Stepmom’s Dilemma: Should She Say No to Full-Time Stepson?

Picture this: You’ve raised your kids, they’ve moved away for college, and you’re finally enjoying some well-deserved independence. But then, your husband’s 16-year-old son wants to move in full-time. What would you do? This stepmom is facing that very dilemma, and she’s not sure if she’d be the bad guy for saying no. Let’s dive into her story and see what’s going on.

Son Wants to Move In

The Change of Heart

School District Switch

Husband’s Work Schedule ️

Stepmom’s New Role ‍

Been There, Done That ✅

Good Kid, Tough Decision

Seeking Advice

Past Circumstances

Newfound Freedom

Personal Growth Journey

Driving Dilemma

Teen Parenting Truths

Morning Struggles ⏰

Stepmom’s Independence vs. Stepson’s Needs

This stepmom has been enjoying her newfound independence after raising her own kids, but now her husband’s 16-year-old son wants to move in full-time. With her husband working out of state most of the time, she’d become the primary caregiver, responsible for school, sports, meals, and more. She’s torn between her love for her stepson and her desire to maintain her independence. As she faces this tough decision, let’s see what the internet has to say about this situation.

Saying no to full-time stepson makes you TA. ESH situation.

Stepmom shouldn’t be expected to raise stepson alone.

Marriage means being a parent. YTA if you say no.

Solo parenting a teen for 2 weeks? NTA, express concerns kindly

Stepmom struggling with full-time stepson and absent husband. NTA.

Stepmom receives harsh YTA judgement for wanting to say no to full-time stepson

Husband should take custody, not expect stepmom to put life on hold.

User suggests husband should be more involved in parenting

Stepmom hesitant to take in stepson without husband’s support. YWNBTA.

Stepmom’s dilemma: Handling full-time stepson without bio parent support.

User thinks stepmom would be TA for not taking care of stepson

Stepmom unfairly expected to be primary caregiver for stepson.

Stepson needs dad, not just stepmom, in his last teen years

Navigating step-parenting can be tough, but supporting your spouse matters

Stepmom’s authority and responsibilities need to be discussed.

Step-parents shouldn’t be expected to be primary caregivers. NTA

Stepmom has veto power on being primary caregiver. NTA.

Stepmom not responsible for full-time stepson. NTA

Fair share of parenting or NTA? Single parenthood realities.

Husband needs to step up and share responsibility

NTA. A helpful and empathetic response with practical solutions

Stepmom not obligated to parent stepson full-time.

Stepmom stands her ground on stepson’s living arrangements. NTA

Stepmom not obligated to be a single parent again. NTA

Stepmom left to raise stepson alone, NTA for saying no

Stepmom not the a**hole for not wanting full-time stepson

Stepmom not okay with being primary parent for stepson. NTA.

Gender bias in YTA judgments discussed in comment section

Stepmom not responsible for full-time stepson. Husband needs to step up.

Stepmom’s dilemma: YWNBTA for saying no to stepson’s care ‍

Stepmom feels conflicted about being full-time caregiver for stepson. NTA.

Stepmom not responsible for stepson’s full-time care. NTA

Not enough info to judge, but valid questions raised.

Compromise may be key in stepmom’s dilemma

Stepmom not obligated to parent stepson full-time. NTA

Stepmom’s dilemma: balancing responsibility and fairness for stepson.

Balancing freedom and step-parenting responsibilities. YTA if you say no.

Building a respectful relationship with stepson through communication

Stepmom feels overwhelmed taking care of stepson. NTA, husband’s responsibility.

A practical solution for stepmom’s dilemma

Balancing work and family authority in stepfamily dynamics.

Stepmom in a tough spot, but maybe NAH? Communication needed.

Have an open discussion before making a decision. YWBTA

Stepson’s behavior is threatening, NTA for setting boundaries.

Stepmom faces backlash for not wanting to care for stepson.

Stepmom struggles with stepson’s living situation, seeks advice.

Stepmom navigates stepson’s stay. Communication and balance is key.

Stepmom considers allowing stepson to raise son at home. NTA.

Support husband’s work/life balance, but don’t overextend yourself.

Is OP being asked to be a single parent?

Stepmom faces criticism for prioritizing her space over stepson’s well-being

Stepmom’s dilemma: balancing responsibilities with husband’s work schedule.

Single parent agrees with stepmom’s decision to not babysit full-time.

Stepmom not obligated to be full-time chauffeur.

Stepping in as a full-time stepmom? NTA. Set boundaries.

Stepmom called out for neglecting 16-year-old stepson.

Don’t let ‘me time’ come before your stepson’s safety.

Defending OP, pointing out double standards & husband’s responsibility.

Stepmom receives harsh judgement from commenter.

Find solutions to make space for stepson, set boundaries.

Stepmom criticized for not wanting stepson to move in

Compassionate comment suggests solutions for stepson’s move-in.

Stepmom criticized for not considering stepson’s situation. Husband also blamed.

Stepmom’s decision to say no to stepson could ruin relationship

Stepmom’s dilemma: Is she NTA for not wanting full-time stepson?

Sharing parenting responsibilities can strengthen family bonds ‍ ‍

Married into step-parenting, not full-time caregiving. NTA

Stepmom not in the wrong for not wanting full-time stepson

Stepmom not obligated to be full-time parent. Husband should step up.

Stepmom not wrong for not wanting to be primary caregiver

Stepmom feels forced into being a single mother. NTA

Agreement on single parenting with little authority

Stepmom not obligated to be full-time parent. NTA

Stepmom’s dilemma: stepson needs a safe place, not solo parenting. NTA

Stepmom’s valid concerns about full-time stepson.

Stepmom not responsible for full-time stepson, NTA

Stepson wants to live with dad, but dad’s not there. NTA

Father needs to step up and have a conversation

Stepmom not the a**hole for not wanting to be single parent

Stepmom refuses to raise someone else’s teenager. #NTA

Stepmom’s authority questioned while husband is away. NTA.

Stepparents told to know their place until it’s convenient?

Stepmom faces tough decision on stepson. YTA if you decline

Compromise suggested for stepmom’s dilemma.