Losing a loved one is never easy, and funerals are often a time for family to come together and grieve. But what happens when a family member doesn’t feel like they were ever part of the family? One 17-year-old is caught in the middle of a family conflict after refusing to attend their step-grandmother’s funeral. The teen claims they were always treated as an outsider by their step-grandmother and doesn’t want to pretend to be a grieving grandchild. Now, their dad and stepmom are furious, and the internet is weighing in on the situation.
A Family Divided
Step-Grandma’s Favoritism
Lesser Gifts and Exclusion
Sibling Comparisons
Special Trips and Secret Money
Behind-the-Back Photos
Unprotected by Parents
Empty Words
Step-Grandma’s Passing
Refusing to Pretend
Parents’ Anger
The Internet Debates: Is the Teen Justified?
In a heart-wrenching story of family drama and exclusion, a 17-year-old is caught in the crossfire after refusing to attend their step-grandmother’s funeral. The teen claims they were always treated as an outsider by the step-grandmother, receiving lesser gifts and being excluded from special trips and activities. Now, with the funeral approaching, the teen refuses to pretend to be a grieving grandchild, angering their dad and stepmom. Is the teen justified in their decision, or should they attend the funeral to support their stepmom? Let’s see what the internet has to say about this emotional situation…
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Stepmom and dad were absent when mistreated, NTA for refusing.
Savage yet hilarious response to funeral dilemma
Stepmom and dad are just saving face. NTA
User supports OP’s decision not to attend funeral, encourages self-care
Stepmom failed to support her as a child, NTA for refusing.
Adoptive parent stands up to MIL, offers support to commenter.
Supportive comment receives no replies, but offers validation and empathy.
Attending a funeral for someone you don’t care about: NTA
A commenter asks for more context about the relationship with stepmom.
Stepmom not supportive, NTA for skipping funeral
Receiving a used coloring book as a gift: NTA reaction
Stepmom’s mom mistreated OP for years, NTA for refusing funeral.
NTA refuses to attend abusive stepmom’s mom’s funeral, justified
Respectful refusal to attend funeral, NTA.
User justifies teen’s decision to skip stepmom’s mom’s funeral.
Choosing not to attend a funeral is a personal decision.
Supportive comment: Teen justified in not attending funeral.
Standing up to favoritism, justified in skipping funeral
Validating personal closure, not attending step-grandmother’s funeral.
Prioritizing self-care over family expectations.
No obligation to attend funeral, NTA.
NTA stands up to toxic family, plans to move out soon
Making a statement at the funeral: NTA but tread lightly
NTA. Respond with a sweet insult. Don’t go if upset.
Reaching out to real mom’s family for support
Skipping the funeral is justified, don’t subject yourself to toxicity.
Refusing to attend stepmom’s mom’s funeral- justified or heartless? NTA
Stepmom’s mom treated them badly, NTA for not attending funeral
Stepmom’s mom excluded her, NTA for refusing to attend funeral
Stepmom’s mom’s funeral: NTA for not attending, justified reasons.
Stand up for what’s right, even if it comes at a price.
NTA commenter advises OP to prioritize their own well-being and connect with mother’s side of the family.
Stepmom’s mom abused, marginalized, neglected her. NTA for refusing funeral
No obligation to attend funeral of absent step-grandmother. NTA
Polite refusal to attend funeral of cruel step-grandmother. NTA.
Stepmom’s mistreatment leaves stepchild with emotional scars. Justified absence.
Stepmom’s mom’s funeral: NTA for not attending, valid reason given.
Stepmom wasn’t there for you, NTA for not attending funeral
Stepmom’s mom’s funeral causes family tension. Commenter advises NTA to speak up.
Don’t mourn those who wouldn’t mourn us NTA
Step-grandma made it clear you’re not family, NTA for not going. Be kind to stepmom though, she’s hurting.
No sympathy for mistreatment. NTA, justified in not attending funeral.
Stepmom’s mom’s funeral: Teen refuses attendance. NTA, stands ground.
Stepmom’s mom’s funeral: to attend or not to attend? NTA wins.
Validating NTA comment: Refusing to attend funeral for stepmom’s mom
Stepmom’s mom mistreated teen, NTA for refusing to attend funeral.
Stepmom neglected OP, NTA for not attending funeral.
Stepmom’s mom treated them like a second-class family member. NTA.
Dark humor shines in NTA’s comment about stepmom’s mom funeral
Stepmother and step-grandmother’s funeral: NTA for not attending.
Stepmom not there for you, NTA for not attending funeral
Stepmom’s mom was a bully, NTA for not attending funeral
Skipping a funeral of someone who wouldn’t care? NTA
Unconventional take on attending a funeral
Stand up for yourself and treat yourself. NTA.
Not heartless, just reciprocating support from unworthy person.
Attending a funeral: pay respects or support a loved one? nTA
Golden rule: treat family as they treated you. NTA
Step-mom’s mom’s funeral? NTA. 13 years of no support.
“NTA” commenter thinks dad should have been there instead
NTA. Stand up for yourself and don’t attend the funeral.
Savage response to stepmom’s request for funeral attendance
OP’s NTA for not attending funeral. Suggests writing letter instead.
Teen refuses to attend stepmom’s mom’s funeral, commenters support decision.
Sassy response to funeral invite drama. NTA wins.
Stepfamily love and acceptance, but revealing half-sibling status is tricky ❤
Skipping a funeral of someone who treated you badly is NTA
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Stepmom’s mom mistreated me, didn’t care when she died. NTA
Petty revenge suggestion for attending stepmom’s mom’s funeral.
Skipping abusive stepmom’s mom’s funeral is justified. NTA
Funerals are for supporting the living, not just grieving. Stay home if you want
Support your stepmom during a hard time, but NTA for not attending funeral
Demanding loyalty after neglecting family is not okay.
Stepmom’s mom’s funeral: Teen refuses to attend, justified or heartless?
