Hey there, Facebook friends! Have you ever had a simple word choice cause a whole lot of drama? Well, buckle up, because I’ve got a story for you! I’ve been with my partner Taylor for five years, and we’ve chosen to call each other ‘partners’ instead of ‘boyfriend’ and ‘girlfriend.’ We’re both straight, but some new friends I made in our new city got a little confused when they met Taylor. ♀️ Let’s dive into the story and see what happened…
Meet Taylor, My Partner ♀️
Life Partners, Not Just Boyfriend/Girlfriend
No Offense, Just Preference
Partner It Is!
Making Friends, But Where’s Taylor?
Surprise, Taylor’s a Man!
Unisex Name Confusion
The ‘Partner’ Debate
Nurse Stereotype
Confrontation Time ⚠️
Texting the Friend Group
Can’t We Use ‘Partner’? ♀️
The ‘Safe’ Friend Misunderstanding
Assumptions and Pronouns ️
Feeling Left Out
Showing Taylor’s Pictures
Assumptions on Them ♀️
The Great ‘Partner’ Debate: Queer Baiting or Misunderstanding? ️
So, I introduced my partner Taylor to my new friend Kate, and she was shocked to find out Taylor was a man! Turns out, she thought I was dating a woman because I used the term ‘partner,’ which she said is usually used by the LGBT community. Things got even more complicated when my friends accused me of ‘queer baiting’ and told me it’s unethical for straight couples to use the term ‘partner.’ I tried to explain that we just felt more comfortable with the term, but they weren’t having it. Now I feel like I’ve been kicked out of the friend group over this whole misunderstanding. Let’s see what the internet thinks of this situation…
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