Imagine giving birth to a beautiful baby girl, only to be accused of cheating by your own family. That’s what happened to one young mom, whose daughter’s appearance led to a whirlwind of drama and heartache. Now, the same woman who spread nasty rumors and called her granddaughter racial slurs wants to bond with the child. Should this mom let her mother-in-law visit, or stand her ground? ♀️
A Trusting Relationship Turns Sour

The Unexpected Appearance

Accusations Fly

Mother-in-Law’s Betrayal

Ignored and Abandoned

DNA Test Proves the Truth

MiL’s Unrelenting Cruelty

A Sudden Change of Heart?

Husband’s Anger

The Uncertainty Lingers

A Mother’s Dilemma: To Forgive or Not to Forgive?
This young mom has been through the wringer, accused of cheating and abandoned by her husband, all because of her daughter’s unexpected appearance. Now, the same mother-in-law who spread vicious rumors and called her granddaughter racial slurs wants to bond with the child. The mom is torn – should she give her mother-in-law a chance, or protect her daughter from potential harm? It’s a tough call, and the internet is buzzing with opinions. What do you think?
Red flags abound in this toxic marriage and family dynamic
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Commenter calls out husband’s past behavior, receives agreement from others

Commenter warns of potential grooming and advises therapy for OP.

Supportive comment and replies urge OP to leave toxic husband and family

NTA. MIL used racial slurs and slandered OP. Husband needs to prioritize.

Commenter sympathizes with OP and suggests divorce.

NTA commenter advises to stand up for oneself and research genetics.
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Escape abusive relationship and manipulative in-laws for your baby

Commenters agree: NTA for cutting off unsupportive partner.

Commenter advises OP to record everything and seek support

Protect your child from racists, NTA.

Ancestry test could reveal MIL’s secret. NTA.

Protecting your child from racism? NTA, you’re doing great

Commenter questions loyalty in rocky relationship.

NTA. MIL accused OP of cheating, but projected her own guilt.

NTA. Child’s right? Until old enough to know, ridiculous. No apology, no visits.

Run from the despicable people, you and your baby deserve better!

Grandma called names, changed mind suddenly. Don’t trust her.

Commenter empathizes with OP’s situation and doubts MIL’s sincerity.

Join the support community at r/JustNoMIL and r/justnoso

NTA stands for not the a**hole. The commenter supports the mother’s decision and advises her to keep evidence of MIL’s behavior. A reply suggests the husband is also guilty.

Controversial comment sparks short conversation about race.

NTA suggests DNA test to prove grandma’s relation

Commenter suggests kicking husband out and restraining MIL.

Cutting off racist grandma is justified. Counseling needed for relationship issues.

Commenter suggests counseling but others urge OP to leave abusive husband

Grandparent visitation is a privilege, not a right. NTA

Commenter goes off-topic and judges husband’s character.

Commenter advises getting rid of MIL and husband.

Seek professional help for family issues

NTA, justified in denying grandma visits. Couples counseling recommended.

Insist on therapy to work through husband’s betrayal and MIL

Husband and MIL are a**holes, you’re the third wheel

Commenter warns of unhappy life with partner.

Commenter supports OP, suggests marriage counseling, and divorce ♀️

Protecting her child from toxic grandma, NTA and good luck

Protect yourself against MIL’s potential lawsuit for grandparents rights

Commenter is not the a**hole, no replies yet

Redditor advises OP to prepare for divorce from racist husband

Commenter defends OP, calls out husband and MIL as AHs

A shocking and baseless accusation in the comment section

Commenter sympathizes with OP, calls out husband and MIL

Commenter advises marriage counseling before trusting grandma’s sudden change.

Commenter calls out MIL and unsupportive husband in toxic situation
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Leave him and his racist family. Your daughter deserves better.

Commenter advises divorce or counseling after trust is broken.

Red flag: commenter refuses grandma visit due to genetics.

NTA stands up to toxic in-laws and defends her child

Spouse didn’t defend OP, MIL capable of worse

Commenter calls out abuser, deems OP not the a**hole

Commenter advises relationship counseling for toxic MIL and husband.

NTA for cutting off racist grandma and husband’s lack of trust

Commenter expresses concern over potential grooming in relationship.

Dealing with difficult in-laws, more than just one problem.

Protecting your child from a DNA-stealing grandma

Stand up for your rights as a parent!

Last Updated on June 20, 2023 by Diply Social Team