Imagine growing up with an older brother who despised you from the moment you were born. For one woman, this was her reality. Her brother, Lance, made her life a living hell, and their parents struggled to put an end to his abusive behavior. After years of torment, the sister finally found peace when Lance moved out. But when tragedy struck and he lost his life, she faced a difficult decision: should she attend her abuser’s funeral?
A Lifetime of Torment

Parents Struggle to Intervene

The Tornado Incident ️

Lance Moves Out

Rare Encounters

Tragic News

A Difficult Decision ⚰️

Parents Beg for Attendance

Standing Her Ground ✊

Parents’ Fury

Boyfriend’s Support ❤️

Update: Clearing Things Up

Making Amends with Parents

Meeting Her Nephews

Family Divided Over Funeral Decision
Despite the backlash from her family, this brave woman stood her ground and refused to attend her abusive brother’s funeral. Her parents eventually came around, apologized, and made amends. Now, she’s finally getting the chance to meet her nephews. But, the question remains: Did she make the right choice by skipping the funeral? Let’s see what people have to say about this heart-wrenching situation…
Skipping abusive brother’s funeral – NTA, but strained family relationships

Skipping abuser’s funeral, OP is NTA but parents are.

NTA for skipping abusive brother’s funeral, family ignored abuse.

NTA for not attending abusive brother’s funeral.

Skipping the funeral of an abusive brother – NTA

Commenter finds closure at abusive cousin’s funeral

Family cuts out abused sister for not attending abusive brother’s funeral

Skipping an abuser’s funeral is okay. NTA

NTA. Funerals should be for those who actually loved the deceased

Commenter judges abuser and enablers, uses NTA and AHs

Skipping abusive brother’s funeral: NTA, but consider parents’ feelings

NTA commenter refuses to attend abusive brother’s funeral.

NTA. Commenter highlights parents’ role in creating abusive brother.

Commenter supports OP’s decision to skip abusive brother’s funeral.

NTA. OP stands up to abusive brother and parents, prioritizes mental health

Respecting the deceased’s wishes

Skipping abusive brother’s funeral: NTA, no need to pretend.

Support for skipping abusive brother’s funeral. NTA

NTA commenter criticizes parents for cutting contact with second child.

Victim receives support for skipping abuser’s funeral.

Skipping brother’s funeral after years of abuse – NTA explained

Curious about the effectiveness of intervention in abusive behavior

Debate over attending abusive brother’s funeral sparks conflict ♀️

Setting boundaries after abusive brother’s death. NTA

Redditor’s wise words: ‘A dead AH is still an AH’

Survivor refuses to attend abuser’s funeral, not the a**hole.

Toxic parents threatening to disown their abused child? NC ASAP!

Parents downplayed abuse as sibling rivalry. Not the a**hole (NTA).

Sibling reconciles with parents after skipping abusive brother’s funeral

Victim-blaming? Not cool. This commenter gets it

Survivor stands up to abusive brother, internet approves

NTA. Your parents chose your abusive brother over you.

NTA: The brother’s final act of bullying was to stand up for yourself. Remember this moment when your parents come crawling back

Standing up to abuse takes strength, not pride. NTA.

Growing up in tornado territory can be terrifying. NTA OP

Funerals are for the living, and in this case, it’s necessary. #NTA

Commenter agrees with NTA verdict, CPS should have intervened

Family loyalty shouldn’t excuse abuse. NTA

Victim of sibling abuse finds support in comment section
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Resentment lingers even after death

Funerals are for the living. NTA for not attending.

Heartbreaking NTA comment on losing a sibling to abuse.

Skipping the funeral was justified. NTA. But funerals aren’t places to speak ill of the dead.

Skipping abusive brother’s funeral, NTA. Parents chose abuser over you

Don’t be pressured to be the ‘bigger person’ forever

Sister refuses to attend abusive brother’s funeral

Skipping the funeral was the right decision. NTA

Skipping abusive brother’s funeral, NTA. Family needs counselling.

No regrets: commenter supports sister’s decision not to attend funeral

Victim and supporters wear red to abusive relative’s funeral

Brother locked sister out during tornado warning, NTA for skipping funeral

Debate on whether sister should have attended abusive brother’s funeral

Parents should prioritize mental health, not just their own grief.

Standing your ground and prioritizing your own healing

Skipping abusive brother’s funeral: NTA and absolutely correct
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Standing up to abuse, even from family, is important. #NTA

NTA, abusive brother put on pedestal, parents abandoned only remaining child

Sibling abuse and neglect, justified no-show at funeral. NTA

Internet stranger says karma is a b***h to abusive brother. NTA
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