Being a parent is tough, especially when you have twins with different talents and strengths. One father thought he was doing the right thing by trying to boost his daughter’s confidence, but his plan backfired in a way he never expected. Let’s dive into this emotional rollercoaster and see how a well-intentioned father’s actions led to heartbreak for his 11-year-old daughter.
Meet the Twins: Lily and Taylor

Lily’s Struggle

Feeling Inferior

Dad’s Plan to Help

Taylor Joins In

The Unfortunate Outcome

Lily’s Heartbreak

Family Time, but Not Sister Time

The Burning Question

Dad’s Clarification

Different Strengths, Unexpected Results

Lily’s Asperger’s

A Strong Message

A Father’s Plan Goes Awry
In an attempt to help his daughter Lily feel special and talented in her own right, this father signed her up for various competitions in her areas of interest, like painting and poetry. But when her twin sister Taylor joined in, she ended up outperforming Lily in every competition, leaving Lily feeling even more inferior. Despite therapy and family activities, Lily still doesn’t want to spend time with her sister. The father’s well-intentioned plan to boost Lily’s confidence ended up causing more heartache than healing. Let’s see what the internet thinks of this situation…
Dad’s attempt to boost daughter’s confidence backfires ♂️

Dad’s attempt to boost daughter’s confidence backfires. YTA.

Sibling of a child prodigy shares experience, gently calls YTA.

Let Lily be her own person, not second best

Dad’s attempt to boost daughter’s confidence backfires, YTA.

Ignoring Lily’s feelings, YTA lets neurotypical kid make decisions

Let Lily have her own identity. YTA for not understanding.

Forcing children to compete can hurt their relationship and self-esteem

Sibling’s experience warns against pushing gifted children too hard

Forcing siblings to compete? YTA. Lily’s confidence crushed
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Signed up daughter for competitions, then made source of anxiety join? YTA

Dad’s attempt to boost daughter’s confidence backfires, called out for insensitivity

Pushing daughter to compete backfires, YTA comment suggests learning disabilities.

Letting her sister outshine her was not the way, YTA

Dad’s attempt to boost daughter’s confidence backfires

Concerned commenter suggests underlying issues, warns against being TA.

Concerns raised about possible learning disability for struggling daughter.

Dad’s favoritism leads to YTA judgement and family tension

Dad’s attempt to boost daughter’s confidence backfires, YTA according to comment.

Twin calls out dad’s mistake, warns of future tension

Dad’s attempt to boost daughter’s confidence backfires, earns YTA judgment

Pushing daughter to compete with sister backfires. YTA criticized.

Twin shares experience, advises dad to prioritize Lilly’s feelings

Don’t force your child to compete with their sibling. YTA

Comparing siblings can backfire, YTA. Find activities for Lily alone

YTA dad’s favoritism towards Taylor is damaging Lily’s self-esteem
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Parenting is a learning curve and Lily deserves equal attention

Parent of twins receives advice on how to avoid sibling resentment

Parent’s favoritism backfires, leading to YTA accusation

Twin commenter explains why YTA for comparing twins academically

Consulting Taylor but not Lily may have been a mistake. Gentle YTA

Encouraging non-competitive activities for Lily. YTA.
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Letting your child be themselves is important. YTA.

Teach daughters to support each other, not compete.

Advocating for Asperger’s as a disability
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Ouch! Commenter calls out OP for being insensitive and clueless.

Parent’s attempt to unite twins backfires, YTA. ♀️

Parent’s insensitive response to daughter’s Aspergers diagnosis

A comment from someone with Autism explains why YTA.
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Putting daughters in same competition made one feel inferior. YTA

Leaving out daughter’s Aspergers makes YTA’s actions worse

Overcompetitiveness breeds problems, teach them life isn’t a boxing match

Don’t compare siblings, let Lily thrive in her own interests.

Let Lily have some things that are just hers. YTA

Dad’s attempt to bond daughters through competition backfires

Forgetting to mention her Aspergers changed the situation completely YTA

Dad’s attempt to boost daughter’s confidence backfires, YTA.
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Misunderstood comment calls out parent’s unnecessary actions. YTA

User with Asperger’s calls out YTA’s ignorance and ableism.
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Parent’s misguided attempt to boost daughter’s confidence angers commenters

Sibling comparison can be tough, even in adulthood. ♂️

Twin calls out dad’s mistake in treating daughters equally

Letting kids have their own interests is important

Parental favoritism caused commenter’s struggles, warns against repeating pattern. YTA.

Valuing effort over grades can help with perfectionism and anxiety

Father’s favoritism towards daughter backfires, leading to YTA judgement

Father’s attempt to boost daughter’s confidence backfires. Commenter calls out.

Competing daughters? YTA. Boost confidence, not comparison.

Meddling dad causes sisterly rift, called out for favoritism ♀️

Sisters’ competition is common, but let them have their things

Acknowledging autism as a disability is important. YTA.

Parent’s harmful approach to daughter’s disability labeled YTA

Father’s attempt to boost daughter’s confidence backfires, called YTA.

Redditor calls out dad for seeking validation instead of improvement
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Forcing sisters to compete? YTA. Let Lily build confidence alone.

Sibling rivalry and parental favoritism can be damaging.

A personal story of how comparing siblings can be damaging

Debate on whether Asperger’s is a disability or not

Father’s attempt to boost daughter’s confidence backfires. Commenter calls him out for lack of support for her disability.

Parent’s attempt to bond children with different abilities backfires

Let Lily have her own activities. YTA

Parental favoritism backfires. YTA needs to help both children

Harsh reply to dad’s misguided attempt at boosting daughter’s confidence.

Parent’s misguided attempt to boost daughter’s confidence backfires

Father’s attempt to boost daughter’s confidence backfires. YTA.

Sending Lily to the class after Taylor did better – YTA

Parental favoritism can have long-term effects on children’s self-esteem

Encouragement without pressure is key to building confidence.

A scathing comment on the dad’s obliviousness to his mistake
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Calling Asperger’s a disability is not an insult, YTA

Twin shares experience of parents’ competition, moved away for freedom

Parent’s misguided attempt to boost confidence criticized. YTA.

Encouraging twins to do everything together backfires, YTA

Middle child shares experience of feeling inadequate due to comparison.
