A mother is upset after finding out her son got a job without consulting her first. She argues that now she’s left without someone to watch her daughters, and paid childcare is not an option. Her son says he needs the job to save money, but the mother believes he’s inconsiderate of the family’s need to provide for everyone. The post has sparked much discussion about family dynamics and whether or not it’s reasonable for the mother to be upset. Read on to find out more!
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Living with her son, husband, and two younger half-sisters, a mother feels upset and frustrated after discovering that her son had found a job without telling her. The issue at hand is that her son was the primary caregiver for his sisters during the hours when she was at work. With her husband being a pilot and traveling frequently, and paid childcare not an option, the mother is left without someone to care for her daughters. Despite her son’s reasoning that he needed the job to save money and pay for his entertainment, the mother feels that he is being selfish and inconsiderate of the family’s needs. The situation has caused tension and arguments within the family, with the mother feeling that her son is not showing enough respect for their struggling situation. However, her daughters are uncomfortable with the idea of a babysitter, and her son only stays with them when he wants to. In the comments and reactions, people are divided on who is right and offer various solutions to the issue at hand.
Mother upset son got job, expects free childcare. YTA.

Mother wants son to work for free, called out as YTA ♀️

Engaging comment and replies supporting independence and responsibility of the son

Commenter calls out parent for expecting older child to care for younger siblings. YTA.

Mother’s overbearing nature sparks outrage against her, YTA.

Mother’s abusive behavior towards son for finding job without telling her

Mother upset with son for finding a job without telling her. Commenter explains why the son is not in the wrong. YTA.

Don’t be a helicopter parent Let him fly! ✈️
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Mom expects too much from son. Having a job is normal. YTA
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The dangers of expecting free childcare from your teenager

Let him live his life! YTA for not supporting him.

Mother refuses to acknowledge her son’s need for independence. YTA

Commenter calls out parent for using son as unpaid help

Mother accused of smothering son for wanting to be independent ♀️

User calls out the parent for using their child as ‘slave labor’

Commenter calls out mother’s controlling behavior.

Parents accuse son of being selfish for finding a job

Son deserves fair pay for babysitting. Maybe he’s moving out.

Don’t hold him back from adult responsibility Let him soar!

Mom needs to let go and let son grow.
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Son is NTA for finding a job without mom’s permission

Overbearing mother upset with son’s adult decision to get job ♀️

Mother demands son to be unpaid babysitter, YTA ♀️

Mother criticized for controlling behavior towards son.

Commenter calls out mother for being overprotective of adult son

Let your adult child grow up and get a job!
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Parent learns tough lesson: don’t mess with adult children’s autonomy

Commenter defends son’s decision to start adulting and finding job

Commenter calls out mother’s behavior, defends son’s independence

Single mom criticized for not hiring babysitter. YTA verdict.

Mother expects unpaid full-time babysitting from 18-year-old son. YTA.

Mom learns son’s an adult & not her coparent. YTA.

Mom upset with son for finding a job without telling her

Parent prioritizes free child care over son’s achievement. YTA

Parents should not expect their children to babysit for free

Mom pays son to babysit, calls OP an a**hole for not paying.

Don’t be a helicopter parent Let your child grow up!

Commenter calls out mother for being selfish in childcare arrangements

Commenter calls out OP for ignoring YTA judgement

Mom, YTA. He’s 18 and doesn’t owe you childcare ♂️

Quick judgement! YTA without even reading the whole post

Mother criticized for being upset at son’s job independence. YTA.

Don’t hinder his growth! YTA for being upset about job.

Let your son grow and learn, YTA

Mother expects son to sacrifice his free time to watch siblings YTA

Commenter deems mother to be the a**hole for her behavior
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YTA for expecting your son to be free childcare forever

Commenter calls out parent for being selfish and controlling

Commenter calls out narcissistic behavior, predicts son’s no contact.
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Former childcare sibling warns OP: prioritize relationship with son now

Mom upset son found job, called YTA for expecting free babysitting.

Parents demanding free labor from kids? YTA, says commenter

Mom upset about son finding job without telling her YTA.

Pay your son or find other childcare. YTA

Mother expects too much from son who found a job. YTA

Mom needs to accept her son’s independence ♀️

Entitled mother criticized for expecting son to pay for child care

Commenter calls out entitled mother, says ‘let the man live’

Mom learns she can’t control adult son’s choices. YTA

Don’t be a helicopter parent. Let your son fly! ✈️

Helicopter parenting leads to employment resentment

Son gets a job without telling his mother. YTA mom.

Mom thinks son should babysit, calls him a**hole
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Mom expects free labor from son, calls him selfish for working.

Mom tries to control son’s work and college schedule. YTA

Mom needs to respect son’s financial independence

Last Updated on April 11, 2023 by Alfe Mercado