It’s a truth universally acknowledged, at least according to one viral video, that if your wife has lost interest in the bedroom, you may need to look in the mirror. A man posted a video explaining to fellow husbands why their wives may not be so eager to cuddle, and his candid take has sparked a lot of conversation online.
The man in the video doesn’t hold back
He starts of by saying, “You can’t expect her to touch your pee-pee if you put her in a position of being your parent.” He quickly follows with, “That was a lot, let me elaborate,” and goes on to break down how a wife’s role can often shift into more of a caretaker.
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He paints a vivid picture:
You got married, and everything was hot and heavy, but then life got busy. Maybe kids came along, and she became a mom. Somewhere in there, she went from being your wife to being your mom, picking up after you and handling the mental and physical labor of the home.
According to the man, the shift happens subtly.
She’s doing all the things you used to do for yourself, he explains. And then, one day, you notice the spark has dimmed. She sees a child she needs to care for, not the adult man she married, he says, pointing out how this can kill attraction.
But this isn’t about blaming, he clarifies.
“It’s not malicious,” he insists. You’ve just settled into your roles. It feels nice to be cared for, but suddenly, you’re wondering why she doesn’t want to sleep with you anymore. What happened? The Parent Trap happened.
His solution?
Step up and be a man about it. He advises husbands to take back responsibility for their own lives, reclaiming any tasks they’ve let slip onto their wife’s plate. “If she’s taking care of it for you, although it was a nice gesture, you need to take it back onto your plate,” he suggests.
The video struck a chord with many viewers.
One woman commented, “When it was falling apart with my first husband, […] I told him, ‘You went from having a mother to take care of you, to having a mother who takes care of you that you can sleep with.’ Never marry someone who is still living with his parents.”
Another woman chimed in:
“This is why women want divorces, and the men are shocked. Wake up, men. We want a partner, not a BIG child.” Her comment received numerous likes and agreements, reinforcing the message of the video.
Yet another added:
“This is spot on. No one should have to do all of the adulting.” Clearly, the frustration resonated with many viewers who’ve felt this imbalance in their own relationships.
For some, it’s the little things that add up.
“Don’t ask me to repeat myself like the kids,” one woman said, “and please remember where something is or put it back where it goes so you don’t have to ask me all the time.”
Others shared their experiences directly.
“My ex became my ex for this reason,” one woman stated. “I warned him to step up a year before I left. […] He didn’t. So I was done. If I was going to be a single mom and take care of a household all on my own, might as well have the side bonus of not having to sleep with him.”
One woman said she planned to share the video with her husband, hoping it would help.
“My marriage has our rocky roads and when things get really hard…. I will be sending this to my husband and see if he wants to make things better.”
Another viewer captured the sentiment perfectly:
“Dam!!! Every relationship problem could be fixed by men understanding this!!” Her comment got plenty of virtual nods and cheers.
Not everyone agreed, though.
One woman countered, “I respectfully disagree. It is a partnership. My ex did his own laundry, made his own lunch, etc. etc. It always seemed silly. We were PARTNERS in life. He went to work […] I was happy to do more around the house […] Did that make me his daughter? Nope. We were partners.”
Finally, one viewer gave kudos to her husband:
“He doesn’t need to do all of his own things, but helping me with the things is wonderful. When I’m feeling overwhelmed or just need a moment to myself, or have too much going on, my husband is absolutely there for me.”
So what’s your take on this?
Whether you agree with the video’s take or not, it certainly has sparked a lively debate about roles in marriage and how they impact intimacy.
At its core, the message seems to be about equality, respect, and mutual effort. And maybe, just maybe, taking a bit more responsibility around the house could lead to a lot more fun in the bedroom.
Last Updated on September 10, 2024 by Sarah Kester
