A father of three children has refused to pay his daughter’s college fees after she gave money to her mother. He controls a small education fund started by his great-grandmother for each of his children, to which he has added his own money. His ex-wife has never contributed to the fund but has always wanted equal control of it. He has always refused her request, and she has always gotten upset. He pays child support but has refused to give any money from the education fund. His son went to college, and the father paid the school every semester. His daughter insisted that he gives her the entire fund during her second year of college. He relented but made it clear that this was all the money for her college education, and she would have to find her own way if she needed more. She gave the money to her mother, and now she has run out of money. The father has refused to give her more money and has told her to find her own way. Is he being petty for refusing to pay for his daughter’s college education? Read on to find out.
Family drama: Father withholds daughter’s college fund over money dispute
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A family’s college fund controlled by a single family member.
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College fund not legally bound, father withholds daughter’s money.
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Father refuses daughter’s college fund to spite ex-wife
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Daughter denied college fund after supporting dad’s ex-wife financially.
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Father denies daughter’s college fund over ex-wife’s money.
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Father refuses to trust son with college fund for privacy
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Son wisely declines college fund, dad proud.
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Father denies daughter college fund for defying him and mom
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Father cuts daughter off for giving money to his ex-wife
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Daughter loses college fund after helping dad’s ex-wife
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Daughter denied college fund for helping dad’s ex-wife: consequences explained
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Dad refuses daughter’s college fund as she learns hard lesson
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Father denies daughter college fund, sparks family conflict.
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ETA explanation clears confusion, what’s the next move?
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Father explains unequal distribution of college funds among children.
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Dad helps daughter build credit, but now it’s being used…
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College fund withheld from daughter for helping stepmom ❌
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Daughter sacrifices education fund to support dad’s ex-wife?
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Living in the land of the free , but is family really free?
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Father refuses to pay daughter’s tuition after she gave money to his ex-wife
A father is facing backlash after refusing to pay for his daughter’s college tuition after she gave money to his ex-wife. The father controlled an education fund for his children, which was started by his great-grandmother. The father added his own money to the fund, but his ex-wife never contributed. She always wanted equal control of the fund, but the father always refused. The father paid for his son’s education by sending the money directly to the school, but his daughter wanted the entire fund for herself. The father eventually relented but warned her that once the money was gone, she was on her own. The daughter gave money to the father’s ex-wife, causing her to run out of money for college. The father refused to pay for her tuition, believing that she needed to learn a hard lesson and find her own way. Now, the father’s other daughter is being pressured to access her fund to help her sister. Despite criticism, the father stands by his decision. Read on for reactions and comments.
Father stands his ground on daughter’s college fund, supported by commenters.

Father refuses to give daughter college fund after ex-wife takes it. Comments agree daughter is victim of manipulative mother, suggest paying school directly to protect her.

Daughter gave college fund to ex-wife, father not responsible. NTA.

Daughter learns lesson as father refuses college fund for ex-wife.

Father stands firm on college fund after daughter gives away money

Father stands his ground on daughter’s college fund
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Father stands firm on college fund decision, values daughter’s lesson.

Protecting daughter’s college fund from father’s emotional manipulation

Ex-wife manipulates daughter into giving her money. NTA but hard choices.

Daughter gave money to ex-wife, dad withholds college fund. NTA.

Daughter gave college fund to mom, now father won’t pay. NTA.

Daughter wastes college fund, father refuses to give in.

Commenter supports OP’s decision and predicts the outcome.

Protect your daughter from her manipulative mother with a simple lie
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Daughter learns hard lesson about toxic ex-wife, father blamed

Father refuses to pay daughter’s college fund, offers to match ex-wife’s contribution. NTA.

Teaching a lesson: Refusing college fund after daughter’s mistake

Commenter suggests helping Amy and criticizing the father’s ex-wife.

Teaching a lesson with tough love.

Setting boundaries with money and family drama ♀️

Father considers daughter’s situation with ex-wife before taking action

Empowerment and education must go hand in hand

Protecting daughter’s college fund from manipulative ex-wife.

Daughter learns expensive life lesson as father stands his ground

Father refuses to give daughter college fund after she gave money to his ex-wife. Commenters debate consequences and responsibility.

Learning life lessons can be tough, but necessary

Protecting the family’s financial well-being

Father has a trustee-level obligation to ensure daughter’s education fund.

Father stands firm on not funding college twice, advises caution.

Daughter stands up to greedy ex, keeps college fund.

Teachable moment: Daughter learns to make wise choices with money

Teaching responsibility: Father cuts off daughter’s college fund

Teaching her to fish: NTA’s advice for guiding daughter’s education

Set boundaries with entitled daughter, empathize with father’s situation.

Refusing financial aid but daughter needs help suing ex-wife.
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Sometimes tough love is the best teacher

Supporting daughter after mother’s financial abuse is key

Divorced father struggles with daughter’s college fund and ex-wife drama.

Parent struggles with allowing adult decisions and protecting child’s future.

Father stands firm in teaching daughter tough love

The importance of therapy for kids in tough family situations

Father stands firm on daughter’s college fund, warns second daughter.

Daughter not at fault for helping her stepmother. NTA.

Daughter’s college fund used for something else: NTA dad

Daughter messed up, but can’t blame dad for not bailing.

Daughter denied college fund after helping father’s ex-wife ❌

Daughter not the a**hole, ex-wife manipulated her. Awkward family dynamics

Daughter not the a**hole for giving money to mom’s victim.

Protecting your children’s financial future vs. standing up to toxic behavior

Supportive comment defends daughter’s actions against manipulative ex and suggests alternative solutions.

Daughter loses college fund over ex-wife’s money. ♂️

Teaching valuable lessons ❤️

Daughter caught in crossfire of ex-wife’s betrayal, father’s punishment. ESH
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Curious about ex-wife’s use of money

Clear boundaries set, younger daughter warned, NTA for withholding funds

Daughter wants dad to fund her college twice. Don’t give in

Daughter wastes college fund, gets rightfully called out. ♂️

Daughter’s trust broken by manipulative mother, father cuts college fund.

Clear conditions set, daughter learns responsibility. Offer financial advice/support.

Teaching responsibility

Be the responsible parent and set clear boundaries with trust funds
