I’ve got to tell you guys, some things in life make me nervous . For example, a job interview . I’ve always dreaded those. But there is one thing I’ve never looked forward to, and that’s the first date . Oh, yeah! Is it just me, or do you find that stressful AF?
Somebody on Reddit recently asked, “What first date behavior is a dealbreaker?” And I, for one, am so curious to find out other people’s answers to that, haha. Let’s find out.
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This Narcissist Move
“Having it be only about them irks me. They’ll answer your questions with long stories about themselves and rarely ask anything in return. If they do, you’ll get about one sentence in and they’ll interrupt you with another one of their stories. They somehow always feel like the date went great and they had a great time, and are surprised you are not equally as excited.”
Yep, I agree with that wholeheartedly.
This Cringe-Worthy Behavior
“Also, this might be an unpopular opinion, but I hate overly-sappy romantic gestures. Like INSISTING on holding your hands over the table whilst looking into your eyes for extended periods of time. When you try and get your hands back, talk about something else or break eye contact they get offended and just TRY AGAIN GRABBING AT YOUR HANDS AND PULLING YOU BACK. As if he’s trying to hypnotize you and you’re not cooperating.”
OMG, I’ve had this happen to me too, and I was like, “Nope, too fast.”
Pulling Out The ‘I Love You’ Card Too Fast
“Had a girl tell me she thought she loved me about halfway through our first date once. I brushed it off as flirty banter then toward the end of our meal she says ‘You know how I know you love me? You didn’t say that you didn’t love me when I said I loved you.’”
Speaking of moving too fast, what do you think of that? Run, ha, ha!
This Important Information
“Finding out that your date is on probation… for domestic violence against the girl they dated before you.”
Oh, oh! Say it isn’t so. I would just make an excuse that I had to go and never answer this person’s call. Is that bad? I guess that’s called “ghosting,” right?
This Red Flag
“They won’t stop talking about their ex.”
If this doesn’t show you that they aren’t over their ex, I don’t know what will. So, my advice is to stay away from this person. Chances are, they will be back with their ex the next day.
This Tardy Behavior
“Showing up late and not texting ahead of time. You’re not ‘playing it cool’ if you’re 20 minutes late without saying anything.”
Oh, no! That won’t fly in my book at all. Time to move on.
This Dumb Move
“Forgetting to take off your wedding ring.”
OMG, is that right? I can’t believe it’s happened to people before — wow! Thankfully, I’ve never been on a date with somebody who’s already married. No, thank you.
This Sad Situation
“Taking me to a multi-level marketing seminar (actually happened).”
Ah, ha, ha, ha! They must be really desperate to make a sale to meet their quota that they would bring a first date to an event like that. That’s quite sad, and honestly, I wasn’t expecting that.
This Odd Behavior
“I didn’t know this until recently. Picking wax out of your ears and sprinkling it around. Don’t. Just don’t, ok?”
Um, okay? That’s happened to somebody? And I thought things couldn’t get any worse for these people on first dates. I guess I was wrong.
This Dirty Appearance
“Smelly, greasy hair, and no effort in appearance. If the first date isn’t important enough for you to even shower, then how important will the relationship be to you.”
Wow, just wow! And here I spend like an hour just trying to pick out a perfect outfit, not to mention all the time to shower, get dressed, and put makeup on. Is that too much?
This Early Proclamation
“Starting the date by saying that you’ve cleared your entire weekend, just in case this date works out and I’m free. No pressure.”
Oh my goodness, be afraid, be very afraid. But seriously, who says things like that right off the bat and on a first date?
This Q & A Session
“Making me do all the work, conversation-wise. I don’t mind being the lead driver but you need to at least pull your own weight. I’ve been on some dates that felt more like interviews. I would try everything I could to get an actual conversation going but they ended up as Q and A sessions.”
Yeah, that doesn’t sound like fun.
This Sudden Change Of Plans
“When we plan an actual date where we meet up somewhere, and at the last minute they bail. But, wait… they’re still free. All you have to do is go to their house.”
I’m definitely not up for that.
This Real Gentleman
“I went on a date once with a guy who seemed lovely. Funny, interesting, and charming. We had dinner and ordered a bottle of wine. About 45mins in I went to pour my second small glass of the evening. He picked up my glass, downed it in one, and said, ‘One glass is enough for a woman. I need you sober for what I’m going to do to you later.’ There was not a second date.”
I honestly have no words. Oh, how could this lady have been so wrong about this man?
This Problem Solver
“Once I told a guy he had something in his teeth and he…..flossed with his long hair.”
Well, you have to give it to this guy. At least he can think fast on his feet, haha. But still, he could have excused himself to go to the restroom to take care of it, no?
This Jerk Move
“Too handsy right out the gate. You’re still basically a stranger, I need to get to know you first.”
Yeah, don’t even get me started on that. I once was on a first date with a guy, and he kept grabbing my legs while he was driving the car. Needless to say, that date didn’t go anywhere. Too soon, buddy, too soon.
This Letdown
“Showing up absolutely hammered and passing out within an hour.”
Holy moly! What a letdown that date must’ve been, huh? The guy didn’t even make it to one hour. I guess somebody started parting a little too soon. Am I right?
This Classy Move
“If he comes to pick you up and pees in your driveway before y’all leave.”
OMG, what? I’m rolling on the floor laughing at that. But seriously, if it were me, I would be like, “Did you just pee on my lawn?” and then go back into the house. That’s gross and ridiculous. If he needed to pee so bad, he could have asked to come to use the loo or take care of his business before picking me up. Come on!
Wowza! I admit I wasn’t expecting that.
How about you? Are these the worst first date experiences or what? Have you ever had a date that didn’t go as planned? What did you do? Did you end up ditching the person, or did you actually stick it out? I’d love to find out.
