We’ve all been there. A relationship has ended and now we have to decide if we want to remain friends with our former partner. It can be tough, not to mention awkward, but one celebrity has arrived to provide a little encouragement.
In a recent interview, Gwyneth Paltrow discussed rekindling her friendship with her ex Brad Pitt , as well as what her current husband thinks about it.
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In case you forgot, Gwyneth Paltrow was engaged to Brad Pitt.
This was quite a while ago now, though that hurts to admit. The two dated throughout the early ’90s before getting engaged in 1996, then subsequentially breaking up later that same year.
She admits that their friendship wasn’t immediate.
“When we first broke up, we weren’t friends for a while,” Paltrow told Entertainment Tonight , “Then we sort of found our way back, probably about 18 or 19 years ago, something like that, and then just kind of stayed in touch over the years.”
Now, she has nothing but positive things to say about him.
“I adore him. He’s an amazing person, and he’s a great entrepreneur, and such a creative, and such a good person. I really love him. I’m a big fan.”
Being friends with one’s ex can sometimes cause issues for current partners.
Thankfully, this doesn’t seem to be the case for Paltrow and her current husband, Brad Falchuk.
She and Falchuk got married in 2018 after over three years together.
He’s completely comfortable with Paltrow and Pitt’s friendship.
“My husband is probably like the least judgmental, most secure man in our relationship, so I think he totally respects [the friendship],” Paltrow praised.
“Probably one of the things that he likes about me is that I believe in conscious uncoupling […].”
‘Conscious uncoupling’ appears to be a philosophy of hers.
“[…] whether you’re uncoupling with a coworker, a spouse, a boyfriend, I really do believe that if you’ve invested in somebody — and of course there are exceptions — to amputate that relationship [shows that] maybe you’re not then fully letting the full lesson reveal itself and the healing happen.”
She sees value in reconnecting with relationships lost, be they romantic or otherwise.
“So even though sometimes it can be uncomfortable, I think it’s nice to work through it and reconnect with the value that that person brought to your life.”
Basically, reflecting on the past can help with the present.
“And then I think we’ve learned a lot from our first marriages,” she said of herself and Falchuk.
“I think we have a great almost reverence for commitment and building, continuing to nourish a marriage. We’ve become very good communicators, and so that’s a very important part.”
Seeing a relationship with such healthy communication is amazing!
Though Paltrow’s always been the open type, so maybe this isn’t really a surprise.
Still, seeing others encourage remaining friends with old flames is a positive thing. Just because you’re not dating anymore, doesn’t mean there’s no value to be had from keeping them in your life!
h/t: ET
