A woman shares a heartbreaking story of how her wedding was taken over by her husband’s sick grandmother. She was forced to give up her dream wedding and had to settle for something she didn’t want. Her husband later noticed that she was excited about planning her cousin’s wedding and joked about the lack of enthusiasm she had shown for their wedding. This led to a fight, and she finally confessed that she was not happy on their wedding day. Read on to find out if she was an AH.
Keeping a secret from my husband about our wedding
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Bride keeps wedding dissatisfaction a secret. AITA for doing this?
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A bittersweet wedding for a dying grandmother. ❤️
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Bridezilla takes over wedding planning, husband left in the dark
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Bride struggles to please dying MIL while keeping her own sanity
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Bride’s heartbreaking story of sacrificing her dream wedding
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Bride regrets wedding, but kept it hidden from husband. AITA?
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Bride hates her own wedding, but MOHs for others. AITA?
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Bride regrets wedding, kept it a secret from husband.
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Hiding wedding regrets from hubby. Is she an a**hole?
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Confessed hating wedding to husband, now receiving silent treatment. AITA?
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OP receives support and clears up misconceptions in edit.
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Bride hates wedding but didn’t tell husband. AITA?
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A diligent wedding planner learns from her own miserable experience.
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She hated her wedding, but kept it a secret from her husband
A woman shares her story about how her wedding day wasn’t the dreamy affair she always imagined it to be. Her husband’s grandmother, who was diagnosed with cancer, became the center of attention and controlled everything from the venue to the dress. The bride-to-be was called a bridezilla and was made to feel guilty for not honoring the dying woman’s request. She had to go through with a wedding that wasn’t hers and had to keep it a secret from her husband for years. Now, things are out in the open and the husband is hurt. Read on to find out who is the A**hole in this situation, and what the commenters have to say.
Wedding planning without bride’s input leads to unhappy memories. NTA
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Bride sacrificed her dream wedding for her husband’s family- NTA ❤️
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NTA- Husband’s family hijacked wedding, he enabled it, now angry.
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Plan a vow renewal for your dream wedding. NTA.
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A rare misstep in an otherwise loving relationship. ❤️
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Wedding planning pressures and family dynamics.
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Plan your dream wedding for your vow renewal! ❤️
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Bride regrets not standing up for herself against family’s controlling behavior
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Husband’s hurt silence may be processing, not punishment.
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Wedding was hijacked by MIL. NTA. Guilted, not gaslit.
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NTA. Honest communication is key in any relationship
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Did her husband invalidate her feelings about their wedding?
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Grandma’s manipulative behavior at the wedding raises family dynamic concerns.
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Husband sulks after wife reveals she hated their wedding.
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Engage in a productive conversation with your husband.
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Grandma’s outburst causes family drama. NTA but Yikes!
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Communicate your feelings with , and if he can’t accept it,
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Commenter blames husband for wedding disaster and gives ultimatum.
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Huge wedding sacrifice for husband’s family, but he’s insensitive. NTA
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Bride feels not at fault, but is the groom reflecting?
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NTA, but silent treatment is not a solution
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Grandma’s dying doesn’t make her the bride. ♀️
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Clueless ex and controlling mothers ruined wedding plans.
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Don’t fake happiness on your wedding day. NTA ❤
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Bride suffers in silence for years after sacrificing her dream wedding, husband now feeling guilty. NTA ♀️
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Wedding regrets are valid. Your partner should listen and understand ❤️
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Commenter sympathizes with bride, suggests counseling.
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OP’s husband let his family abuse her during their wedding
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A grandmother hijacks a wedding and gets remembered as a manipulative tyrant
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Wedding day hijacked by husband’s family. NTA for resentment.
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Hiding wedding disappointment for years. Time for honesty. NTA
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Creative way to say ‘not your fault’
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Bride sacrifices dream wedding for husband’s grandma’s last happy memory ❤️
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Giving up her wedding was NTA, but husband’s reaction was.
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Is marriage not for you? Read this thread on why.
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Grandma’s dying wish ruins wedding, husband doesn’t defend. NTA.
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Spouse hated wedding but kept it secret. Marriage deal breaker?
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Stand up for yourself! NTA
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Bride sacrifices dream wedding for husband’s family. NTA, but husband is.
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A supportive comment about a disappointing wedding and insensitive partner
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Time to spill the tea ☕️ – NTA bride finally tells husband the truth about their wedding
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Plan the perfect vow renewal ceremony with or without him!
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She deserved better Stand up for yourself #NTA
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NTA for keeping your disappointment a secret. Husband owes you.
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Honesty is key. Renew your vows and make it perfect ❤️
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Bride’s MOH took over the wedding, but she stood up. NTA ✌️
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Speak up about your wedding or forever hold your peace.
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Wedding regret kept secret from spouse, NTA ❤️
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Renew your vows, make it about you!
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Bride secretly hated wedding planned by husband’s grandmother. NTA or ESH?
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Last Updated on April 11, 2023 by Azka