Imagine this: you’re visiting your parents for Christmas with your newlywed spouse, and your younger brother brings up the idea of living with you while he attends college in your city. You laugh, thinking he’s joking, but it turns out he’s dead serious. Now, he’s mad, and you’re left wondering if you’re in the wrong for not wanting a roommate during your first year of marriage. Let’s dive into this family drama and see if we can figure out who’s in the right here. ️♀️
Christmas Visit & College Talk

Dinner Conversation ️

Scholarship Talk

Bursting into Laughter

The Misunderstanding

No Roommates Policy

Brother Gets Mad

Apologies & Lingering Tension

Laughter Turns Sour: College Plans & Family Drama
So, our protagonist is visiting his parents for Christmas with his wife, when his younger brother mentions he’s planning to attend college in their city. At dinner, the brother casually brings up the idea of living with them to save money on room and board. Our protagonist laughs, thinking it’s a joke, but the brother is dead serious. This leads to an argument, with the brother getting upset and accusing him of adding 40k in debt to his college expenses. Our protagonist stands his ground, stating that he and his wife aren’t interested in having roommates during their first year of marriage. Dad chimes in, saying he understands the position but thinks the laughter was a bit harsh. ♂️ Now, let’s see what the internet thinks of this situation… ️
Sibling assumptions? Not today. NTA handled it perfectly.

Sibling assumes they can move in without asking? Justified NTA

Brother assumed he could move in without discussion. NTA

Entitled brother assumes rent-free living arrangements, NTA stands up

Entitled brother gets shut down by newlywed – NTA

Brother assumes he can move in without asking – NTA

Brother assumed he could live with newlyweds for free?

Standing up for yourself and your space is never wrong
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Brother announces he’s moving in without asking – NTA’s reaction

Brother wanted substitute parents, NTA for saying no.

Setting boundaries is important, even with family

NTA comment receives support and questions family’s influence

Brotherly love triumphs! NAH, he’ll understand someday. NTA

Communicating boundaries is key

Brother expected free ride, commenter says NTA

NTA shuts down entitled roommate announcement with a hilarious analogy

Setting boundaries with family without feeling guilty. NTA.

Brother’s rejection not a**hole move, but parents may be shady

Deciding whether to let relatives move in can be difficult

NTA for rejecting brother’s proposal. It sounded like a joke

Brother assumed he could move in, newlywed not the a-hole.

Politely declining brother’s request = NTA. Bitter brother = YTA.

Setting boundaries with family can be hilarious

Brother asks for free rent, newlywed laughs. NTA, don’t apologize.

Dodged a bullet! Entitled brother could bring friends and mess. NTA

Brother assumed he could move in, newlywed’s reaction was harsh. ESH

Newlywed defends decision to not let brother move in.

Setting boundaries is important and you’re NTA for doing so

User supports OP’s decision to refuse brother’s move-in, no drama.

Newlywed prioritizes marriage over sibling’s request

Brother tries to take advantage, newlywed NTA for refusing

Assuming makes an a** out of u and me

User finds the situation hilarious and declares NTA.

Unannounced guests can be frustrating, but living together is worse

Setting boundaries with family: NTA for refusing free room & board

Savage, yet hilarious response to entitled brother.
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Family isn’t a free hotel. NTA for setting boundaries.

Understanding response to brother’s presumptuous request.

Brother assumed without asking to move in. NTA.

Brother assumed free food and utilities, NTA laughed it off

Brother wants to freeload, commenter calls out the audacity.

Laughing at sibling’s request for housing advice

Managing expectations: NTA commenters agree disappointment doesn’t equal AH behavior.

Brother assumes, commenter says NTA and calls him out

Sibling support during college versus newlywed privacy. NTA.

Brother wants free ride, newlywed says no. NTA wins

Curiosity prompts hilarious reply to brother-in-law’s house-hunting progress

Brother assumes he can move in? NTA’s reaction is priceless

Dodged a bullet! Newlywed refuses to let brother move in.

Brother’s entitlement rejected. NTA.

Boundaries set, entitlement exposed

Standing up for your boundaries is not being an a**hole. NTA

Laughing at a entitled brother’s absurd request – NTA
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Learning to stand on your own two feet

Brother’s entitled assumption of living with OP for college. NTA

Setting boundaries is important. NTA for refusing brother’s request.

Setting boundaries with family is important. NTA
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Brother’s entitlement ruins newlyweds’ life NTA
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Sibling asks to move in, OP asks for rent. NTA/NAH.

Newlyweds refused brother’s move-in request, justified with experience.

Family drama averted with necessary reality check

Being close with family doesn’t entitle you to their home. NTA.

Teaching a life lesson with a rude laugh

OP politely refuses brother’s request to move in. NTA.

Laughing at brother’s request – NTA according to commenter

Setting boundaries with family can be tough ♀️

Setting boundaries and asking for consent is important. NTA
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Don’t assume free rent from family, NTA was right

NTA for refusing, but are there resources to help him?

Brother invites himself to move in, gets shut down.

Clueless brother tries to move in without permission

Brother assumes free living arrangements and gets laughed at
