Divorce can be messy, but what happens when the aftermath continues to haunt you years later? One woman found herself in a moral dilemma after her ex-husband cheated on her and fathered a child with another woman. After their divorce, he repeatedly asked her to help with his son, but she always refused. Now, he’s trying to turn their children against her. Should she have helped him out, or is she justified in her refusal? Let’s dive into the story.
The Divorce: Cheating and a Child
End of Marriage, New Relationship
Keeping Distance
Tragedy Strikes
Ex’s Requests for Help
Family Inclusion Attempts
Accident and Foster Care
Ex’s Recovery and Son’s Return
Turning the Kids Against Her
Spreading the Word
Friends’ Opinions
Caught in a Moral Dilemma: Who’s Right? ♀️
After her ex-husband cheated on her and fathered a child with another woman, this woman found herself in a tough situation. Her ex repeatedly asked for help with his son, but she refused every time. Now, he’s trying to turn their children against her and spreading rumors about her heartlessness. Some of her friends even think she’s in the wrong for not helping her children’s half-brother. What do you think? Let’s check out some of the internet’s top reactions to this dilemma.
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Setting boundaries, NTA. Ex is the AH for bad talking.
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Ex-husband’s attempt to manipulate family backfires, kids see through it.
Ex-husband’s request for help denied, justified or heartless?
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Ex-husband cheated, expects ex-wife to babysit his lovechild? NTA
Document harassment & ensure kids’ safety. NTA.
NTA. While it’s sad for the kid, you have no obligation.
Not responsible for ex’s child due to his infidelity. NTA
NTA, blunt comment shuts down ex-husband’s plea for sympathy
Single parenting is tough, but ex-husband can’t force help. NTA
Single comment section. NTA ex-husband needs help with childcare.
Ex-husband cheated, wants ex-wife to be mother figure. Commenter says NTA.
NTA. People blaming woman for man’s actions. Ex treating you selfishly.
Ex-husband’s behavior towards kids is unacceptable. NTA.
NTA for refusing to help ex raise mistress’ son. Foster instead.
Not your kid, not your problem. ♀️
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You’re not responsible for his poor decisions. NTA
Document your ex-husband’s behavior. Don’t let him manipulate your kids.
Gender doesn’t determine maternal responsibility. Where was his family?
Compassionate response to ex-husband’s plea, but boundaries are important.
Not your kid, not your responsibility. ♀️
Ex-husband’s manipulative tactics exposed. Stand your ground.
Ex-husband’s son: NTA refuses to help, asks friends to offer.
Ex-husband’s plea for help denied by NTA stepmother.
NTA suggests foster care for ex’s child, not her responsibility.
Ex-husband’s boundary issues causing strain on shared family dynamic.
Ex-husband cheated and got OW pregnant, but expects help? NTA ♀️
Ex-husband’s request for help denied, NTA. Not your responsibility.
Frustration over entitled men expecting their exes to parent children.
No obligation to have a constant reminder of ex’s affair. #NTA
NTA: Not your kid, not your problem.
No family ties to ex’s son. Friends should take him in. ♀️
NTA. Creative solution suggested and legal advice given.
NTA- Your strength and boundaries are valid. Don’t take blame.
Ex-husband’s request denied, but potential legal action for bad mouthing.
NTA seeks advice on getting full custody of kids from AH ex-husband.
Single parent ex-husband wants help. Commenter says NTA, hire sitter.
NTA: Not your kid, not your responsibility. End of discussion.
You’re not responsible for your ex’s poor parenting choices.
Ex-husband’s audacity to use you as a replacement mother? NTA.
Stand firm and don’t be manipulated into taking on responsibilities.
Ex-husband’s entitled request met with justified NTA response.
Stand your ground! You are NTA in this situation.
Protecting yourself from your ex’s child doesn’t make you TA
Ex-husband’s request for help denied. NTA x 1000. Don’t enable him.
The impact of parental decisions on half-siblings
Ex-husband cheated but wants ex-wife to raise his lovechild? YTA.
NTA’s opinion on temporary foster care and emotional baggage.
Ex-husband’s request to take in love child denied. Drama ensues.
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NTA seeks legal advice to address parental alienation accusations.
NTA, but revise custody agreement and watch for parental alienation
Co-parenting advice for a difficult ex-husband.
Former foster kid defends OP’s decision not to take in child.
NTA defends herself against ex-husband’s plea for help.
Choosing to take in your ex’s child is commendable, but challenging
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Not your child, not your responsibility. NTA.
Not responsible for ex-husband’s choices. Karma is a b*tch.
Scornful comment on ex-husband’s affair and its consequences.
Legal advice may be needed for bad-mouthing ex-spouse to kids
Responsible parenting or heartless behavior? NTA makes a stand
NTA. He’s a grown man who should have had a contingency plan.
Ex-husband’s request denied, child’s well-being prioritized. NTA
Don’t want to help your ex’s child? Pass the torch!
Ex-husband’s request for help deemed unhealthy and not OP’s responsibility
NTA for not engaging with ex-husband’s affair child. He’s TA for pushing and shaming.
NTA! OP is strong for not allowing her ex-husband to abuse her further.
Ex-husband cheated and wants help? NTA, he’s responsible for OW.
Ex-husband’s entitlement denied, NTA for setting boundaries.
Protect your kids from parental alienation. NTA, call lawyer
NTA: You owe him nothing. His affair baby is not your responsibility.
Not your responsibility . Single dad should have planned better.
NTA. Ex-husband is responsible for his affair child.
Family drama: Commenter defends NTA judgment on step-sibling relationship.
Divorced mom not responsible for ex-husband’s love child. NTA
Bluffing to avoid police? Stay strong and NTA!
Not my kid, not my problem. Karma’s a b***h ♀️
Ex-wife refuses to help ex-husband’s son. NTA.
