Intervention or Projection? Roommate’s Alcohol ‘Concern’ Sparks Drama

Picture this: You’re living with your friends, and life is going great. You enjoy the occasional drink, but you’re responsible about it. One of your roommates, however, has a history with alcohol in his family and doesn’t drink at all. You thought you had an understanding, but suddenly you’re facing an unexpected intervention. How would you react? Let’s dive into this story of conflict, drama, and a roommate projecting his past onto his friend.

Living with Friends

The Roommate Agreement

My Drinking Habits

Not a Beer Guy

Drinking Responsibly

Not Disruptive

Intervention Time ⏰

Not Talking

Edit: Clarification

Measured Drinks

Intervention Showdown: Roommate Edition

Our protagonist (24M) lives with a few friends, including R (23M), who has a history of alcohol problems in his family. They agreed that occasional drinking was okay, and our protagonist is very responsible about it, drinking only once every 2-3 months and never during emotional problems. But then, R decides to stage an intervention for his friend’s supposed “drinking problem.” This leads to a heated argument, with our protagonist telling R to stop projecting his trauma onto him. Now they’re not talking, and R is obviously mad. Let’s see what the internet thinks of this situation…

Responsible drinking is possible; friend needs to respect boundaries.

Approaching with curiosity instead of anger could have helped. NTA

Respect boundaries when expressing ‘concern’ about roommate’s drinking habits

Choosing sobriety due to family history, supports others’ drinking choices.

Doctor weighs in on alcohol concerns, advises moderation and monitoring.

Responsible OP checks in with roommate before moving in together

Navigating familial alcoholism is hard, but roommates can’t police drinking

Don’t let your roommate gaslight you. NTA

Reddit’s Puritans clash with free speech advocate.

Don’t let others project their drinking habits on you

Roommate overstepped boundaries by attempting an unnecessary intervention. NTA

Don’t let projection make you feel guilty!

Breaking the cycle of alcoholism and responsible relaxation

Drinking habits questioned in NTA’s defense

Drinking habits not worrying, NTA. Cut back as you age

Healthy relationship with alcohol applauded

Friend’s alcohol ‘concern’ unwarranted, OP is NTA.

Respectful boundaries. Roommate’s ‘concern’ crosses the line.

Moderate drinker defends self from non-existent intervention

Don’t let your friend’s hang-ups about alcohol ruin your friendship

Therapist confirms minimal drinking, not addiction. NTA

Drinking 8-10 drinks is a lot, but NTA for controlling it

Confused about timeline and roommate’s true intentions

Considerate perspective on roommate’s alcohol ‘concern’

Mind your own business, stage 5 clinger girlfriend reactions ‍♂️

NTA. Roommate’s ‘concern’ seems unwarranted and overly sensitive.

Roommate drama escalates after sharp retort, NTA comment section

NTA: Commenter receives support for alcohol addiction from commenters.

Roommate projecting trauma, but also debate over alcohol definition

NTA – Validate friend’s concern without confirming or denying their opinion

Don’t play at being morally superior or you might get punched

Don’t let projection get in the way of self control

Friend projecting childhood trauma onto drinking habits

Respect boundaries and drink responsibly. Communicate kindly but firmly.

Respect boundaries: Roommate’s concern or intrusion?

Roommate expresses alcohol concern, OP responds harshly.

Defensive response to projection of trauma about alcohol consumption

No assholes here, just a caring friend. Communicate openly

Roommate’s fear caused alcohol intervention drama. Start with empathy.

Defending responsible drinking with a touch of sass

Roommate accused of being jealous of big boofs

Concerned comment suggests potential alcohol addiction and future consequences