Family drama can be tough, especially when it comes to in-laws. One woman took to the Am I The A*****e subreddit to ask if she was in the wrong for leaving her fiancé alone after he compared her to his mom. The woman had been caring for her fiancé after his heart surgery, but he became ungrateful and started comparing her to his mom. He even said that his mom should have been the first woman in his life. The woman couldn’t handle it and left to stay with her cousin. Now, she’s asking if she’s the a*****e for leaving him alone. Read on to find out what Redditors had to say about the situation.
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Left after fiancé compared me to his mom post surgery ♀️

Leaving fiancé after surgery, called AH for not calling mom

Family thinks I’m TA for leaving fiance after heart surgery

Comparing me to his mom after heart surgery? I left
When it comes to relationships, setting boundaries is important. This woman did just that when her fiancé’s mother constantly competed with her. After her fiancé had heart surgery, she was the one caring for him 24/7. However, he started being ungrateful and comparing her to his mom. He gave her backhanded compliments and even said that she should be the first woman in his life. Fed up with his behavior, she walked out and went to stay at her cousin’s house. Who’s in the wrong here? Is she the one who should have called his mom? Let’s take a look at what people have to say in the comments.
Leaving a mama’s boy, NTA. But maybe consider a conversation first?

Fiancé compares her to his mom after surgery, she leaves him

He can call you but not his mom? NTA.

NTA, re-evaluate relationship.

Don’t be his mommy, NTA. Listen to the replies.
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Run, OP, run! A realtor’s story warns of a controlling MIL.

Fiancé expects subservience and belittles partner after surgery, NTA for leaving

Run, girl, run! ♀️ ♀️ ♀️ NTA for leaving him!

NTA, but watch out for mama’s boys

Run before you tie yourself to two people who are clearly perfect for each other.

Red flag alert! NTA for leaving him due to emotional i****t.

NTA for leaving after taking care of your mean fiancé.

Leave him, NTA. He’s calling you useless after surgery.

Dumping a mama’s boy is easier than a divorce

Sassy and savage. NTA comment shut down fiancé’s immature behavior.

Break up & move on. Don’t settle for a momma’s boy

Respectful NTA comment advises leaving controlling fiancé

NTA. Supportive comment, with a hint of sarcasm

Red flag alert! Run away from the ‘mummy boy’ ♀️

Don’t settle for second place . Your partner should prioritize you.

Commenter jokes about fiancé’s attachment to his mother, NTA.

Fiancé’s entitled behavior after heart surgery – NTA for leaving

Commenter humorously calls out ex-fiancé, NTA verdict supported.

Don’t settle for a man who compares you to his mom

Don’t settle for less! You deserve better

Don’t let him compare you to his mom! NTA, move on.
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Don’t marry into toxicity

Let his mom take over? ♀️ Last nail in the coffin? ⚰️ NTA!

Don’t let him guilt-trip you for not being his mom ♀️

Leaving him was the right choice. NTA

Leaving him after heart surgery? NTA. Hope it’s ex-fiancé now

Don’t let him compare you to his mom, you’re doing great

Don’t let anyone gaslight you, NTA.

Leaving a fiancé after heart surgery, NTA.

Run Forrest Run ♂️. NTA, that’s some messed up mom-son relationship.

Breaking off engagement after heart surgery comparison, NTA wins

Don’t settle for being compared to his mom , you deserve better ❤️

You deserve better NTA for leaving him after hurtful comparison.

Breaking up with a mama’s boy

Leaving an ungrateful partner ♀️. Let his mom take care ♀️

Fiancé’s mommy issues? NTA for leaving him ♀️

Break free from the mama’s boy and breathe easy ️

Dump him, sis. You deserve better!

Leave the emotionally abusive fiancé, NTA.

Leave the calling to mom , you’re not the a**hole. NTA

Run fast and far ♀️ ♂️ from that family. NTA.

Fiancé compares OP to his mom after surgery, NTA for leaving?

Get out now and never look back, ♀️ you deserve better.

Nurse says NTA for leaving fiancé after heart surgery

Don’t marry a mama’s boy! NTA for leaving him. ♀️

Stand up for yourself, NTA for leaving

Burn! This commenter has no time for Oedipal complexes. NTA

Don’t marry him, he’ll compare you to his mom forever

Break up with him and let him be a mama’s boy ♀️

You go, girl! NTA and don’t look back.

Savage response! NTA for setting boundaries.

Standing up to abuse and leaving toxic relationships, NTA ♀️

Comparing to mother after surgery, NTA for leaving him

Commenter calls out ex-fiancé’s behavior, gets support.

Don’t let his mom get in the way of your happiness

NTA for leaving him after he compared you to his mom

Supportive commenters encourage OP to leave ungrateful fiancée

Leaving him was the right choice NTA

Commenter criticizes fiancé for being a mommy’s boy. ♀️
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Not the a**hole, but reconsider this marriage

Fiancé changes post-surgery, NTA for leaving.

NTA sees red flags in fiancé’s mom comparison post-surgery.

Ex-fiancé? NTA, if he can’t handle independence.

Commenter suggests leaving Mama’s boy fiancé

Dodged a bullet NTA, good for you!

Commenter firmly stands up for themselves, ♀️

Don’t let surgery be an excuse for verbal abuse. Good call!

Fiancé’s mom comparison after heart surgery, NTA for leaving

Time to move on. NTA.

Stand up for yourself! Emotional i****t is not okay.

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Last Updated on March 20, 2023 by Azka