Oh, the joys of parenthood! If there’s one thing we can all agree on, it’s that babies have a knack for throwing a wrench into our perfectly laid plans. ♀️ As a seasoned mom, I couldn’t help but chuckle when my best friend, who’s expecting her first child, shared her and her husband’s “perfect plan” for after the baby arrives. I mean, we’ve all been there, right? Full of optimism and naivety, only to have our dreams shattered by the realities of parenthood. But when I laughed at their plan, my friend got upset, and now I’m wondering if I was in the wrong.
Am I a Bad Friend?
Rough Pregnancy & Support
The “Perfect Plan”
My Reaction
Realities of Parenthood
Her Response
Stubbornness Ensues
No “Perfect Plans”
Parenthood Wisdom
Update: Apologies & Understanding
Baby Shower Preparations
Stress-Free Day
Parenthood: Where “Perfect Plans” Go to Die
My pregnant best friend and her husband devised a “perfect plan” for after their baby arrives, involving a strict schedule for taking care of the baby and getting sleep. I couldn’t help but laugh, remembering how my own “perfect plans” fell apart once my child was born. ♀️ My friend got upset, but I tried to explain that every parent goes through this learning curve and that it’s important to be flexible. After some reflection, I apologized for laughing, and she understood where I was coming from. Now, we’re focusing on planning her baby shower and making sure she has a stress-free day. Let’s see what the internet thinks of this situation…
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