When a stepmother asks her stepdaughter to add her name along with her biological mother’s name, the stepdaughter refuses. She has been saying no for years, but the stepmother still keeps bringing it up. Finally, the stepdaughter loses her patience and tells the stepmother that she is not her mom and she will never add her name. The stepmother is hurt and upset. But is the stepdaughter an a**hole for refusing? Read on to find out.
Honoring my late mother’s name, sorry stepmom ♀️

Stepmom’s overbearing nature causes tension, AITA for refusing?

Stepmom resents my mom’s memory, AITA for not adding name?

Childhood request for second middle name causes tension, AITA?

Stepmom insists on adding name to mine, but I refuse

Stepmom demands name change, I refuse. AITA?

Stepmom won’t take no for an answer on name change

Stepmom demands name change, backlash ensues

Dad gets pissed at stepmom after OP’s reveal about name change

Stepmom wants to add her name to mine, but I said no ♀️
A woman posted on AITA subreddit asking if she was the asshole for refusing to add her stepmother’s name to hers. Her father gave her mother’s name as her middle name and her mother’s chosen name as her first name after her mother died during childbirth. Her stepmother, Norah, has been insisting for years that she should add her name as a second middle name. The woman refused and told her stepmother that she is not her mother and that her jealousy is the reason she never bonded with her. The stepmother has been upset since the conversation and the woman wanted to know if she was in the wrong. The post has garnered a lot of reactions from people who are divided on who was wrong in this situation. Some think the woman was justified in her decision, while others think she could have been more sensitive to her stepmother’s feelings. Read on for some of the comments and reactions to the post.
NTA for saying no to stepmom’s demand, tell your dad.

Stepmom’s jealousy over deceased mom caused bonding issues, NTA

Don’t let her emotional blackmail get to you!

Stepmom’s obsession with OP’s name, NTA for refusing request

Stepmom gives both sisters her name as middle name, wants third. NTA.

Respect boundaries , tell dad , NTA

A heartwarming tribute to a mother’s memory ❤

Sometimes being harsh is necessary to get the message across ️

Stepmom’s possessive behavior over name change, NTA for refusing ♀️

Stand your ground and keep your name!
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Family middle name drama, NTA for saying no

Stepmom wants to add her name to mine, NTA for saying no ♀️

Stand your ground , and let your dad handle it

Stepmom’s request denied, NTA for setting boundaries

Set boundaries and stand your ground.

Harsh truth or tough love? NTA for being honest.

Growing up and standing up, NTA at 17

Setting boundaries with stepmom, NTA for saying no

Don’t force love, NTA for saying no. Tell your dad.

Stepmom crosses boundaries, NTA for saying no

Stepmom tries to replace deceased mom, NTA for saying no

Stepmom disregarded love for late mother, NTA for refusing.

Sassy response shuts down entitled stepmom, NTA wins!
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Respecting boundaries is key, NTA for standing your ground

Standing up to pushy stepparent, NTA ♂️

Setting boundaries with stepmom who wants to be called mother.

Standing up for yourself, NTA!

Commenter shuts down unnecessary suggestion with Mean Girls reference

Using her own name for half-siblings middle names is weird

Stepmom’s unreasonable request and behavior, NTA for refusing

Stepmom’s jealousy and badgering make her TA, not you

Stand your ground! Naming is personal, not weird. NTA.

Standing up to a jealous stepmom, good job

Stepmom’s unresolved issues: bio kids share her name. NTA.

Standing up for yourself, NTA gets validation

Stepmom’s name obsession is not your problem, NTA
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Stepmom’s request denied, hint ignored for 7 years. NTA

Commenter calls stepmom hypocrite for wanting name change

Standing up for yourself against a stubborn stepmom NTA

No name changes required!

Stepmom wants to add her name, but NTA says no

Stand your ground and let dad handle the drama

Stepmom shows no consideration for OP’s feelings, NTA.

Stand your ground! You’re NTA for honoring your mother

Stepmom wants to tie us together, but I’m not luggage NTA
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Respectful dad and stepmom understand preserving mother’s memory.

Norah’s disrespectful behavior towards OP’s mother, NTA

Boundaries are important in blended families.

Stepmom’s insecurity shines through, NTA for saying no

Empathy wins! NTA for refusing stepmom’s unreasonable demand.

Stepmom’s name request crosses a boundary, NTA for refusing

Stepmom’s request for name change deemed narcissistic and disrespectful. NTA
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Stepmom’s insecurities causing tension in family dynamics, NTA for setting boundaries

Stepparent drama? No problem, NTA prevails!

Stepmom overstepping boundaries by trying to erase mother, NTA response

Stepmom insists on changing name, OP stands firm. NTA

Stepmom ruined relationship, NTA for saying no to name change

NTA. Short and sweet, you’re not the a-hole.

Stepmom crosses a line by asking to add name, NTA

Stepmom wants to add name, but NTA for saying no

Stepmom gave daughters same middle name? NTA. Share with dad.

NTA! Tell her to get her own name

Stepmom’s relentless demand for name addition, NTA for denying

Wow! Find out why the commenter is not the a**hole.

Honesty is the best policy, even with family.

Stepmom tries to brand her territory through your name, NTA.

Stepmom demands name change, OP stands up for self. NTA

Stepmom wants to change my name, I said no. NTA!!

Saying no to pushy stepparents ♂️
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Stepmom crosses a boundary, commenter advises telling dad.
