Family drama can be tough, especially when it comes to in-laws. One woman took to the Am I The Asshole subreddit to ask if she was in the wrong for leaving her fiancé alone after he compared her to his mom. The woman had been caring for her fiancé after his heart surgery, but he became ungrateful and started comparing her to his mom. He even said that his mom should have been the first woman in his life. The woman couldn’t handle it and left to stay with her cousin. Now, she’s asking if she’s the asshole for leaving him alone. Read on to find out what Redditors had to say about the situation.
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Taking care of fiancé post-surgery, compared to his mom
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Left after fiancé compared me to his mom post surgery ♀️
Leaving fiancé after surgery, called AH for not calling mom
Family thinks I’m TA for leaving fiance after heart surgery
Comparing me to his mom after heart surgery? I left
When it comes to relationships, setting boundaries is important. This woman did just that when her fiancé’s mother constantly competed with her. After her fiancé had heart surgery, she was the one caring for him 24/7. However, he started being ungrateful and comparing her to his mom. He gave her backhanded compliments and even said that she should be the first woman in his life. Fed up with his behavior, she walked out and went to stay at her cousin’s house. Who’s in the wrong here? Is she the one who should have called his mom? Let’s take a look at what people have to say in the comments.
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Leaving a mama’s boy, NTA. But maybe consider a conversation first?
Fiancé compares her to his mom after surgery, she leaves him
He can call you but not his mom? NTA.
NTA, re-evaluate relationship.
Don’t be his mommy, NTA. Listen to the replies.
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Run, OP, run! A realtor’s story warns of a controlling MIL.
Fiancé expects subservience and belittles partner after surgery, NTA for leaving
Run, girl, run! ♀️ ♀️ ♀️ NTA for leaving him!
NTA, but watch out for mama’s boys
Run before you tie yourself to two people who are clearly perfect for each other.
Red flag alert! NTA for leaving him due to emotional incest.
NTA for leaving after taking care of your mean fiancé.
Leave him, NTA. He’s calling you useless after surgery.
Dumping a mama’s boy is easier than a divorce
Sassy and savage. NTA comment shut down fiancé’s immature behavior.
Break up & move on. Don’t settle for a momma’s boy
Respectful NTA comment advises leaving controlling fiancé
NTA. Supportive comment, with a hint of sarcasm
Red flag alert! Run away from the ‘mummy boy’ ♀️
Don’t settle for second place . Your partner should prioritize you.
Commenter jokes about fiancé’s attachment to his mother, NTA.
Fiancé’s entitled behavior after heart surgery – NTA for leaving
Commenter humorously calls out ex-fiancé, NTA verdict supported.
Don’t settle for a man who compares you to his mom
Don’t settle for less! You deserve better
Don’t let him compare you to his mom! NTA, move on.
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Don’t marry into toxicity
Let his mom take over? ♀️ Last nail in the coffin? ⚰️ NTA!
Don’t let him guilt-trip you for not being his mom ♀️
Leaving him was the right choice. NTA
Leaving him after heart surgery? NTA. Hope it’s ex-fiancé now
Don’t let him compare you to his mom, you’re doing great
Don’t let anyone gaslight you, NTA.
Leaving a fiancé after heart surgery, NTA.
Run Forrest Run ♂️. NTA, that’s some messed up mom-son relationship.
Breaking off engagement after heart surgery comparison, NTA wins
Don’t settle for being compared to his mom , you deserve better ❤️
You deserve better NTA for leaving him after hurtful comparison.
Breaking up with a mama’s boy
Leaving an ungrateful partner ♀️. Let his mom take care ♀️
Fiancé’s mommy issues? NTA for leaving him ♀️
Break free from the mama’s boy and breathe easy ️
Dump him, sis. You deserve better!
Leave the emotionally abusive fiancé, NTA.
Leave the calling to mom , you’re not the a**hole. NTA
Run fast and far ♀️ ♂️ from that family. NTA.
Fiancé compares OP to his mom after surgery, NTA for leaving?
Get out now and never look back, ♀️ you deserve better.
Nurse says NTA for leaving fiancé after heart surgery
Don’t marry a mama’s boy! NTA for leaving him. ♀️
Stand up for yourself, NTA for leaving
Burn! This commenter has no time for Oedipal complexes. NTA
Don’t marry him, he’ll compare you to his mom forever
Break up with him and let him be a mama’s boy ♀️
You go, girl! NTA and don’t look back.
Savage response! NTA for setting boundaries.
Standing up to abuse and leaving toxic relationships, NTA ♀️
Comparing to mother after surgery, NTA for leaving him
Commenter calls out ex-fiancé’s behavior, gets support.
Don’t let his mom get in the way of your happiness
NTA for leaving him after he compared you to his mom
Supportive commenters encourage OP to leave ungrateful fiancée
Leaving him was the right choice NTA
Commenter criticizes fiancé for being a mommy’s boy. ♀️
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Not the a**hole, but reconsider this marriage
Fiancé changes post-surgery, NTA for leaving.
NTA sees red flags in fiancé’s mom comparison post-surgery.
Ex-fiancé? NTA, if he can’t handle independence.
Commenter suggests leaving Mama’s boy fiancé
Dodged a bullet NTA, good for you!
Commenter firmly stands up for themselves, ♀️
Don’t let surgery be an excuse for verbal abuse. Good call!
Fiancé’s mom comparison after heart surgery, NTA for leaving
Time to move on. NTA.
Stand up for yourself! Emotional incest is not okay.
Fiancé compares to his mom after surgery, NTA for leaving.
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