Divorce Over Abortion: Husband’s Heartbreak

Picture this: You and your spouse have been together for 4.5 years, married for 2, and you both agreed on having kids. But when the pregnancy test comes back positive, your partner starts having doubts. You give them space, but when they get pregnant again, they’re still unsure. You’re left wondering if your dreams of starting a family will ever come true. This is the story of our conflicted husband, who finds himself questioning his marriage and the future he envisioned.

Marriage and Kids: The Agreement

Baby on the Way!

Not Ready Yet…

Pregnant Again!

Waiting Game ⏳

Kids or No Kids?

Relationship Rethink

Abortion and Divorce

Friends and Tears

Conflicted Feelings

Uncertainty and Stringing Along

Clarification: Not Actively Trying

Pro-Choice and Abortions

Canadian Medical Abortion

Divorce Over Abortion: Right or Wrong?

Our conflicted husband and his wife agreed on having kids before marriage. However, when his wife got pregnant twice, she expressed doubts about having children both times. Despite giving her space to make her own decisions, he couldn’t help but feel strung along, as starting a family was extremely important to him. Eventually, she got an abortion and he started divorce proceedings. Now, some friends are saying he’s wrong for separating over this, and his wife has called him sobbing. The husband is torn between his love for his wife and his desire to have children. So, what does the internet have to say about this heart-wrenching situation? Let’s dive into the top responses and see if we can find some clarity.

Mismatched priorities lead to heartbreaking divorce.

Communication is key in relationships , NTA for ending it

Fundamental incompatibility: wanting kids vs not. You’re NTA.

Mismatched views on starting a family led to divorce

Honesty is key in relationships

Compromising on having kids and abortion is not easy. NTA.

NTA for not wanting to have kids with someone unreliable

Choosing to end a marriage over differing opinions on children.

Finding a partner with compatible values is crucial for happiness ❤️

Choosing between forced parenthood and childlessness: a heartbreaking dilemma

Divorce doesn’t always require fights or falling out of love

Heartbreaking but NTA. Move on and become an awesome dad

NTA. Don’t let mutuals guilt or gaslight you. Break clean.

Choosing to have kids or not can lead to divorce ‍♂️

Clear communication is key. NTA for standing your ground.

NTA for wanting different things. Find a new partner.

NTA, fundamental incompatibility. “Mutual friends” can f**k off

NTA but timelines don’t add up Why no birth control? Get divorce.

Divorce due to incompatible life goals, not bodily autonomy. ✌

Choosing to have a family is important, but compromising is crucial.

Divorce over kids is understandable, healthy differences are fine

NTA divorces wife over abortion disagreement. Marriage matters

Pro-choice comment sparks controversy and criticism

Important lesson for couples: agree on having children before marriage. ✅

Better to end it than force a major disagreement ✌

Changing views on children can end relationships. NTA.

Respectful NTA realizes incompatibility and prioritizes own desires

Choosing the right time to have kids

Divorce over differing opinions on abortion.

Leaving wife over family disagreement, not abortion. #NTA

Child-free choice leads to divorce: a heartbreak for husband ❤

Clarifying the real reason behind the divorce

Navigating the compatibility issue of having children. ‍

Partner’s changed stance on kids leads to heartbreak and divorce

Divorce over abortion was just the tip of the iceberg

Life’s too short to be with someone who doesn’t share goals ✌

Stand up for your dreams, not someone else’s insecurities.

Choosing to have kids or not can end relationships

Contraceptive conversation turns into abortion debate

NTA. Abortion shouldn’t be used as birth control.

NTA regrets marrying someone who lied about wanting kids.

Irresponsible behavior leads to divorce. NTAH

Heartbroken dad-to-be split from partner over secret abortion ❤️

Supporting pro-choice but criticizing partner’s carelessness and inconsideration

Emotional NTA comment on partner’s abortion decision.

Heartbreaking divorce over incompatible views on having children

Don’t let others dictate your relationship choices

NTA commenter empathizes with wife’s decision, urges understanding.

Having kids is a dealbreaker. NTA for wanting them.

Choosing not to have kids is valid. NTA

Respectful NTA comment acknowledges both parties’ rights and feelings.

Divorce over abortion: No compromise, best to divorce. ✌

Did she lie about wanting kids? Incompatibility leads to divorce.

NTA, different life goals and a child’s unfairness. End it

Compassionate comment offers support for heartbroken husband ❤️

Relationship dealbreakers: kids vs no kids, a devastating situation

NTA calls out irresponsible abortion use as birth control

Heartbreak and incompatibility after a change of future plans.

NTA. You made it clear that you wanted kids and if she’s going to pull the “I don’t think I’m ready” card every single time she falls pregnant, then you’ll *never* have kids because she’ll *never* be “ready”.

Ex-wife may have misled him into marriage and changed her mind.

Clear communication is crucial for a successful relationship ✌️

NTA. Pro-choice, but two abortions when planning a family? Move on.

Move on, you deserve clarity and closure.

Supportive comment, encouraging a hopeful future

NTAH. Incompatible on kids. Proceed with divorce.

Misleading title, but NTA for separating over incompatible desires

NTA. Kids are a major life decision ‍ , it’s unfair to expect you to give up.

Putting yourself first isn’t selfish. NTA, end it amicably.

Don’t waste each other’s time, go your separate ways.

Honesty is key in relationships, NTA for not wanting kids

NTA suggests birth control for avoiding unwanted pregnancy

Marriage is not just for having children ‍ ‍

Not the a**hole for leaving incompatible partner.

Divorce due to mismatched wants and goals, not abortions. NTA

Choosing different futures led to a natural relationship end.