Family can be complicated, and sometimes even more so when it comes to step-siblings. Our story today involves a woman who has had a strained relationship with her step-sister for years, due to the step-sister’s mother’s treatment of her. After a year of no contact, the step-sister reaches out for help – but not for a heart-to-heart. Instead, she asks for money. Let’s dive into this dramatic tale and see how it unfolds.
Growing Up Together, But Never Close

A Brief Bonding Moment

Moving Away and Losing Contact

The Silent Treatment Begins

More Family Members Cut Off

Attempts to Reach Out

The Unexpected Message

A Bad Situation and a Plea for Help

The Difficult Decision

Setting Boundaries and Feeling Guilty

Dad’s Opinion: Family is Family ♂️

To Help or Not to Help: The Family Dilemma
After years of a strained relationship with her step-sister, our protagonist finds herself in a tough spot when her step-sister reaches out for financial help. Having been cut off from her niece and nephew for over a year, she’s hesitant to lend a hand. Despite feeling guilty and her father’s insistence that ‘family is family,’ she chooses to set boundaries and declines to help her step-sister. But was it the right decision? Let’s see what people have to say about this family drama…
Maintain boundaries with abusive family, stepsister not entitled to money

Family is family, but sister can’t ghost and then ask for money

Setting boundaries with family: NTA for saying no to sister’s request

NTA commenter rejects sister’s request for money after abuse

Protecting yourself from family drama doesn’t make you the a**hole

Don’t let her use you. Family isn’t always family

Cutting off contact doesn’t mean you’re a money tree

Dad should give her the money. You owe them nothing.

No contact with family, focus on your own children

When ‘family is family’ only applies when it’s convenient…

Step sister cut contact, now wants money. NTA response.

Cutting off toxic family member, seeking visitation with kids. ♀️

Sister cuts off contact, then asks for money? NTA.

NTA, money won’t help niece/nephew, don’t give it

Cutting off toxic family members is sometimes necessary

User sympathizes with commenter’s family situation

Family drama and tough choices. Navigating AHs and priorities.

NTA, consider reaching out to father of niece/nephew

Family drama and money troubles, but NTA stands firm

Family by marriage used and abused OP, now wants money

Sister cuts off contact, now wants money? NTA, set boundaries

Family only wants you when they need something

NTA suggests dad should help sister, not OP.
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Supportive comment defends OP and criticizes abusive father.

Don’t let guilt-trips fool you. NTA. Set boundaries

Cut off toxic family, let dad deal with sister’s request

Cutting off toxic family members is sometimes necessary. NTA
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Don’t let toxic family guilt trip you. NTA!

No guilt-tripping here. Family drama and money don’t mix
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NTA’s father needs to answer some tough questions

Cutting off step-family and dad may be necessary. NTA

Don’t be a sacrificial lamb. You’re still being abused

Savage response to entitled sister, share on social media

Sister cuts off contact, then asks for money? NTA wins

Step-mum and sis cut contact, now sister wants money. NTA

Family only when they need money? NTA stands firm.

Don’t give in to family drama, actions have consequences

Family bond was never there, sister used OP for services. NTA

Family ties shouldn’t be exploited for personal gain

Actions have consequences. NTA for not giving money.

Don’t fall for the ‘family comes first’ trap
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NTA, no obligation to give money, period.

Don’t give money if she’s abusing substances. NTA, take care

Don’t let her use you for money, she’s not family

Family is family, but is it fair to expect support?
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Don’t give in to emotional blackmail. NTA

Maintain boundaries, family can’t use you for money

Don’t let toxic family guilt you into giving them money

Family only wants you when they need you. NTA

Protecting yourself from toxic family is important

Cutting ties with family doesn’t mean cutting ties with siblings.

Cutting off toxic family members is sometimes necessary

Supportive comment against abusive family with clear reasoning.

Setting boundaries with family is important. NTA for saying no
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Cutting off family for money?

Don’t be a doormat for people who only need you

When family treats you like c**p, it’s okay to say no ♀️

NTA! Stepsister asks for money after cutting contact
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Cutting off family for a reason. NTA for not helping.

Last Updated on February 18, 2024 by Diply Social Team