Picture this: You’re in a relationship with a history of cheating on both sides, but you’re trying to make it work. You’re open with each other, and one day, your partner confesses she’s developing feelings for someone else. You try to be understanding, but then she drops the bombshell: she thinks she’s polyamorous. You’re staunchly monogamous, but she insists you’re being closed-minded. Arguments ensue, and things get messy. What would you do? Let’s dive into this emotional rollercoaster of a story.
A Rocky Relationship Start
Cheating Histories
A Confession
Growing Distance
Trying to Understand
️ A Heart-to-Heart
Setting Boundaries
Accusations and Arguments
The Struggle Continues
A Compromise?
Setting Rules
A Quick Change of Heart
Another Fight
Accusations and Anger
The Breaking Point
The Final Message
Polyamory, Trust, and Boundaries: A Relationship on the Rocks
Our protagonist, J, and his girlfriend, K, have a rocky relationship history, with cheating on both sides. They try to be open with each other, but when K confesses she’s developing feelings for a close friend and thinks she’s polyamorous, things take a turn for the worse. J, being monogamous, is not on board with this idea, but K accuses him of being closed-minded. After a series of arguments and compromises, J decides to put his foot down and close the relationship again, leading to even more conflict. With trust and boundaries pushed to the limit, J finally tells K that if being in a polyamorous relationship is more important than their relationship, she should leave. Now, J is left wondering if he’s the one in the wrong. Let’s see what the internet thinks of this situation…
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Stand firm and leave her, you deserve better
Breakup advice: be firm, show ambivalence, don’t let her cheat. ♂️
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NTA. Cut your losses and move on
NTA, but it’s time to let go
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Ex-girlfriend not polyamorous, just wants to sleep around. NTA
A scathing reply calling out the commenter’s insecurities.
Fiery reply accuses cheater and questions relationship boundaries
Moving on from a polyamorous relationship.
Boundaries crossed, move on with self-respect. NTA
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NTA, let her go and find someone better suited to you
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Cheating ex gets called out for being a serial cheater
User believes girlfriend is cheating and advises to leave.
Polyamory isn’t an excuse for cheating. NTA
Boyfriend should leave for his sanity. NTA ♂️
Break up with her, she wants someone more open-minded
User questions meaning of ‘nothing past second base’ in monogamy debate.
A fiery comment calling out ex’s immature behavior
Breaking up with partner who wants polyamory. NTA.
Dump her! She’s cheating and doesn’t respect you
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Harsh but true: consider moving on from cheating girlfriend
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Respect your boundaries and break up with her. NTA.
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Breaking up is hard to do, but NTA
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Relationship over, NTA. Time to move on
Poly under duress? Huge red flag. End the relationship.
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Dump her ASAP, you don’t need this BS
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Dump her! Cheaters gonna cheat, you deserve better. ❌
Monogamy is valid and pressuring for polyamory is unacceptable ❤
NTA stands firm against polyamory in unhappy relationships ♂️
