Caregiver’s SHOCKING Ultimatum to Disabled MIL: ‘Use a Bedpan or Else!’

Buckle up, folks! We’ve got a doozy of a dilemma on our hands. Our exhausted protagonist finds herself in a sticky situation with her frail mother-in-law. ‍♀️ As the designated caregiver, she’s been running herself ragged trying to keep up with her MIL’s constant bathroom breaks. But now, the lack of sleep and endless lifting have pushed her to the brink. Will a bedpan be the solution, or will it only add fuel to the fire? Let’s dive in and find out!

A Strained Situation at Home

‍♀️ Stepping Up as the Caregiver

Nighttime Nightmare Begins

Toilet Trips on Repeat

Sleep? What’s That?

️‍♀️ Lifting More Than Just Spirits

Guilt-Ridden but Exhausted

‍♀️ MIL’s Stubborn Stance

A Once-Friendly Bond Strained

Caregiver’s Conundrum: Bedpan Battle with MIL!

Well, well, well… it seems our protagonist has found herself in quite the pickle! Juggling the role of caregiver and sleep-deprived zombie, she’s at her wit’s end with her MIL’s nightly bathroom adventures. But her attempt to introduce a bedpan has only added to the drama, with her MIL refusing to use it and holding it in out of spite! The once-friendly relationship has turned sour, and her husband is steering clear of the whole mess. ‍♂️ So, what does the internet think of this potty predicament? Let’s see what wisdom the masses have to offer!

Sincere sympathy for caregiver’s difficult situation, NTA, husband shameful.

Spouse must help care for his mother. NTA wins.

User suggests options for caregiver’s husband’s lack of help.

Spouse should take responsibility for MIL’s care. NTA

Spouse refusing to care for his own mother? NTA, stand firm!

Husband’s lack of support puts caregiver in tough spot

Sensible advice for caring for elderly MIL with incontinence.

NTA suggests nursing home for disabled MIL. Offers personal experience and advice.

RN suggests Purewick for elderly patient, calls out husband’s behavior.

Husband’s lack of support for MIL’s care reveals true intentions

Caretaker suggests alternatives for MIL’s excessive nighttime bathroom trips.

Setting boundaries with MIL’s hygiene . Husband is an AH.

Spouse should provide for MIL’s night time care. NTA

Husband needs to step up and help his disabled mother.

Stand your ground and remind him she’s HIS mother

Supportive comment urges OP to stand up to lousy husband. NTA

Don’t sacrifice your health for MIL’s unreasonable demands

Caregiver burnout is real! Seek help and support

Suggests putting MIL in a home for round-the-clock care. NTA.

Caring for a loved one is tough, sleep is necessary

Spouse won’t help care for disabled MIL, NTA for prioritizing self

Helpful advice on alternatives to ultimatum, NTA comment

You’re not responsible for your MIL’s care. NTA

NTA caregiver needs support from weak husband to handle MIL

Take a break, let him experience what it’s like. NTA

NTA. Caretaker role is not yours alone. Have conversation about alternatives.

Spouse must take responsibility for his disabled mother’s care!

UTI possibility raised for MIL’s incontinence by commenter.

Caretaker burnout? Night nurse or care home are options.

Compassionate advice on caregiving and exploring other options.

NTA. Caregiver’s best but husband should help with MIL’s care

Medical professional defends use of hoists and stand aids. Spouse AH.

Teen caregiver deserves partner’s help, not ultimatums.

Tough love or harsh reality? NTA suggests old folks home

A nursing student suggests professional care for disabled MIL.

Former caregiver recommends commode for MIL’s bathroom needs.

Helpful advice on elderly bed aids and toilet grab bars

Caregiving struggles and the need for a serious conversation.

Hiring night care may be a better option.

Prioritizing self-care is crucial, bringing in outside help recommended.

Caregiver’s cruel ultimatum causes sleep deprivation and torture

A helpful suggestion for caring for elderly family members at night.

Caregiver advised to hire a nurse, limit MIL’s drinking

NTA suggests MIL goes to rehab or nursing home

Sensible suggestion for caregiver to take a break and delegate duties

Overworked caregiver needs help from MIL’s son.

Assisted living might be better for MIL.

Stand your ground! Help husband understand the consequences.

Suggests seeing a doctor for injuries becoming permanent damage.

Caregiver’s health must come first, MIL should use bedpan

Stand your ground . It’s not worth ruining yourself physically and mentally.

Husband should step up. NTA caregiver seeks nighttime assistance.

Caring for MIL with dementia isn’t easy. NTA for setting boundaries.

Nurse advises lifting equipment for MIL, urges husband to help. ‍⚕️

NTA but harsh truth about growing old with an ungrateful spouse

Solutions suggested for caregiver struggling with disabled MIL’s needs.

Caregiver defends not lifting disabled MIL, suggests hoist or home placement.

Husband’s sexist and gross behavior criticized, bedpan solution offered.

A helpful NTA suggests bedside commode or PureWick to save relationships

Husband needs to step up and help his mother. You’re NTA

Incontinence pants vs. every hour bedpan: NTA wins, MIL & husband lose

Encouragement to caregiver to prioritize self-care and husband’s involvement.

Husband called out for lack of help, solutions suggested

Caregiver shares NTA experience of caring for grandparents and suggests bringing in night help or finding proper care for MIL.

Professional help needed for disabled MIL, NTA.

Caregiving is tough. NTA suggests a vacation and MIL needs medical attention.

Diaper suggestion for disabled MIL sparks cost-saving debate. NTA.

Sensible suggestion for caregiver and criticism of son’s behavior.

NTA. Your husband needs to step up and take responsibility.

NTA suggests a practical and cost-effective solution for caregiver’s dilemma.

NTA. Suggests taking a well-deserved vacation and getting MIL a caregiver.

Suggests seeking medical help and assisted living options

Caring for disabled MIL may require full care facility. NTA.

Commode recommendation for disabled MIL, husband should help more

Caregiving is exhausting, invest in bedside commode. NTA, consider in-home care.

Helpful advice for NTA caregiver dealing with MIL’s incontinence issue

Demanding overnight aid, commenter takes no crap from husband.

Using incontinence aids preserves dignity, NTA judgement confirmed