What would you do if your child was involved in a fight at school because someone made a racist joke about you? One mom found herself in this situation when her 15-year-old son got into a heated argument with a classmate. The other kid’s mom apologized, but she also demanded an apology from the son. However, our fierce mama bear wasn’t having any of it! Let’s dive into the story.
A Diverse Family Background

The Racist Joke

The Incident

Son’s Reaction

Things Escalate

The Other Mom’s Request

Her Reasoning

Standing Her Ground

The Other Mom’s Reaction

Hanging Up

Friends’ Opinions

So, Is She the Bad Guy?
After standing her ground and refusing to make her son apologize for defending himself against racist remarks, this mom is left wondering if she’s in the wrong. Her friends think she should be more understanding, but she’s not so sure. Is she being too harsh, or is she right to protect her son? Let’s see what the internet has to say about this situation…
No sympathy for racist behavior, even from a child

Kid’s racism excused, victim blamed.

Defending son’s actions, NTA. 15 year old will learn.

Supportive comment defends son’s actions and criticizes coddling parenting style

User defends OP’s decision to not make son apologize for racism.

NTA defends racist behavior, receives backlash for lack of empathy

NTA stands firm against entitled apology request

15-year-old’s racist behavior blamed on bad parenting. NTA.

NTA – Kid learned consequences of racial slurs, no apology necessary
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Navigating through consequences is an important lesson. NTA

NTA. Valuable lesson learned about racism and consequences for actions.

Quiet doesn’t equal racist, NTA claps back

Teaching accountability is important. NTA comment gets it right
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Parent prioritizes educating child over performative apologies.

Accountability is key to combating racism.

Teaching not to be racist is important. NTA comment.

NTA, but ditch the racist apologists

Mother defends son against accusations of racism. NTA

Standing up against racism is not something to apologize for

Proud of your son for standing up against racism

Parent shares concern over racism towards mixed-race children

Quiet kids say f**k all, not racist remarks. NTA.

Supportive comment defends son’s actions and suggests solution.

Confused commenter questions if son even apologized. School handled it.

Son stands up against racism, NTA. Other kid’s mom ignoring issues

POC commenter praises handling of racist incident, calls out non-POCs

NTA. Friend is wrong for excusing racist behavior in child

Teaching kids accountability is important. NTA stands strong

Supportive comment applauding son’s actions against racism.

Parent prioritizes their child over racist classmate. NTA

No excuses for racism, especially at 15

No need for apology, racist behavior has consequences

Calling out a victim complex and excusing racism.

Entitled mom refuses to acknowledge son’s racist behavior ♀️
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NTA, kid learned racism at home, school should handle consequences

Mom defends son’s racism, refuses to teach accountability

No mercy for racists. Apologies don’t work like that

Defending mom against racism, NTA comment has no replies.

Learning consequences: Young boy’s racist remark earns NTA judgement

Stand up against racism and never apologize for it

Support for son’s refusal to apologize for calling out racism

Encouraging forgiveness and understanding in a delicate situation.

Replying in native language is petty but satisfying

Defending son against racism, NTA for not apologizing.

User defends shunning racist behavior and calls out enabling parent.

Breaking the cycle of learned racism is crucial. NTA.
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User defends shunning racist teenager, calls out bad parenting

NTA comment calls out racism and white supremacy

Let the cards fall where they may, accountability is key.

Teachable moment for teenager, NTA for mom

Parent defends not making child apologize for racist incident.

Supportive teacher agrees forced apologies mean nothing. NTA

Mom’s entitlement breeds bad behavior in shy son

Mixed-race son’s racist incident: NTA, embarrassment doubled by passing.

Teaching kids to apologize and grow is important

NTA commenter defends the suspended racist kid’s behavior.

Teaching kids about race and diversity is crucial

NTA. Woman’s kid needs to learn consequences for racism
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Standing up against racism!

Black parent defends son’s refusal to apologize for racist incident. NTA

Stand up to racism, don’t brush it off

Shy kid makes racist comments, mom defends him. YTA alert
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NTA commenter defends son after racist incident with fiery language

Bold AF racist gets called out, NTA for speaking up

Last Updated on February 14, 2024 by Diply Social Team