Buckle up, folks! We’ve got a family drama that’s sure to tug at your heartstrings and make you question everything you thought you knew about parenting priorities! Meet our protagonist, a 27-year-old woman caught in the middle of a sibling rivalry that’s been brewing for years. With an autistic brother who’s been the center of attention since his diagnosis, our heroine and her sister have felt like second thoughts for far too long. But now, with twins of her own, she’s facing a new dilemma: can she trust her parents to give her little ones the attention they deserve? Get ready for a rollercoaster ride of emotions, accusations, and tough decisions!
Meet the Family: A Tale of Priorities and Resentment

Everything Changed: Parents’ Priorities Shift Dramatically

Waking Up to a New Reality: Feeling Like Second Thoughts

Special Occasions Turned Sour: Nanny Takes Over

Resentment Grows: From Brother to Parents

College Escape: Leaving Home and Feeling Second Best ♀️

Who Misses Feeling Like a Second Thought? Not Us! ♀️

Summer Adventures: Sister Bonding and New Love

Trio of Besties: Sister, Husband, and Me

Marriage and Twins: Life’s Big Changes

✈️ Vacations Adjusted: Making Room for the Little Ones

Moving Back Home: Sister Joins the Journey

In-Laws to the Rescue: Amazing Grandparents Step In

Parents’ Realization: Wanting Time with the Twins ⏰

The Awkward Request: Parents Want Their Turn

Honesty is the Best Policy: Explaining My Fears

Attention Dilemma: Balancing the Twins and My Brother ♀️

Accusations Fly: Hating My Brother and Punishing My Parents ️

United Front: Sister and Husband Agree

Family Feud: Parents Demand Bonding Time, But Can They Balance Attention?
Well, well, well… looks like our protagonist is in quite the pickle! Her parents are demanding some quality time with their granddaughters, but she’s not so sure they can handle the responsibility. After years of feeling like second thoughts, she’s hesitant to leave her precious twins in their care for a whopping three weeks! Her fears? That her autistic brother will steal the spotlight, leaving the little ones feeling neglected. Accusations are flying, with her parents claiming she hates her brother and is punishing them for their past parenting choices. But our heroine is standing her ground, with her sister and husband backing her up. The internet has spoken, and the verdict is in… ️ Let’s see what the masses have to say about this family feud!
Putting her children first, despite parental objections. NTA

Supportive comment acknowledges OP’s valid reasons for not letting parents babysit.
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Choosing to not let neglectful parents babysit. NTA.

NTA. Respect her decision, but her parents failed both siblings.
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Polite and logical response to neglectful parenting. NTA

Don’t let guilt-tripping stop you from protecting your children.

Understanding NTA’s perspective on neglect and offering a solution

Feeling neglected by parents, now won’t let them babysit. #NTA

NTA. The parents failed to make a case for themselves

Survivor of neglect as sibling with autism praises OP’s decision

Respectful parent sets boundaries, receives support and validation
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Parenting a special needs child is a family responsibility

Despite past neglect, parents may not neglect grandkids. NAH.

Having twins in the house would disrupt the routine for brother. NTA

Putting her daughters first, not letting past affect future.

Prioritizing autistic brother over sister, NTA for not trusting parents

Sister understands neglect, won’t let it happen to niece/nephew

A neglected child now prioritizes her children over her parents’ feelings.

NTA, understandable that she doesn’t want them to babysit
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Standing up for her kids after being neglected as a sibling

Sibling neglected by parents for autistic brother won’t let them babysit.

Sibling bond triumphs over negligent parenting. NTA

NTA strikes hard with a hint of satisfaction.

Choosing to protect her own children doesn’t make her selfish.

Neglected sibling refuses to let parents babysit. NTA.

Choosing not to let neglectful parents babysit. NTA.

Prioritizing children’s needs and valid concerns over guilt-tripping tactics.

Protecting her kids from neglectful grandparents. NTA

Grandparents babysitting for three weeks: too long or reasonable request?

A heartfelt story of sibling love and understanding ❤️

Prioritizing kids’ safety over hurt feelings. NTA wins.

Book recommendation for OP to deal with childhood trauma.

Curious about brother’s autism severity and ability to function.

Protecting her children comes first. NTA for not trusting parents.

Sibling neglected for autistic brother, now won’t let parents babysit!

Trust is earned, not given. NTA for protecting your kids

Compassionate comment acknowledges difficult family situation.
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Sisterly bond prevails despite parents’ unfair treatment. NTA

Parent of autistic child calls out neglectful parents. NTA

Valid concerns about parents’ ability to care for grandkids

Neglected by parents, now protecting her own children. #NTA

Setting boundaries with family when caring for disabled siblings.

A concerned comment urges parent to prioritize children’s safety.

Stand your ground, NTA. Your kids, your choice

Understanding comment suggests communication with parents for mutual decision.

NTA stands up for herself and values in-laws’ help

Putting her children first, OP is NTA for not allowing neglectful parents to babysit
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Curious about brother’s future care, NTA OP faces similar situation.

Protecting her kids from neglectful parents, NTA with sound advice

Setting boundaries with family is important for mental health.

Broken bond: Neglected daughter refuses to let parents babysit. NTA
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Sibling speaks up about parental neglect and lack of trust.

Parents neglected her for autistic brother, won’t let them babysit. NTA

Neglected daughter won’t let parents babysit her kids. NTA.

Polite NTA explains valid concern for parents’ past neglect, stands ground.

Validating NTA’s concern about neglect, offering advice and empathy.

Curious commenter questions OP’s sudden demand for ‘granny privileges’

Putting her kids first: Woman stands up to neglectful parents

Putting her kids’ safety first, NTA refuses MIL/FIL babysitting.

Putting kids’ safety first, OP stands up to neglectful parents. #NTA

NTA. In-laws great with kids. Parents need to step up.

NTA, setting boundaries with entitled grandparents. You go mama!

Parents neglected daughter for autistic brother, NTA for not trusting them

Parenting solidarity! NTA, spirited kids are not for everyone.

Parents neglect twins for autistic brother, NTA won’t let babysit

Putting her kids first, not letting parents off the hook

Resentment towards brother & parents apparent, NTA but

Trust your instincts, NTA. Prioritize your children’s safety

Understanding the nuances of autism is crucial in this situation.
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Caring sister protects autistic brother and her own children. NTA
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Sibling with autistic brother won’t let neglectful parents babysit. NTA

Prioritizing kids over neglectful family. NTA

Mother prioritizes her own children after parents’ neglect. NTA

Childhood neglect due to sibling’s condition, leading to resentment. NTA.

Sister and husband are your rock, don’t let them guilt trip you!
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User sympathizes with OP’s decision not to let neglectful parents babysit.

Neglected daughter stands up to parents’ negligence, won’t babysit.

Parent shares experience with autistic son, supports original poster’s decision.

Valid concerns about neglectful parents and disconnect from family

Validating OP’s feelings and advocating for proper disability support.

Parents neglected daughter for autistic brother, she won’t risk it.

Empathetic NTA recognizes parents’ skewed treatment of autistic brother.

Childhood experience makes NTA wary of mom babysitting her kids

NTA. Important advice for handling autistic sibling’s care in future.

NTA and fellow sibling-to-someone-with-autism empathizing with OP’s decision.

Parent of typical and autistic kids supports OP’s decision. NTA

Childhood neglect leads to distrust. NTA for not risking it.

Being cautious with family members as childcare providers.
