A recent post on Reddit has stirred up quite the discussion among wives and stay-at-home moms (SAHMs) everywhere. One woman shared her frustration after her husband jokingly suggested that every day is a vacation for her.
While he claimed it was just a joke, she wasn’t convinced, and neither were many others who weighed in.
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Here’s the gist of the story:
“I’m a SAHM to one but my 3 year old is at school from 8am-12:30pm,” she explained. “In that time, I’m taking the dog for a walk, cleaning the house, grocery shopping, laundry etc. then for the remainder of the day, I’m looking after my son. Yes I’m super grateful I get to be at home but I do not consider every day to be a holiday for me.”
Other women were quick to offer their support.
Many of them echoed the sentiment that being at home doesn’t equate to lounging around. One mom commented, “I’m not a SAHM, but I am a mom of 3. […] Everything functions better when someone is home on vacation or leave with a routine. Theres a reason people suggest having housekeepers and people to shop for the groceries to make things easier. The person who is at home making sure the house doesn’t fall apart and the kids are taken care of is invaluable.”
Another shared her experience with life insurance.
She highlighted how her family realized the true value of a stay-at-home parent: “We priced it out, and the cost of ‘replacing’ me was astronomical. He was not unappreciative before that conversation, but he is SUPER appreciative after it.”
One woman humorously pointed this out:
“Being a STAHM is not a vacation but let’s be honest once you have kids vacations are not really vacations. The tasks you do still have to be done.”
Another mom chimed in with a story of her husband’s epiphany after spending a few days solo parenting.
“He tried to show me how it’s done while I took a short trip. Let’s just say he was very humbled and exhausted by the end of it!”
For some, the conversation took a more reflective tone.
“Even if it was a joke, it sounds like he doesn’t appreciate all that you do. If he tried swapping roles with you for a week, he’d be begging to go back to work.”
Then, a different perspective came from this commenter.
This woman suggested that the husband might be a bit jealous of the time she has at home. “it sounds like OP’s husband is a little jealous of the time she has at home. I do think this is a fair way to feel. He should still express appreciation for what she contributes, but maybe he was also lamenting not having more time himself.”
And this last admission from another woman.
Lastly, one woman admitted that she might actually be a little jealous of the SAHM’s schedule herself.
“Admittedly, I would love to have 4.5 hours each day free to do chores or shop or clean. That’s a lot of time. I would be jealous, in your husband’s shoes. I’m jealous and I don’t know you. I have no interest in staying home because I love working, but yeah. That’s a lot of unscheduled time!”
A joke that struck a nerve!
In the end, it seems clear that while the husband’s comment may have been intended as a joke, it struck a nerve with many who understand the complexities of being a stay-at-home parent.
Perhaps a deeper conversation is in order — one that might lead to a greater appreciation of what each partner contributes to the household.
Last Updated on September 6, 2024 by Sarah Kester
