Girl’s Birthday Party DRAMA: Dad Says Invite Everyone or NO ONE!

Picture this: your daughter is turning twelve and wants a big pool party for her birthday . You rent out the local community center, and she wants to invite her whole class. But wait! There’s a catch… she wants to exclude just three kids . What do you do? Do you let her have her way, or do you stand your ground and teach her a valuable lesson about inclusivity? This is the dilemma one dad found himself in, and he’s wondering if he’s the a**hole for insisting that either everyone gets invited, or no one does. Let’s dive into the story… ‍♂️

Daughter’s Upcoming Birthday Party

The Invite List Dilemma

‍♀️ Big Pool Party? No Problem! ‍♀️

❌ Three Names Crossed Out

The Reason Behind the Exclusions

No Selective Invitations Allowed

The Potential Hurt

‍♀️ Big Party or Small Party?

The Aftermath

‍♂️ Am I the A**hole?

‍ Wife’s Perspective

No Bullies, Just Cruelty

Update: Final Verdict

️ Civil Discussions Appreciated

Putting Yourself in Their Shoes

A Better Approach

Big Party, Everyone’s Invited!

Dad’s Dilemma: Inclusivity or Daughter’s Wishes?

So, our dad of the hour rents out a community center for his daughter’s big pool party birthday bash. She wants to invite her whole class, but when she hands over the list of invitees, three names are crossed out . Dad asks why, and she says she just doesn’t like them. Dad insists that either everyone gets invited, or no one does, and now his daughter is upset and avoiding him . His wife thinks he’s being too harsh, but Dad believes he’s teaching his daughter an important lesson about not being cruel to others. After some reflection and a heart-to-heart, the daughter finally understands and decides to invite everyone to her party . So, what do you think? Was Dad right to stand his ground, or should he have let his daughter have her way? Let’s see what the internet thinks of this situation…

Inclusive party or none at all? NTA seeks advice

Teaching right vs. wrong and empathy. NTA wins.

Teacher suggests solutions for birthday party invite dilemma.

Excluded kids don’t want pity invites

Let your kid decide the guest list.

Tough call, but YTA. Celebrations should not come at a cost.

Empathize with the kid who hates being forced to socialize

NAH, but caution against ignoring gut instincts

Let her choose her own guests, Dad. YTA

Let the child choose their birthday party guests! YTA

Let her decide her guest list, YTA.

Figuring out why daughter doesn’t want some kids invited. NTA

Parent struggles with teaching kindness without forcing daughter to invite kids she doesn’t want to.

Let her have the party she wants to have.

Let her have her party with the friends she chooses.

Let her have her party her way! #RespectHerWishes

Prioritize your daughter’s safety and comfort over pleasing others.

Let her choose her own party guests, she’s not five

Dad gets called out for ‘everyone gets included BS’

Let her birthday, her friends, her rules!

Not obligated to invite everyone, even in adulthood. ‍♀️

Sometimes life isn’t fair, kids need to learn that. YTA

Teaching daughter wrong lesson. YTA

YTA comment shuts down birthday party drama with real talk.

Teaching kids to be nice ≠ forcing them to be friends

Parent shares experience of not inviting problematic kids to parties.

Empathize with your daughter! YTA comment gets to the point.

Teaching acceptance vs. excluding ‘weird’ kids

Let kids choose their friends for their birthday party

Respect your daughter’s wishes YTA for forcing her

Inclusion is important, but forcing it can do more harm

Let the birthday girl have a say

Pity invites? That’s worse than not being invited!

Let the girl invite who she wants! YTA

Let kids choose who to invite to their own party

Forcing a child to invite everyone can hurt more than help

Let your daughter choose her party guests, don’t prioritize others’ comfort.

Inclusive policy prevents bullying, protects underdogs

Let your daughter invite who she wants to her birthday

Choosing between a small party or inviting everyone? NTA wins

As the weird kid, it’s better not to go.

Birthday girl’s party, her choice of guests. Not everyone is invited.

A lesson on inclusivity: NTA’s parents taught the value of empathy

Listen to your kid. YTA for forcing them to invite everyone.

Inclusivity wins! Dad defends daughter’s birthday party etiquette.

Inviting everyone or no one to a class party dilemma

Agreement on inviting whole class or smaller group of friends.

Respect your daughter’s wishes and don’t invite those kids.

Respect the birthday girl’s wishes, YTA.

Teaching kids to trust their intuition in a dangerous world

Being inclusive is important, but safety comes first.

Understanding what ‘strange’ means is crucial to avoiding exclusion.

NTA! Stick to your principles, be just, fair & compassionate

Inviting more kids won’t hurt the birthday girl, but help others

At 11/12, associating with strange kids has risks

Being inclusive is key. Good on the dad for checking bullying.

Good parenting advice for a birthday party dilemma.

OP’s heart is in the right place, but it’s not kindergarten. Soft YTA ‍♀️

The commenter shares a personal story about being excluded from parties and how it affected them. They suggest talking to the teacher to understand why the daughter is against inviting certain classmates.

Teach your daughter to be a good person, not a bully

Encouraging open communication with daughter about ‘strange’ behavior.

Let her have boundaries on her own birthday!

Exclusion is bullying. NTA stands up against it

Teaching kindness and decency to kids is crucial.

Fairness in invitations: Is all or nothing the way?

Inclusive or exclusive? NTA sets the party rules.

Parent receives support for not indulging in rude behavior.

A thoughtful NTA comment with advice for cautious inclusion

Is it worth making yourself uncomfortable just to exclude others?

NTA advises caution with party invites based on personal experience.

Teaching empathy: NTA dad stands up to bullying behavior

Dad stands up against bullying and sets a good example!

Teaching kids kindness – NTA dad takes responsibility

Supportive comment defends dad’s decision to exclude kids from party.

Teaching daughter to do right, but should dad speak with teacher?

Exclusion hurts, NTA is right, invite closer friends or everyone

Excluding kids from a birthday party sticks with them for life

Inclusive parenting wins! Empathy is key to happiness.

Teaching empathy: a lesson every parent should impart. ‍

Being excluded from a party can leave deep emotional scars

Invite everyone, even the ‘weird’ kids, to be fair. NTA

Inclusivity matters. Small party or invite everyone? NTA wins.

Exclusion hurts at any age

Why exclude only 3 out of 20? NTA.

Excluding ‘strange’ kids is hurtful. NTA for not inviting.