Being a married couple means compromising on a lot of different things. It’s all about teamwork, amirite? Well, that’s what we’ve all been told, but my husband would beg to differ. Do I get my way most of the time? Yes. The saying isn’t “happy wife, happy life” for no dang reason!
Now, one wife is asking if she’s in the wrong for not letting her husband attend a friend’s bachelor party.
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Finances is one of the most touchy subjects with any couple, even though we’ve been taught it shouldn’t be.
However, when you’re pinching pennies, it can be frustrating to deal with a partner who isn’t on the same page.
One woman is taking to Reddit to ask if she was in the wrong for barring her husband from attending a friend’s bachelor trip.
She begins by telling readers that the groom is paying for the lavish Vegas accommodations, and the groomsmen are just expected to pay their airfare.
“When my husband told me about it he was so excited as he’s never been to Vegas and this seemed like the perfect trip since his friend was covering a huge expense. However, We have 2 young kids at home, a 3-year old and a 6-week newborn,” she explained.
“The trip is in 6 weeks and my husband’s friend wants for sure answers on who is going by the end of this week so he can finalize reservations.”
“I told my husband I don’t want him to go because I need his help at home. He pretty much begged me but I did not give in. I do not think I can handle the needs of both kids by myself. Neither of us has family nearby, and I’m pretty much estranged from all of my family anyway. The only real option we have for help is his mom and she lives 3,000 miles away. He offered to pay for her to come stay to help but I told him we can’t afford it, which he should know.”
“I was also upset that he thought we had the money to pay for this at all,” she continued.
“We have 2 kids, we shouldn’t be spending our money on gambling party trips. I pretty much put my foot down and told my husband he can’t go and that there is nothing he can do to convince me that he should or that it’s even an idea worth entertaining.”
“He’s still been trying to convince me and come up with ideas that he thinks will make it work, no matter how many times I tell him to stop. I finally snapped at him and told him to drop it because he’s not going and there’s nothing he can do to convince me otherwise,” she added.
“I told him his priority needs to be his family right now, not going off with friends to blow money on drinks and gambling. He called me a controlling jerk and that I’m depriving him of a once-in-a-lifetime trip. I told him if he went he would be missing out on once-in-a-lifetime moments with his kids and that’s what he needs to focus on. I told him he just needs to drop and it tell his friend he can’t go and be done with it.”
She concluded:
“He told me that he hopes I remember this when there’s something that I really want to do, because he would never deprive me of an experience like this. He did finally tell his friend he can’t go, but now he is barely talking to me, and pretty much only about things related to the kids.”
The decision really divided the Reddit community.
Many women empathized with the mom, while others felt she was being unreasonable and dictating decisions in her house.
I think any mom of a newborn can clearly see why her hubby was in the wrong!
