Grandma Challenges DIL’s Strict ‘Firsts’ Rule: Is She Stealing Memories or Seeking Fun?

Hey there, Facebook fam! Have you ever had a disagreement with a family member over their parenting rules? Well, buckle up, because today’s story is all about a grandma who’s caught in a sticky situation with her daughter-in-law. This lovely grandma has been babysitting her adorable 3-year-old grandson, but her DIL’s strict ‘firsts’ rule is causing some friction. She’s just trying to make sure she’s being reasonable, but things take an unexpected turn. So, grab your favorite snack and let’s dive into this family drama!

Second Opinion Needed

Close Family

Sweet Little Grandson

Babysitting Duties

The ‘Firsts’ Rule

List of Firsts

Over-the-Top Restrictions?

‍♀️ What Do They Do All Day?

Stuck at Home

Suggestion Time

Not Happy

‍♀️ Not Trying to Overstep

Accusations

Grandma vs. Daughter-in-Law: The Battle of the ‘Firsts’ Rule

Our loving grandma has been babysitting her sweet 3-year-old grandson, but her daughter-in-law’s strict ‘firsts’ rule is causing some tension. This rule means that the DIL wants to be there for any ‘firsts’ her son experiences, from the first trip to the zoo to the first time playing with a toy. The problem? Grandma feels the restrictions are a bit over the top, and the DIL doesn’t actually do any of these ‘firsts’ with her son. ‍♀️ This leaves grandma and her bored grandson stuck at home with nothing to do. So, grandma suggests that maybe it’s time to relax the rule a bit. But, uh-oh! The DIL isn’t happy about this and accuses grandma of trying to steal her memories and special moments. And when grandma says she might not be able to babysit as much with these rules, the DIL accuses her of blackmail! Let’s see what the internet thinks of this sticky situation… ️‍♀️

Grandma suggests a sneaky way to create new memories.

Grandma wants to have fun with grandchild, NTA for asking.

Grandma praised for being a great MIL and grandma

Strict ‘firsts’ rule stunts child’s growth: commenter supports NTA

Grandma’s not the a-hole for disagreeing with strict ‘firsts’ rule

Grandma’s ‘Firsts’ rule is too restrictive, NTA for challenging

Son should mediate MIL and DIL relationship. NTA.

Grandma receives NTA for her babysitting decision

Grandma vs DIL: NTA or Manipulative?

Grandma questions DIL’s parenting skills and ‘firsts’ rule

Grandma questions DIL’s parenting, wants to have fun with grandchild

Suggest a list of allowed activities or stop being a doormat

Setting boundaries with grace and love ❤️

Suggests scheduling ‘firsts’ to avoid extra drama with DIL

Suggest approved places for child and challenge DIL’s ‘firsts’ rule

Grandma shares heartwarming memory of breaking ‘firsts’ rule.

Grandma gets permission to break DIL’s ‘firsts’ rule.

SAHM deserves time off, should compromise on ‘firsts’ rule. NTA

Former nanny defends need for toddler enrichment and independent play.

Grandma gets support for calling out DIL’s strict parenting.

Helpful comment calls out ridiculous ‘firsts’ rule

Language barrier leads to amusing defense of NTA judgement

Grandma wants to be there for firsts, but won’t participate?

Grandma calls out DIL’s strict ‘firsts’ rule, NTA wins support

Grandma suggests a compromise to strict ‘firsts’ rule.

Defending against ‘Firsts’ rule. School will be tough.

Grandma defies DIL’s strict ‘firsts’ rule, internet supports her.

Supportive comment suggests DIL may be struggling with depression.

SAHM’s ‘Firsts’ rule is ridiculous. Cut down babysitting time. NTA

User suggests taking a break from entitled people.

Grandma should join in on the ‘firsts’ or let it go

Grandparent defends against strict ‘firsts’ rule; urges reasonable request.

Bonding with son is important, communicate with grandma for support

Grandma stands up against DIL’s strict ‘firsts’ rule. NTA.

A helpful suggestion on how to ease DIL’s anxiety. ✌

Grandma is NTA and commenter questions DIL’s entitlement.

Get grandma involved in ‘first’ activity, make it a day.

Grandma questions daughter-in-law’s ‘firsts’ rule, suggests written approval.

Grandma seeks compromise with DIL over grandkid’s activities

Possible trust issues with grandma’s reluctance to let OP drive.

Involving your son in the conversation is a great idea

Grandma accused of blackmail for challenging DIL’s ‘firsts’ rule. NTA.

Grandma’s not the a**hole and deserves some free time

Grandma suggests compromise on ‘firsts’ rule for grandson’s experiences.

Inclusive ‘firsts’ plan to avoid grandma drama

Grandma finds ways to make memories with grandkids without stepping on DIL’s toes.

Grandma called lazy for challenging DIL’s ‘firsts’ rule

Grandma defends herself against DIL’s strict ‘firsts’ rule. NTA.

Parent defends grandma’s right to take grandkid out first. NTA

Toddler’s Firsts: Park and Zoo – Grandma calls out strict DIL.

Grandma defends herself against strict ‘firsts’ rule. #NTA

Dad complains about wife’s strict ‘firsts’ rule and double standards

Grandma stands up for herself and her freedom to babysit

NTA commenter suggests communication with son to avoid ridiculous rule.

Grandma just wants to have fun with her grandchild!

Grandma deserves gratitude, not restrictions for babysitting two days/week.

Honesty is the best policy, but is there more going on?

Grandma wants to take her 3-year-old grandchild to some places first, but the mom wants to do it. A commenter suggests a compromise. NTA.

Confused commenter questions grandma’s ‘firsts’ obsession.

Suggest fun outings for grandma to join without stealing memories

Stay-at-home dad suggests proactive communication to avoid conflict

Grandma defends her right to fun against DIL’s strict rules

Compromise with grandma for ‘firsts’ list or pull back?

Grandma’s desire for more ‘firsts’ limited by finances

Grandma finds creative solution to DIL’s strict ‘firsts’ rule

Recording memories can be a compromise You’re NAH

Grandma suggests DIL take son to places for more options. NTA.

Grandma’s support appreciated, NTA for wanting to experience firsts.

Grandma wants to take grandson out for new experiences. NTA.

Engaging indoor activity ideas for parent struggling with strict rule.

Grandma seeks understanding and compromise for ‘firsts’ rule. NTA

Grandma suggests a compromise to DIL’s ‘firsts’ rule

Grandma suggests hiring a babysitter to spoil the little one

Grandma stands up to DIL’s ‘firsts’ rule for the grandkid.

Grandma accused of stealing memories by DIL, but comment suggests NTA.

Set conditions for babysitting and take grandson to fun places

Grandma challenges DIL’s strict ‘firsts’ rule – NTA wins!

Grandma is NTA and DIL is being ridiculous

Grandma suggests a hands-off approach to ‘firsts’ rule. NTA

Setting boundaries with a weird rule. NTA

Grandma suggests a compromise to DIL’s strict ‘firsts’ rule. NTA.

Grandma sets boundary with exhausting DIL. ‍♀️

Mom accused of being lazy for strict ‘firsts’ rule.

Inclusive grandma wants to join in on grandson’s ‘firsts’

Grandma gets NTA for challenging DIL’s strict ‘Firsts’ rule