Imagine spending your weekend fixing up your home while your wife is away, only to be met with disappointment and sarcasm upon her return. That’s exactly what happened to one man who thought he was doing his family a favor. He took care of their two boys, completed several home repair projects, and even managed to surprise his wife with some extra work on their son’s room. But instead of gratitude, his wife’s reaction left him questioning if he was in the wrong. Let’s dive into the story…
Wife’s Weekend Away

Taking on the Challenge

The To-Do List

Unexpected Injury

Pushing Through the Pain

Back Injury Strikes Again

Wife’s Unexpected Reaction

Disappointment and Sarcasm

Seeking Appreciation

No Break for the Injured

Wife’s Justification ️

The Surprise Element

Final Thoughts

Kindness with Kindness

Who’s the Real A**hole Here?
In the end, our DIY dad believes both he and his wife were in the wrong: him for expecting appreciation and her for not showing any. Parenting is tough, and life’s challenges can make it hard to express gratitude. But he reminds us that a simple, heartfelt ‘thank you’ can go a long way in returning kindness with kindness. So, who do you think is in the wrong here? Let’s see what the internet thinks of this situation…
Importance of showing appreciation in a healthy relationship

Commenter argues YTA for prioritizing personal projects over family needs

NTA. Appreciation in a marriage is key.

NTA commenter defends man’s home repairs, calls wife ungrateful

NTA for wanting to surprise wife but poor communication caused misunderstanding

NTA, comment defends OP from gender bias in household chores.

Couple struggles with different priorities, but working on a solution

SAHP vs Working Parent: Who deserves a break?

Commenter defends man’s home repairs, chaos ensues

Appreciation for tasks done is a great motivator

Commenter defends OP and points out wife’s concerning behavior.
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Gender bias in the comments section discussed with sarcasm

Expecting appreciation for basic household tasks? YTA, but wife overreacted

Appreciating stay-at-home moms: a thankless job with immense responsibilities

Wife’s high expectations backfire, husband not the a**hole

Encouraging comment, hoping for the best. Take care, OP!

Defending OP’s actions, calling out double standards and stereotypes.
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Both husband and wife were at fault, but appreciation is important

Curious commenter asks about laundry method, no replies yet

Stay-at-home mom highlights importance of appreciation for home repairs

Working parent deserves appreciation too! Let’s value each other equally.

User defends man’s actions, calls out wife’s lack of gratitude

Man injured doing surprise repairs, blamed by wife. NTA.

Quick update on home upgrade progress and logistics

Man’s attempt at surprise home repairs backfires; wife’s reaction criticized.

Man’s surprise repairs backfire, but is he still a keeper?

NTA comment suggests unfinished room, curious replies follow

SAHM complains about husband’s home repairs after vacation. NTA.
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Expecting gratitude from your spouse isn’t too much to ask
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DIYer defends OP’s surprise repairs, but acknowledges wife’s fatigue and frustration

Man does surprise home repairs, expects gratitude, gets none.

Commenter defends man’s right to take weekend off for himself.

Empathetic comment receives no replies, but still deserves recognition

Commenter shares personal experience with home repairs gone wrong

Spouse’s lack of empathy and appreciation leads to hurtful behavior

Commenter praises husband’s home repairs, criticizes his time management skills.

Defending OP’s actions, NTA verdict, and appreciation for chores.

Spouse’s lack of appreciation sparks debate: NTA or ESH?

Commenter thinks man is not the a**hole

Understanding productivity and reactivity in household chores.

Engaging kids in household tasks can be beneficial for everyone

Expecting appreciation for home repairs is reasonable, not rude ️
