SAHM Wants to Attend Brother’s Child-Free Wedding, But Husband Refuses to Leave Kids With a Babysitter

A stay-at-home mom posted on r/amithea**hole seeking advice on whether she’s being selfish for wanting to attend her brother’s child-free wedding while her husband stays home with their kids. The husband has reservations about babysitters due to a past incident and is against leaving their 2-year-old with one.

The woman suggests getting a trusted friend as a babysitter, but the husband asks her to stay home with the kids while he attends the wedding. The woman refuses and insists on her right to attend the wedding since they both were invited.

The husband accuses her of being petty and choosing to go and party over keeping their kids safe. Who’s in the wrong here? Click to read more.

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A stay-at-home mom wants to attend her brother’s child-free wedding but her husband is against leaving their 2-year-old with a babysitter due to a traumatic incident in the past. The couple received an invitation for a 4-day trip including a child-free wedding and in-laws’ dinner party.

The husband suggests staying home with the kids while the wife attends the wedding, but she refuses and believes they both have the right to attend. The husband calls her selfish and unreasonable for wanting to attend the wedding and not putting their children’s safety first. The wife argues that trusted babysitters are necessary at times and that she wants to attend her brother’s special day after not attending any events for 4 years.

The husband accuses her of being spiteful and putting her attendance as the hill to die on, and threatens to let her ruin his relationship with his best friend. Who is in the right in this situation ?

Let’s see what the comments have to say.

Husband’s entitlement and hypocrisy is astounding. NTA, seek help.

NTA. Husband’s unreasonable paranoia is holding OP hostage to nonsense.

Husband refuses babysitter, but expects OP to miss brother’s wedding. NTA.

Husband’s behavior may be a sign of abuse. NTA.

Husband refuses to let wife attend brother’s wedding, calls her selfish. WTF.

Husband refuses to leave kids with babysitter for brother’s wedding

Supportive comment and reply call out husband’s behavior as extreme

Husband’s fear of leaving kids with a babysitter is about control. NTA

Stand up to controlling partner, seek therapy or divorce lawyer

Stand your ground! It’s your brother’s child-free wedding ‍♀️

Husband’s controlling behavior ruins brother’s wedding for OP ‍♀️

Parenting without any support? That’s not healthy

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Husband refuses to leave kids, needs therapy. #ParentingNotBabysitting

NTA. Husband refusing to attend brother’s wedding is bizarre and a-hole logic

Putting a friend’s wedding over family? NTA stands their ground.

Standing up for yourself and your spouse’s parenting is key

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Commenter calls out husband’s behavior in child-free wedding dispute

Does ‘helping’ with the kids mean just watching TV?

Brother trumps best friend. Sister NTA, husband TA ‍♂️

Spouse’s fear from past is unfair to you and brother

Stand up for yourself and attend the wedding.

Divorce him ! Record his words and hire a sitter ‍

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Husband’s trust issues could ruin sister-in-law’s special day

Husband won’t babysit, leaving mom to miss brother’s wedding. NTA ‍♀️

Husband called selfish for refusing to leave kids at wedding

Mom refuses to leave kids at child-free wedding. Hill to die on.

Brother trumps friend. NTA. Don’t put up with controlling AH

Celebrate with your brother! Hubby can handle the kids

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Go solo and enjoy the kid-free wedding, NTA!

Support for NTA commentator dealing with husband’s control issues.

Husband refuses to let wife attend brother’s wedding, NTA.

Husband won’t compromise on child-free wedding attendance

Supportive comment validates OP’s feelings and offers helpful advice ❤️

Confused commenter calls out husband’s double standards. NTA.

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Husband won’t allow babysitters for brother’s wedding, calls wife selfish.

Stand your ground! ‍♀️ Don’t let husband guilt-trip you.

Brother trumps best friend. Husband needs to take over with kids.

Family first! Stay with the kids and skip the wedding

Stand up for yourself, NTA!

Husband won’t leave kids with babysitter for brother’s child-free wedding. NTA suggests he ‘suffer the consequences’ and find a solution.

Mom called NTA, husband accused of being controlling and selfish

Suggestions for attending child-free wedding with kids

Don’t let your husband ruin your brother’s wedding day Ask for a sitter and enjoy the celebration!

Missing brother’s wedding for kids? NTA, husband should stay home.

Three options: Attend together, neither attend or you attend solo.

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Husband’s fear of babysitters shouldn’t ruin family’s important events.