Fiancé Caught Red-Handed Spending $400 on Brother’s Non-Essentials

Picture this: you’re unemployed, struggling to make ends meet, and you catch your fiancé secretly trying to spend $400 of your hard-earned money on non-essential items for his brother. That’s exactly what happened to one woman who discovered her fiancé, Heath, attempting to buy his brother, Chris, a bunch of unnecessary items on Amazon. The woman confronted Heath, leading to a heated exchange and leaving her wondering if she’s in the wrong. Let’s dive into this dramatic tale!

Chris’ Terrible Life Choices ‍♀️

Survivor’s Guilt

Money Going Missing

Suspicious Bank Statements

Confronting Heath

Setting Limits

Losing Her Job

Heath’s New Job

Caught in the Act!

Confrontation Time!

Heath’s Defense ️

Money Matters

Standing Her Ground

Is She a Controlling A**hole? ‍♀️

So, our protagonist finds herself in a tough spot. She’s unemployed, trying to keep her family afloat, and her fiancé is secretly spending hundreds of dollars on his brother’s non-essential items. She put her foot down and stopped the transaction, but now Heath is accusing her of being a controlling a**hole. Who’s in the wrong here? Let’s take a look at the top responses from the internet to see what people think about this sticky situation…

NTA, lock down your card and have a hard talk

Separate finances, husband needs therapy, BIL needs a job

Commenter calls out fiancé for stealing and enabling lazy leeches

Finances in relationships can be tricky.

NTA for prioritizing living expenses and kids’ needs over brother’s wants

Fiancé steals $400 from OP to buy brother guilt gifts. NTA.

Fiancé spends $400 on brother, commenter questions relationship. NTA.

Fiancé spends $400 on brother’s non-essentials. NTA wants separate finances.

NTA. A therapist can help with survivor guilt and enabling.

Fiancé’s loyalty questioned over $400 spent on brother’s non-essentials. NTA.

Couples therapy or separation? NTA’s ultimatum for financial infidelity.

Debit card drama: Separate finances don’t always solve problems ‍♀️

Fiancé’s brother is using him for money. NTA for stopping it

Encouraging comment to seek therapy for unresolved trauma

Supporting a 33-year-old brother? NTA, he needs therapy

Fiancé enabling brother’s bad behavior, couple’s counseling recommended.

Husband’s brother needs therapy, not $400. NTA.

Spending $400 on non-essentials? NTA calls for brother to work

Fiancé’s theft from OP and brother’s non-essentials sparks concern ❤️

NTA. Prioritizing budget and long-term goals over brother’s non-essentials

NTA, separate finances and seek professional help for survivor guilt

OP is NTA for preventing the purchase, but YTA if she marries him.

Cancel the card and don’t let him have it!

Don’t marry if you can’t agree on finances. NTA.

Chris is controlling Heath, NTA stands up for fiancé.

Friend stole my card for Christmas presents, broke trust. NTA.

NTA. SIL unknowingly funding brother’s living expenses

Enabling brother’s laziness? NTA says what we’re all thinking

“Lazy brother” spends $400 of fiancé’s money on non-essentials. NTA.

Fiancé stole debit card from purse to make purchase

Codependency with brother, but NTA. Consider your options

Enabling brother’s non-essentials? Therapy needed. NTA

Commenter receives validation for not being the a**hole

Think twice before saying ‘I do’ Therapy recommended

NTA. Husband needs to prioritize family and consider therapy

Commenter defends spending, tells brother to get a job

Partner’s brother takes advantage of generosity, NTA for setting boundaries

Red flags everywhere! NTA, separate finances & leave ASAP.

Spending $400 on brother’s non-essentials? NTA. Marriage counseling needed.

Brother’s laziness costs fiancé $400, commenter suggests job hunting

Financial infidelity in a relationship is a major red flag

Fiancé’s constant stealing raises red flags

Dump that loser too.

Sensible advice to deal with a partner’s financial betrayal

Prioritizing family and finances, NTA for not funding brother’s luxuries

Husband enabling brother’s behavior, serious talk needed for marriage

Spending on brother instead of wife and kids? Major a-hole

Don’t marry a lying manipulator with no spine

Cancel cards, request new ones. He won’t stop spending

Commenter suggests solutions to fiancé’s financial problem with brother

Fiancé’s secret spending causes trust issues. NTA for confronting.

Commenter suggests therapy for husband prioritizing brother over family

Survivor’s guilt is real. Therapy can help. NTA

Red flags in a relationship: financial infidelity and prioritizing family over partner

Protect your family’s finances and confront the issue head-on.

Partner is a thief prioritizing his brother over family

Fiancé caught spending $400 on brother’s non-essentials. Commenter says NTA.

Partner won’t change despite not being the a-hole ‍♀️

Partner steals and lies, NTA for leaving with your kids.

Fiancé caught spending on brother’s non-essentials, NTA seeks advice

Deceitful fiancé caught spending $400 on brother’s non-essentials

NTA stands firm against lazy brother’s non-essentials

Red flags raised by secretive spending habits. NTA.

Fiancé’s loyalty to brother over partner leads to financial betrayal

NTA for stopping financial support, family abuse has consequences

Separate accounts from irresponsible fiancé spending $400 on non-essentials

Prioritizing family in a relationship vs expenses

Protect your finances and family from irresponsible brother-in-law.

NTA suggests counseling for fiancé’s financial dishonesty and guilt.

Commenter suggests therapy for fiance to deal with guilt