022 wonders if she maybe overreacted a little bit while looking for some perspective on the situation. Read on for the full story below, which leaves us wondering whether there will be peace in this family before the big day.
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A vegan bride was fuming after discovering her meat-loving fiancé secretly cancelled the vegan food options for their wedding. The couple had many disagreements during their wedding planning process, but food was the main point of contention. The bride wanted to include four or five vegan options to make her vegan guests feel welcome. Her fiancé and his family opposed this idea, saying it was “a waste of money” and “offensive to their guests”. After refusing to compromise, the bride found out her fiancé cancelled all the vegan food behind her back. An explosive argument ensued, but the bride still stood her ground and refused to be brushed off. The bride’s parents are unsure what do to, and now the bride and her fiancé are discussing the issue.
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Fiancé’s Disrespectful Deed
Commenter says that the fiancé’s act of cancelling vegan food for their wedding is disrespectful and advises not to marry him. Replies generally agree with the comment and provide further commentary on his attitude towards the bride and her family.
Bride’s After Meat-Loving Fiancé Vegan Wedding Food?
The commenter NTA believes that the bride has a lot to be angry about – including the fiancé not respecting her input and money, not understanding veganism, and making decisions about matters important to her behind her back. Replies criticized the bride for being in the position of marrying someone so different, and warned that it could lead to an unhappy marriage down the line.
Respect Is Key
The comment is stating that the NTA (not the a**hole) shouldn’t marry their fiancé who, along with their family, has shown no respect. One of the replies is agreeing with the statement and pointing out that even with respect for the family, they took it too far by involving themselves in wedding planning.
Vegan Bride NTA
The vegan bride reveals her anger towards her meat-loving fiancé and his mother for canceling vegan food for the wedding despite them paying. The comment replies support the bride’s point of view, declaring them both as the a*****s in the situation.
Bad Move! Cancelled Vegan Food? Better Cancel The Wedding
The commentor is NTA (not the a**hole), and suggests cancelling the wedding as an easy fix to the problem. They also point out the potential toxicity of the relationship if the couple have kids, if one partner feels they have no say in the upbringing. A reply to the comment suggests to consider allergies that the kids might have to food which can be taken for granted, e.g. peanuts or certain fats.
NTA, Cancel The Wedding!
Commenter advises not to marry the fiancé, who unilaterally cancelled vegan food options for their wedding. Replies agree, advising to call off the wedding and not settle for someone who wants to control what others do, instead of taking the bride’s feelings into account.
Fiancé Disrespects Vegan Bride’s Wishes ❌
The commenter is accusing the fiancé of not respecting the vegan bride and her family and not being able to handle an adult relationship with mutual respect. The comment and replies express concerns about future differences being handled in the marriage.
Bride ‘Fuming’ Over Food!
The bride was furious after finding out her meat-loving fiancé secretly cancelled the vegan food for their wedding. She felt that her and her family’s wellbeing during the catering wasn’t as important to him. In reply, he said it was his wedding too, as a way to get her to back off.
NTA: Respect Is Key In Relationships
The commenter states that they understand the hostility that meat-eaters show towards vegan/vegetarian lifestyles, and suggests the soon-to-be bride to reconsider her relationship because her fiancé has not been respectful of her lifestyle, and has been doing things behind her back. The reply states that it is unreasonable to expect vegans/vegetarians to only eat salads, and expresses their view that vegan/vegetarian options should be available for everyone.
Fiancé Secretly Cancelled Vegan Food For The Wedding
Though the commenter says NTA, they wonder why the fiancé cares what other people eat and also call him an a**hole for not knowing what vegans eat. In reply, the commenter says aside from the vegan option, there are 6 options with meat and the fiancé’s mom picked one. However, the commenter is paying for the whole thing.
Don’t Marry Him ♀️
The commenter says the bride should not marry her meat-loving fiancé due to his secrecy and manipulation, the disrespect of her feelings, and the disregard for her money. The replies agree, suggesting that his mother is the third person in their relationship.
NTA: Should The Bride Run?
The commenter thinks the bride should consider leaving her fiancé, who is being r**e and dismissive and being controlled by his mother.
NTA: Fiancé Can’t Be Blind To Disrespect
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The commenter deems the fiancé NTA for not knowing what vegans eat and cancelling the vegan dishes off the menu without informing the bride. Doing so behind her back and blaming her is labeled as disrespectful and unacceptable.
Bride’s Vegan Wedding Dreams Dashed
NTA – the fiancé didn’t do the slightest bit to compromise and provide vegan options at the wedding. The comment replies advise the bride to think before marrying a man who doesn’t respect her views and morals.
NTA, But
The comment expresses some surprise that the vegan bride did not call off the wedding after her meat-loving fiancé and his mother suggested to scale back her vegan dishes to just salads and appetizers for the guests. No one is identified as the a****e in the comment.
Bride Cancels Wedding After Finding Out Fiancé Secretly Cancelled All Vegan Food
NTA. The bride canceled the wedding after finding out that her meat-loving fiancé had secretly cancelled all the vegan food for their big day. In response to this, one reply asked if the bride could imagine marrying someone who tells her to starve on her wedding day.
NTA: Respect Is Key
Commenter says that the vegan bride should not be considered the a**hole in this situation and dump her fiancé who isn’t respectful of her and her family.
Dude’s A “Weenie”!
The commenter is NTA and believes that the man’s disrespectful behavior towards the vegan lifestyle calls for rethinking the marriage. The commenter also calls him a ‘weenie’ for cancelling all the vegan food for the wedding despite knowing that the bride is vegan. A reply to the comment concurs, calling the man’s excuse of not knowing what vegans eat ‘nonsense’.
NTA Not Happy About This!
The commentor says that the meat-loving fiancé has presented the vegan bride with a gift: the realization that he will put his mother over her at every major event and demonstrate a lack of respect for her life choices. It is for the bride to decide what she does with this gift.
Is It Worth Getting Married To Someone Who Doesn’t Respect Your Choices?
The commenter is emphatic that the vegan bride should not proceed with the wedding if her partner disrespects her dietary preferences. They suggest that the fiancé should pay for their own catering and the bride should hire a second caterer for her own vegan feast instead. NTA (not the a****e).
Bride ♀️& Fiancé ♂️: Disaster
Bride’s family is vegan but her fiancé secretly cancelled all their vegan food options for their wedding. The comment suggests not to marry this person, as it is not a****e behavior. The comment replies suggest that the bride is vegan too, highlighting the a****e behavior of the fiancé even further.
NTA: Don’t Marry Him! ♀️
The commenter states that it is not the bride’s fault for the fiancé cancelling the vegan food for the wedding, but encourages her not to marry him. They suggest that she cancel the meat options and make the whole meal vegan if she goes through with it.
Does Your Partner Not Know You At All?!
The comment points out that the bride’s fiancé doesn’t seem to have any basic knowledge of what vegan food is despite the fact that his fiancée is vegan. It highlights a concerning lack of respect, questioning if the couple ever even talk to each other. The comment suggests that this detail is indicative of an unhealthy relationship and thinks that getting married to someone who doesn’t even know you is not a good idea. It concludes that the bride is Not The A–hole*.
Can’t Agree On Vegan Food?
The comment suggests that the bride and groom may not agree on vegan food if it’s an ongoing fight. The comment raises an important question of whether they can handle this difference for the rest of their lives.
NTA: Respect On
The commenter is not the a**hole, and believes that the vegan bride should consider the lack of respect her fiancé has for her, her health and her family by trying to make her sick on her wedding day.
NTA: Respect ♀️
The commenter takes a strong stance against the bride’s fiancé, saying that the action to secretly cancel vegan food for the wedding shows zero respect and calls out that this might be indicative of further issues down the line.
NTA But There May B⚠️ Trouble Ahead…
The comment states that the fiancé’s refusal to compromise may be a red flag and that his mother’s controlling and insulting behavior is another cause for concern. No replies were found.
♀️♂️ Bride Stands Her Ground!
The comment suggests that the bride NTA (not the a**hole) and should not let go on this point, and even switch the whole meal to vegan. It further suggests that the fiancé not having her back is a sign of the h**l his mother may unleash on her, and that it is better to put the engagement on hold if this is the case.
NTA – Vegan Bride’s Fury!
The commenter declared that the vegan bride was not the a**hole (NTA), but that the meat-loving fiancé was the a**hole (TA), as the bride should be allowed to have vegan food at her own wedding.
NTA: Call It Off!
The comment expresses the sentiment that the bride should not marry the meat-loving fiancé and should call it off immediately to save her life.
Bride Furious At Fiancé
The bride is stunned to find out that her meat-loving fiancé secretly cancelled all the vegan food for their marriage. Commenter wonders why the bride is even marrying him, and declares that she is not the a**hole in this situation.
Fake Wedding Drama!
Commenter is incredulous that anyone would consider themselves NTA, given the seemingly fake situation. Replies argue that the scenario, which involves four or five vegan food options, would be both expensive and unnecessary for a catered meal. They further argue that it reads like it was written by someone who doesn’t understand how weddings or catering works.
❗️ Fake Wedding Alert!
The comment suggests the vegan bride’s story could be fake, given her fiancé’s choice to serve meat despite her vegan identity, their length of relationship prior to engagement, and her choice to follow through with the wedding. No replies were found.
NTA: Reconsider The Marriage
The commenter suggests that the vegan bride reconsider her marriage, as her fiancé’s disregard for her vegan lifestyle reflects a lack of respect that could carry on into their marriage.
Bride-To-Be ❓NTA But Must Reconsider
The comment suggests that the bride-to-be is Not The A****e in this situation but should reconsider her decision to marry her fiancé due to his controlling, deceptive, and disrespectful behavior. Additionally, the comment suggests his family may be like him in this regard.
️ NTA: Fiancé’s Disregard For OP’s Needs? ️
The commenter believes that the fiancé’s decision to cancel all vegan food for the wedding, along with his disregard for the needs and choices of the OP, is an indication of the type of treatment she can expect from him in the future. The commenter implores the OP to reconsider moving forward in the marriage.
NTA. Respect Is Key!
The comment believes that the fact the fiancé cancelled all the vegan food without consulting the bride is a huge red flag, and shows that he and his family do not treat the bride as an equal. They believe the best thing to do would be to cancel the wedding.
NTA: Is This What You Want To Sign Up For?
The commenter points out that the bride’s fiancé overrided her decisions multiple times, most likely in other places, and urges her to think deeply about how she wants to live the rest of her life with this kind of behavior.
A Vegan Bride-To-Be Questions Her Meat-Loving Fiancé’s Decision To Cancel Their Vegan Wedding Meal Plans
The comment questioned how the vegan bride and her fiancé, who supposedly doesn’t understand her dietary choices, were able to become engaged without proper communication about the wedding meal plans. No replies were found for this comment.
Advice To A ♀️ Vegan Bride
The commenter expresses empathy towards the vegan bride and calls her Not the A****e for the loss of deposits when she cancels the wedding.
⚠️ Bride Finds Out
A concerned commenter advises the bride to reconsider her wedding, as the food selection is the least of her worries. The commenter is not the a**hole in this case.
Don’t Marry Him!
The comment urged that the bride not marry her fiancé, pointing out that this was an incredibly a****e move that showed disrespect and contempt to the bride and her family. It also suggested that the bride read some posts on Reddit in order to be aware of what her life with this fiancé may be like.
NTA: Disrespected Behind Their Backs!
The commentor says that the bride’s fiancé and his mother disrespected her by cancelling the vegan food for their wedding without her knowledge. They did this despite her explicit wishes and to no apparent reason – it was a sneaky and inconsiderate act. The commentor further expresses surprise that the bride’s family was all right with the decision.
Boyfriend:
The commenter declared that the boyfriend was ‘ ‘ for secretly cancelling all the vegan food for the wedding. No one agreed with the commenter.
A Red Flag ?
The commenter calls out the bride’s fiancé for disrespecting her wishes by secretly cancelling all the vegan food for their wedding, saying it’s a huge red flag against the relationship.
NTA –
The commentor is outraged that the fiancé secretly cancelled all the vegan food for their wedding, despite her lifestyle being taken into account. They suggest that this is more than just a failure to compromise and that it presents serious red flags for their relationship going forward. They advise the bride to do some serious re-consideration of the relationship.
NTA: Time To Re-Evaluate
The commenter said NTA (not the a**hole) and advised the vegan bride to re-evaluate her relationship as her meat-loving fiancé overstepped and threw a tantrum because he did not get his way.
No One Deserves This
The comment strongly suggests that the bride should call off her wedding, as she is not getting what she wanted from her fiancé.
NTA. Disrespecting You In The Start Of Married Life
The commenter is not the a**hole and is calling out the fiancé for disrespecting the vegan bride and considering only his side in the wedding. They point out that veganism is not just about not eating meat but can also be due to health reasons or medical conditions and this thought was not considered by the fiancé.
NTA: No Respect For Your Thoughts/Opinion!
The commenter said that the fiancé does not respect the bride’s thoughts, feelings, or opinions and even blamed her for it. They suggest she leave him before being tied down legally to a man who will keep pulling such stunts.
The Family Impact ♂️
The commenter suggested that the bride should re-think her marriage to someone with no respect for her or her family. They warn that if a family get-together were to happen in the future, her family may be left to starve.
❤️ ❌ NTA?
The comment is in support of the bride, a vegan, and advises that she should not let the incident go. It states that this could be a sign of how her fiancé and his mother will act after they are married and suggests to either rethink the decision to marry or be prepared to fight them every time they disagree. The comment further advises the bride to make it plain to her fiancé that they are incompatible and calls off the wedding.*
He’s NTA ✋
The commenter believes the fiancé is not the a**hole for secretly cancelling all of the vegan food, and is surprised that the he doesn’t understand vegan diets and cooking. They suggest that he could easily find vegan recipes and meals on the internet and social media.
Should This Vegan Bride Marry Her Meat-Loving Fiancé?
The comment asks if the vegan bride should marry her meat-loving fiancé despite their food disagreement. No replies to this comment were found.
NTA But Future
The commenter is NTA (not the a**hole) but warns the bride that this incident is a red flag for what their future together may look like, cautioning that the fiancé and his mother may even go behind her back on decisions about having kids.
NTA: Fiancé’s Attitude
The commenter remarks that the fiancé is Not the A****e, and expresses disbelief about the fiancé’s disrespectful behavior towards the bride and her family. The commenter also expresses outrage about the fiancé’s attitude towards vegan food, as he apparently does not consider vegetables and fruits as food.
NTA ♀️
The commenter feels the fiancé had no right to cancel the vegan food without consulting the bride as it’s her wedding. They also point out that if the fiancé can’t respect the bride and her family, they might as well cancel everything.
Not The A****e ✊️
The commenter argues that the fiancé is not the a****e for cancelling the vegan food for the wedding, and that the bride is free to bounce out of this mess.
NTA! Fiancé Not Respecting The Bride
The commenter advises the bride to call off the wedding due to the fiancé disrespecting her and not respecting her opinion or money. The commenter believes that the fiancé’s mother’s opinion and happiness would always come before the bride’s own.
No A****e Here?
The commenter says NTA and expresses disagreement with the fiancé for cancelling the vegan food without the bride’s knowledge. She suggests that the bride should be aware that this is a glimpse of the future with the fiancé and his mother.
Bride Has The Final Say ♀️
The bride is not the a**hole for refusing to accommodate her fiance’s family who would be disrespecting the other wedding guests. She has the final say in the matter.
A Marriage Based On Secrets?
The commenter believes the couple has a shaky foundation, as the fiancé cared more about his mother’s opinion than the bride’s and lacked basic decency towards the vegan food for the wedding.
NTA, Choose Wisely
The commenter has deemed the fiancé ‘NTA’ (not the a**hole), while suggesting that their prospective partner should be chosen wisely to avoid similar situations in the future.
Should The Bride Marry Her Fiancé?
The comment questions whether marrying the fiancé is worth it, as his behavior has demonstrated a lack of respect to the bride. His behavior includes doing something behind her back, completely disregarding her opinion and needs, and attempting to gaslight her. The comment further claims that the bride should let him have this one, as her entire life will likely be overshadowed by him and his family otherwise.
NTA: A ‘Vegan’ Bride’s Story
The commenter believes the bride is ‘not the a**hole’ for her fiancé’s disrespectful and inconsiderate behavior towards her dietary preference. They suggest the bride should reconsider the wedding considering her fiancé’s attitude towards her and her beliefs.
NTA And Pay The Bill
The comment author is not the a****e and suggests that the bride-to-be hand over the bill of the wedding to her fiancé and his mother, offering them the freedom to choose whichever food they want. The comment author expresses their frustration about the bride-to-be’s fiancé and his family being offended by vegan meals.
Vegan Bride Dumps Fiancé ✔️
The comment suggested that the vegan bride reconsider her meat-loving fiancé, based on the fact that he did something behind her back to accommodate his family. The comment inferred that this may be a streak of similar actions and that a good outcome may not come out of the marriage.
Last Updated on February 20, 2023 by Alfe Mercado
