A recent post on Reddit has sparked a discussion about partners and their extended families during the holidays. This man thought he would have the best holidays ever with his 6-month-old baby and his family, but his wife might have different plans.
OP started by explaining that he and his wife, Jenna, have been together for over ten years and recently had a baby girl, but Jenna and his mother never got along. He pointed out that neither of them has a good relationship with their extended family, but this has been slowly changing on Jenna’s side since the baby was born.
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However, OP’s parents and brothers haven’t met the baby yet, so he had planned to get them together over the holiday season. Since they would typically spend this time of the year apart with each of their families, he wanted to take the baby with him to his family’s house while Jenna stayed with her family.
He explained that he was planning to drop his wife at her family’s house and then drive three hours to see his family, but then pick her up on December 23rd so they could spend the baby’s first Christmas together. His wife refused.
While Jenna justified that OP has never had her back when it comes to her mother, he insisted that was unfair because her parents spend a lot of time with the baby already. His wife’s response was to cry and sleep on the couch, and now OP feels terrible, but he still wants to take the baby with him.
Jenna And His Mother Can’t Get Along
He Really Wants His Baby To Meet His Family
The commenters solved OP’s dilemma; he should not take Averlea without Jenna’s consent. They sided with his wife, highlighted that he was not supporting her, and reminded him that, as he explained, they had an agreement during the pregnancy. He ended the post by saying that Jenna is very firm about her decision and doesn’t want Averlea to meet his family.
Users let OP know that his family hasn’t made an effort to meet Averlea, while Jenna’s parents visit them despite their differences, so they don’t deserve to meet the baby. Some people also mentioned that his relationship with his mother is unhealthy and that during their 10-year relationship, he hasn’t set boundaries and defended his wife as he should.
They Had An Agreement
His Family Hasn’t Tried To Meet Her
You Can’t Compare Families
Last Updated on December 7, 2022 by Valeria Cova
