Look, we all know why you clicked this story.
That title is quite concerning, isn’t it? After all, why would any man ever try to make his wife, his romantic partner , look like a blood relative, least of all his sister ? Even just the idea of it is shudder-inducing.
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But the truth is he’s not trying to actualize some sort of sick, secret fantasy — he’s decided his sister looks better than his wife, so he’s taken it upon himself to help her…well, catch up .
The man posted his story to the subreddit r/AmITheAsshole in an effort to find out what others think about this situation.
In his post , he explains that his wife, who is 38, and his 21-year-old sister both recently gave birth within a few weeks of each other.
But while one has already apparently gotten her pre-baby body back, the other is understandably struggling to shed the pounds. Can you guess which is which?
Indeed, the man has noticed his sister has already gotten her figure back, something which is wife is finding quite difficult to do herself.
As he explained online,
“We live in Florida, and despite my sister giving birth later, when we saw her during the holiday season, she was already back in a bikini and wearing her usual style of bra length tops and ripped skinny jeans and looked flawless.”
The wife certainly noticed too, and has told her husband she would do anything to look like his sister.
It’s important to note here that the man’s wife isn’t just sitting around waiting for a miracle — she’s actively trying to lose some weight.
Although she’s a new mother, and likely already stressed to the max, she still makes an effort to go on morning runs before work and even hits the gym on the weekends.
But the weight isn’t falling off her like it seemed to fall off her sister-in-law, and that’s left her feeling pretty insecure.
In fact, those insecurities are starting to show themselves in her marriage.
As her husband revealed,
“Recently in therapy she said she can feel me being so uninterested in her since our daughter was born and says she desperately tries to get facials and works out to try to keep my attention.
The man admitted that he started to feel bad for his wife who wasn’t seeing the same results as his sister.
So he decided the only thing he could do to help her was to go straight to his sister and ask what her secret was, since apparently she doesn’t even exercise but has been able to drop the weight anyway.
During a recent visit to her home, he got what he believed was his answer: food .
His sister’s fridge was stocked almost exclusively with fruits and vegetables, and she didn’t have any bread or pasta in sight.
In his post, the man admitted his wife can be quite snacky, and prefers to munch on those foods that his sister apparently omits from her own diet.
When it came time to do some grocery shopping, he volunteered to do it himself.
This, he decided, would be the perfect opportunity to give his wife the “help” he believes she needs from him.
During his grocery run, he stocked their kitchen with the same kinds of healthy foods his sister prefers, rather than the ones his wife clearly enjoys.
Of course, if you know anything about women, you know that if they want something, they’re going to *get it*. Simple as that.
Recently the man looked in his pantry and saw that his wife had apparently done her own grocery shopping and re-stocked it with all her favorite snacks. So what did he do?
Well, what any rational, caring husband would do, of course: “In an attempt to be a problem solver I tossed the new junk (including stuff for pasta, bread, ice cream) out.”
Suffice it to say, his wife was *not* happy when she found out.
“She got furious when she saw that I had tossed out her food,” the man recalled, adding that he defended himself by insisting she had said she wanted to look like his sister, so that’s just what he was trying to help her do.
I shouldn’t have to tell you that was the wrong thing to say.
His wife got upset, accusing him of “negatively comparing [her] to [his] sister,” whose lifestyle is radically different from her own.
As she pointed out, her sister-in-law “is a stay at home mom with a husband who pays for her personal trainer and somebody to cook their food for them.”
Meanwhile, the man’s wife has already gone back to work and can only really exercise on the weekends or in the early hours of the morning.
At the end of the argument, the woman began crying and said she feels like she’s “lost” her husband, ever since she gave birth to their daughter.
But despite her clearly expressing that she feels unloved, perhaps even explaining why she’s been particularly snackish lately, the man still needed Reddit to answer one question for him: was he an asshole “for trying to solve [his] wife’s body problem in a productive way?”
Reddit convened and decided the answer was so clearly “yes.”
As many users pointed out, it’s unfair for him to expect what works for his sister will work for his wife, especially considering they’re so apart in age.
“Here’s your sisters secret…she 21! And your wife is almost 40,” this person said. “I could eat 24/7 at 21 and not gain an ounce.
Another added, “There is nearly a 20 year age difference here. Your body works very differently at 20 and 40. You need to encourage your wife, not play on her insecurities.”
Others believe there are more important things the man should be focusing on in his marriage than his wife’s post-baby body.
[This person’s]( this person ) comment should definitely make him rethink his priorities:
“What are you doing to your poor wife that she’s telling your therapist that she feels the need to focus on physicality, or lose your attention/love? This wonderful woman just grew a baby, has your baby and she’s so worried about your perception of her. That’s all kind of wrong. I’m also guessing there are a lot of snide, off hand comments that have made your poor wife, and brand spanking new mum feel this way.”
Over all, most people were in agreement that the man’s fixation on his sister’s body is…well, disturbing, to say the least.
“Why is OP so fixated on his sister’s body that his wife even feels the need to compete with her husband’s 21 year old sibling,” this user demanded to know, adding, “Stop comparing your wife’s body to your sister’s. That’s nasty.”
What do you think of this whole situation? Make sure to let us know in the comments!
h/t: Reddit
