Picture this: You’re living with your friends, and life is going great. You enjoy the occasional drink, but you’re responsible about it. One of your roommates, however, has a history with alcohol in his family and doesn’t drink at all. You thought you had an understanding, but suddenly you’re facing an unexpected intervention. How would you react? Let’s dive into this story of conflict, drama, and a roommate projecting his past onto his friend.
Living with Friends
The Roommate Agreement
My Drinking Habits
Not a Beer Guy
Drinking Responsibly
Not Disruptive
Intervention Time ⏰
Not Talking
Edit: Clarification
Measured Drinks
Intervention Showdown: Roommate Edition
Our protagonist (24M) lives with a few friends, including R (23M), who has a history of alcohol problems in his family. They agreed that occasional drinking was okay, and our protagonist is very responsible about it, drinking only once every 2-3 months and never during emotional problems. But then, R decides to stage an intervention for his friend’s supposed “drinking problem.” This leads to a heated argument, with our protagonist telling R to stop projecting his trauma onto him. Now they’re not talking, and R is obviously mad. Let’s see what the internet thinks of this situation…
Responsible drinking is possible; friend needs to respect boundaries.
Approaching with curiosity instead of anger could have helped. NTA
Respect boundaries when expressing ‘concern’ about roommate’s drinking habits
Choosing sobriety due to family history, supports others’ drinking choices.
Doctor weighs in on alcohol concerns, advises moderation and monitoring.
Responsible OP checks in with roommate before moving in together
Navigating familial alcoholism is hard, but roommates can’t police drinking
Don’t let your roommate gaslight you. NTA
Reddit’s Puritans clash with free speech advocate.
Don’t let others project their drinking habits on you
Roommate overstepped boundaries by attempting an unnecessary intervention. NTA
Don’t let projection make you feel guilty!
Breaking the cycle of alcoholism and responsible relaxation
Drinking habits questioned in NTA’s defense
Drinking habits not worrying, NTA. Cut back as you age
Healthy relationship with alcohol applauded
Friend’s alcohol ‘concern’ unwarranted, OP is NTA.
Respectful boundaries. Roommate’s ‘concern’ crosses the line.
Moderate drinker defends self from non-existent intervention
Don’t let your friend’s hang-ups about alcohol ruin your friendship
Therapist confirms minimal drinking, not addiction. NTA
Drinking 8-10 drinks is a lot, but NTA for controlling it
Confused about timeline and roommate’s true intentions
Considerate perspective on roommate’s alcohol ‘concern’
Mind your own business, stage 5 clinger girlfriend reactions ♂️
NTA. Roommate’s ‘concern’ seems unwarranted and overly sensitive.
Roommate drama escalates after sharp retort, NTA comment section
NTA: Commenter receives support for alcohol addiction from commenters.
Roommate projecting trauma, but also debate over alcohol definition
NTA – Validate friend’s concern without confirming or denying their opinion
Don’t play at being morally superior or you might get punched
Don’t let projection get in the way of self control
Friend projecting childhood trauma onto drinking habits
Respect boundaries and drink responsibly. Communicate kindly but firmly.
Respect boundaries: Roommate’s concern or intrusion?
Roommate expresses alcohol concern, OP responds harshly.
Defensive response to projection of trauma about alcohol consumption
No a******s here, just a caring friend. Communicate openly
Roommate’s fear caused alcohol intervention drama. Start with empathy.
Defending responsible drinking with a touch of sass
Roommate accused of being jealous of big boofs
Concerned comment suggests potential alcohol addiction and future consequences
Last Updated on March 7, 2024 by Diply Social Team