In a world where family ties are often considered sacred, one woman finds herself in a difficult position. This 30-year-old mother of two, living in a small three-bedroom house with her husband, is faced with a decision that’s causing a rift in her family. Her 67-year-old mother, recently widowed and looking to relocate, has her sights set on moving in with her daughter’s family. But with space at a premium and tensions rising, this isn’t your typical ‘moving in with the kids’ story.
A Mother’s Request
The Family Home
Navigating Finances
The Temporary Arrangement
A Shift in Attitude
The House Hunt
The Countdown Begins ⏳
The Stubborn Standoff
A Tough Choice
Setting Boundaries
A Family Feud, a Facebook Unfriending, and a Mother’s Ultimatum
In a twist of events, the mother-daughter relationship takes a hit. The 67-year-old mother, recently widowed and eager to move closer to her daughter’s family, finds herself at odds with them. Despite their initial agreement to let her stay temporarily, the mother’s lack of active house hunting and her refusal to consider other living options have led to a standoff. With her house set to sell and no apartment in sight, she’s made a shocking claim: she’d rather live in her car with her cat than find another place to live. The daughter, standing her ground, is left dealing with the emotional fallout, including a painful Facebook unfriending. Let’s see how the internet weighs in on this family feud…
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NTA. Setting firm boundaries with widowed mother.
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NTA, but is the mother trying to move in permanently?
NTA Love doesn’t change physics.
I love my mother. My partner loves their family. Telling them they cannot live in our too small for more people house doesn’t mean I love them less or that I’m an AH. It means *my house is too f**king small*.
NTA. Daughter suspects mother’s intentions and wants her independence.
NTA She unfriended you on facebook though, I don’t know how you come back from that.
NTA. Set boundaries with manipulative and entitled mother. Support from afar.
NTA. She wanted someone to take over her responsibilities.
NTA: Don’t let her move in, or she’ll never leave!
NTA. Setting boundaries with family can be challenging.
NTA, seek support for mom’s grief and aging challenges. Good luck!
Stand your ground! Don’t let her take advantage of you
NTA. Setting boundaries with family can be tough
NTA but remember grief makes people act kind of crazy.
Daughter seeks therapy to cope with newfound independence.
Mom’s plan all along? You’re NTA for saying no!
NTA from my cultural perspective.
In my culture, it is very rare that elderly parents live with their adult children. They downsize to a smaller place, maybe closer to their children so they can see each other often but still have their own space and independence. When they get too weak to live on their own, they get daily visits from caregivers, and when that is no longer enough they move to a care home.
So for me, it would be a hard no for my mother to move in. She would not even ask it. Everyone would be so surprised if she even asked.
Maybe OP has other cultural background. But the verdict is a NTA from me.
NTA: Setting boundaries with a supportive heartbroken mother
Help her consider retirement homes for a stress-free lifestyle.
NTA but suggest therapy for scared, grieving mother. Compassion needed.
Daughter stands up to guilt-tripping mother, refuses to be manipulated
Supportive commenter empathizes with daughter’s dilemma and offers advice
NTA. Mom’s manipulative skills are dangerously ineffective.
Hold the line! Insist on a rental agreement. Don’t be manipulated.
Setting boundaries with family can be tough, but necessary. ✊
NTA, setting boundaries is important. Don’t let her manipulate you.
Setting boundaries with widowed mother, NTA.
NTA: Don’t let her move in, she’ll never leave!
Last Updated on November 4, 2023 by Diply Social Team
