Sometimes, life throws curveballs that force us to make difficult decisions. In this story, two men missed the births of their daughters, but for very different reasons. One man was supporting his injured brother, while the other chose to go on vacation. Now, the vacationing dad is seeking support from his brother-in-law, but he’s not having it. Is he right to refuse? Let’s dive into the story and find out.
The Unfortunate Coincidence
Divided by Hospitals
Missing the Birth
Dan’s Recovery and Daughter’s Arrival
Josh’s Vacation Dilemma ️
Baby Arrives Early! ⏰
Family’s Fury
Seeking Support, But Denied
Confused and Seeking Perspective
Two Missed Births, One Sympathy Card
So, we have two men who missed their daughters’ births, but the reasons behind their absences couldn’t be more different. One was at the hospital with his injured brother, while the other chose to go on vacation despite warnings. Now, the vacationing dad is seeking support from his brother-in-law, but he’s not getting any sympathy. Is he right to refuse? Let’s see what the internet thinks of this situation…
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Pregnant partner asked him not to go on vacation, NTA.
NTA for not defending brother-in-law’s absence at daughter’s birth
Commenter defends OP’s decision, others discuss baby’s prematurity.
Support for pregnant trans man and agreement with NTA judgment
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NTA defends brother-in-law’s absence at birth, calls out AH friends.
Sibling advises apology and night duty for missed birth.
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NTA sacrifices being at own child’s birth to help family, defends brother-in-law’s partner’s wishes.
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Partner prioritizes vacation over birth, commenter says NTA.
Supportive comments for trans man’s childbirth worries
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Choosing fun over supporting wife during birth makes him NTA ♂️
Man refuses to miss daughter’s birth for brother-in-law’s accident
Supportive family members attend daughter’s birth, brother-in-law jokes about labor
NTA for prioritizing emergency over jolly, partner’s wishes ignored.
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Congratulatory comment leads to dark humor and gardening options
Commenter shares personal experience and condemns brother-in-law’s actions.
Pregnancy is hard and unpredictable, NTA for respecting that.
Commenter criticizes brother-in-law for not being present at birth.
Newborn blamed for father’s absence at birth. NTA.
Choosing vacation over daughter’s birth makes YTA. ♂️
Choosing vacation over partner’s pregnancy is unacceptable. NTA.
Debate over vacation during pandemic and partner’s request.
Commenter calls out absentee brother-in-law’s lack of accountability.
Birth is unpredictable, NTA for not defending brother-in-law’s absence
NTA for refusing to defend brother-in-law who left pregnant trans partner
Partner’s discomfort trumps brother-in-law’s absence at birth. NTA
Support for standing up against bad behavior
Military wife shares experience, calls out absent brother-in-law.
Supportive comment defends man’s decision to prioritize family during birth.
Brother-in-law’s absence vs vacation: significant difference. NTA.
Traveling for birth risky for both parents-to-be, NTA.
Timing of trip and labor questioned
NTA shows off doing the right thing
Commenter calls out Josh as the real a**hole.
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User defends man’s decision to skip brother-in-law’s birth absence.
Husband’s refusal to leave pregnant partner before birth praised.
Brother-in-law’s absence vs. planned vacation: NTA wins
Congrats to new dad! NTA, different contexts, not defending absence.
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Choosing a holiday over child’s birth? NTA says comment.
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BIL takes vacation during partner’s delivery. NTA calls him out
Being a parent requires sacrifices, NTA for not defending.
Pregnant partner said don’t go, non-pregnant partner went anyway
Supportive comment from trans man on partner’s pregnancy experience ❤
Confused Redditor questions NSFW tag on birth-related article
NTA stands out in comment section, but why?
NTA! User is justified in not defending brother-in-law’s absence.
Supportive comment and appreciation for addressing transphobia
Advocating for someone during childbirth is crucial. YTA with consequences.
Supportive comment defends trans father and criticizes absent father-in-law.
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Heartwarming update on the baby and dad’s health
Brother-in-law’s absence at birth: commenter says NTA
Brother-in-law’s absence at birth, NTA, partner permission important
Missing daughter’s birth for vacation? Definitely NTA for not defending.
Commenter raises valid concern about COVID-19 risk during trip
Support for trans partner’s birth is crucial. NTA.
Father prioritizes brother-in-law’s vacation over daughter’s birth. NTA.
Leaving a heavily pregnant woman alone is always an A-H move
Missing your child’s birth for jet skis? Definitely NTA.
Supportive comment defends trans man’s partner and criticizes BIL’s actions.
Premature birth misconceptions led to brother-in-law’s absence, explained by commenter.
NTA for refusing to defend brother-in-law’s absence at daughter’s birth
Commenter outraged at comparison, deems OP NTA
Commenter raises valid concern about partner’s absence during pregnancy
Commenter agrees with OP’s decision, criticizes selfish behavior of some men.
