The oldest sibling is feeling fed up with their parents constantly breaking promises and taking money from them. When asked to pay for their youngest brother’s birthday party , the sibling refuses, feeling like they’re always being taken advantage of. The parents insist they’ll pay the sibling back, but the sibling doesn’t believe them. The younger siblings don’t seem to understand the situation, adding to the oldest sibling’s frustration. Is the oldest sibling the a**hole for refusing to pay for the party? Read on to find out.
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Growing up with financially irresponsible parents can be tough, especially when it comes to missed birthdays and broken promises. For one oldest sibling, years of unfulfilled promises and financial exploitation have left them unwilling to foot the bill for their youngest brother’s upcoming birthday party. Despite having the money to lend, the sibling is tired of being taken advantage of and not having their own past missed birthdays and cancelled plans made up for. Although their parents promise to pay them back, the sibling’s past experiences have left them skeptical. Meanwhile, their younger siblings seem ungrateful and entitled, leaving the oldest sibling feeling unappreciated and undervalued. Do you think the older sibling is justified in saying no to lending the money? Share your thoughts in the comments below.
Encouraging advice for a young person dealing with financial abuse.

NTA. $400 is excessive for a birthday party. Your parents are irresponsible.
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Protect your savings and prioritize yourself first.

Younger sibling works hard despite parents’ neglect.

Toxic family dynamics and entitlement. NTA. ✨

Seeking support to handle family conflicts.

Don’t let your parents steal your hard-earned money. #StayStrong
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Secure your savings, NTA comment suggests self-care

Standing up against abusive parents and entitled siblings.

Resourceful teenager saves $5k, sparks curiosity and admiration.
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Family planning is crucial. Saving for priorities is better.

NTA for wanting to save your own money

Don’t let your parents guilt-trip you into supporting them ♀️

Sibling refuses to pay for brother’s bday, NTA says comment.

Sister questions her place in family after years of neglect.

Stand your ground with a simple ‘NTA. Tell them you are broke’

Don’t let entitled family members take advantage of you.

Secret saving for freedom #NTA

Stand your ground and save your piggy bank
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Family steals from their own child, OP is NTA

Don’t let your parents’ extravagant parties drain your savings

OP refuses to pay for brother’s party, NTA.

Solid advice for a tough situation

Secure your money and demand repayment with confidence

Don’t let your siblings’ financial irresponsibility become your burden

Don’t let your parents take advantage of you. NTA

Breaking the stereotype: Oldest siblings deserve equal treatment too! ♂️

Parents should budget, but is $400 too much for birthday?

Supportive comment shows compassion for neglected sibling ❤️

Protect your money and plan your escape ♀️ ♂️

Questioning the story’s plausibility

Growing up, the idea of birthday extravaganza and expensive gifts = good parenting was perpetuated, which is odd.

Protecting savings from entitled parents with broken promises

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Protect your savings and move out ASAP!

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Savage truth bombs being dropped in this NTA comment

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Taking a stand against parentification and broken promises

Sibling rivalry alert! Is it okay to refuse paying for family birthdays?

Sneaky sibling revenge:
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Take the money and run ♂️ Moving out ASAP sounds like a great plan.

Set boundaries early to avoid being taken advantage of

Protect your hard-earned money NTA for setting boundaries.

Don’t be a parent to your siblings! Seek support

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Take control of your own happiness.

Sibling stands up to broken promises and receives support ❤️

Growing up as the oldest sibling can be tough

Don’t let your parents’ lack of planning become your burden

Suggest forgiving $400 as a test of their intentions

Resourceful kid saves birthday money, asks for gifts in cash

Setting boundaries with family is okay.

Supportive comment section. Encourages OP to save and leave toxic family.

Sibling prioritizes their own child over others, commenter supports OP. NAH

Encouraging words for a struggling sibling, keep saving and stay positive!

Being held to adult standards as a child NTA

Sibling refusing to pay for brother’s birthday sparks debate

Setting boundaries with family. Supportive Reddit community <3
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Last Updated on March 23, 2023 by Azka