Lodger Demands a Say in Homeowner’s Dream House Choice

Imagine living in a house filled with bad memories, finally getting the chance to move, and then having your lodger make demands about your new home. That’s the situation a 36-year-old homeowner found herself in when she decided to sell her current house and buy her dream “forever home.” Her lodger of nine years wanted to move with her, but then started listing features and locations the new house “must” have. As a part-time wheelchair user, the homeowner already had specific requirements for her future home. Now she’s left wondering if she would be in the wrong for choosing her dream home without considering her lodger’s wishes.

The Current Living Situation

Bad Memories and a New Beginning

Lodger Wants to Move Along

Demands Start Rolling In

Homeowner’s Wheelchair Needs

Decision Time: Her Way or the Highway?

Edit 1: Appreciating the Feedback

A Calm and Honest Discussion

Understanding the Lodger’s Feelings

Edit 2: Clarifying the Lodger Situation

Their Relationship

Homeowner’s Forever Home vs. Lodger’s Demands

Our homeowner is ready to move on from her current house, filled with bad memories, and find her perfect forever home. However, her lodger of nine years, who wants to move with her, has started making demands about the new house’s features and location. As a part-time wheelchair user, the homeowner already has specific needs for her future home. After receiving feedback, she plans to have a calm and honest discussion with her lodger about life goals and expectations before deciding if they should continue living together. Let’s see how the internet feels about this sticky situation…

Homeowner has no obligation to consider lodger’s opinion.

Homeowner should clarify relationship with lodger before making any decisions

Roommate can suggest, not demand. Consider friendship and accessibility issues.

Homeowner has every right to choose their dream house

Lodger overstepping boundaries? Homeowner’s NTA, but tensions rise

Homeowner has final say, lodger has no financial contribution.

Friendly reminder to set boundaries with good tenants

Helpful tips for making a home wheelchair accessible

Homeowner’s lodger demands say in dream house choice, NTA.

Commenter calls out lodger’s audacity with sassy tone

Make your dream house YOUR dream house.

Homeowner’s choice. Lodger is temporary and paying month-to-month.

Homeowner’s dream house vs. lodger’s demands

Homeowner can politely explain choice without being TA

Homeowner sets boundaries for lodger’s involvement in house search

Lodger wants a separate utility room, fireplace, en-suite, and parking.

Homeowner not obligated to consider lodger’s preferences for dream house

Roommate’s role clarified, no romantic or caregiving relationship.

Choose what you need and love! #NTA

Homeowner’s dream house, lodger’s demand. NTA sets boundaries.

Lodger requests changes, homeowner has the final say

Tips on gently asserting boundaries with a pushy lodger

NTA stands firm on dream house despite lodger’s objections

Considerate homeowner respects lodger’s needs for dream home

NTA sympathized with for unresolved issues and health symptoms

Communicate openly with your long-term lodger to find a compromise

Homeowner wants commitment, but what about the lodger?

Commenter approves of homeowner’s dream house decision.

Commenter deemed ‘not the a**hole’ for demanding input.

Homeowner asserts right to choose dream house over lodger’s opinion. ‍♀️

Asserting homeowner’s right to choose dream house. NTA

Sassy commenter shuts down pointless post with no replies.

Homeowner sets boundaries politely and wishes well.

Homeowner has the final say in dream house choice

Commenter shares hilarious story of entitled girlfriend on HGTV show

Tenant wants a say in dream house? NTA shuts her down

Lodger oversteps boundaries, homeowner not the a**hole

Encouraging response to possible controlling behavior

Wheelchair-bound homeowner handles housemate’s demands with grace

Clarifying terminology, commenter says NTA for homeowner’s choice.

Be careful and protect yourself from potential legal issues.

Lodger wants a say in dream house choice. NAH, but communication needed

Consider potential classism and power dynamic in homeowner-lodger dispute

Homeowner’s dream house, lodger’s demand. NTA prevails.

Homeowner shuts down entitled lodger’s dream house demands

Respect homeowner’s choice, NTA for setting boundaries.

Assertive comment shuts down argument in one sentence

NAH, but keep an open mind

Lodger wants a say in dream house choice, tough decision ahead

Homeowner’s dream house choice: Lodger demands a say

Mature communication is key to avoid future misunderstandings

Homeowner’s lodger may be overzealous but not an a**hole

Consider the lodger’s feelings to save a friendship

Resident landlord agreement protects homeowner, NTA for not obliging.

Roommate wants a say in dream house, NTA but talk

NAH verdict for lodger’s excitement, honest chat suggested

Homeowner should prioritize own happiness, lodger can’t demand accommodation.

NTA. Lodger overstepping boundaries in homeowner’s dream house choice

Lodger oversteps boundaries, but homeowner needs to clarify relationship goals NAH

Lodger’s entitlement sparks conflict over dream home

Roommate demands homeowner’s dream house choice? NTA shuts it down

Mature approach to homeowner’s dream house choice

Buy the house you like. Lodger can move or leave. NTA

Your house, your choice. She can leave if she disagrees.

Don’t let her control your dream house NTA

Lodger demands a say in dream house choice – NTA response

Buying a house with your money? Your choice, not hers