In relationships, problems can always arise. When one person has an issue with something their significant other does, it can cause a lot of tension and chaos — especially when the other person just doesn’t understand the problem. Some issues are small and can be moved past while other people see things that they cannot deal with at all.
Recently, one woman opened up about an issue that her boyfriend has with her eating habits, and she asked for advice from others online over the bizarre request.
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She prefaced the relationship issue with some background about herself
The 24-year-old girlfriend shared that she has always been a cheese lover. She loves to snack on different cheeses all of the time. Her boyfriend knew about her love for cheese since their first date — they went out to dinner and shared three cheese boards as an appetizer.
However, she says maybe he didn’t “understand” how much she truly loves cheese.
One of her favorite snacks is mozzarella balls
Mozzarella is one of her favorite cheeses and she shared that mozzarella balls — the small ones in the container — are one of her favorite snacks. They are “easy to grab” and fit into her mini fridge; she has eaten them as a snack since college.
While she finds it innocent and just an everyday snack, her boyfriend doesn’t see it that way.
Her boyfriend claims he has an issue with the shape of the cheese
The Reddit user further explained that it’s not so much her love or obsession with cheese that bothers him as the shape of the cheese. He told her that the shape of the cheese — balls — makes him super uncomfortable. He continued to say that watching her eat mozzarella balls makes her think of his girlfriend putting “other guy’s balls in her mouth.”
Clearly, she was very confused and didn’t see the correlation between the two things.
The girlfriend thought it was something that he could work past
Seeing as it’s a huge jump from cheese balls to male balls, the Reddit user believed it could be overlooked. However, her boyfriend said he believes her love of mozzarella balls may be a dealbreaker for him.
His compromise? Change the shape of the cheese. He has no issue with her snacking on mozzarella cheese, but he wants it to be sliced or shredded. He’s not interested in his girlfriend if she continues her love of mozzarella balls.
She’s unsure if she can live with that, though
“I know this is so high maintenance of me but mozzarella balls are just my favorite snack. The texture, the taste… it’s just so good. I like shredded cheese and string cheese but they just aren’t the same,” she wrote.
Instead, the Reddit user is thinking about getting the “smaller” mozzarella balls and hoping the size will make a difference for her boyfriend in the long run. She wants him to be comfortable and happy, but is also torn on whether or not this behavior is “controlling.”
The girlfriend is conflicted
While some may see it as crazy and unfair to feel this way about a simple snack, the Reddit user did share that her boyfriend is a “great guy” aside from this argument. Although she claims that this post and the story aren’t “doing him justice,” she still loves him and wants to work things out with him.
She is unsure if it’s reasonable to give up her mozzarella snacks or if she should just say no.
People online were shocked that her boyfriend felt this way
Many people in the Reddit comments were surprised and also a bit disturbed that her boyfriend correlated mozzarella balls with anything sexual at all. Some were dumbfounded and confused, while others were downright bothered. In addition, most Reddit users thought his behavior was a huge red flag.
“Red flag. He’s so weirdly insecure that he’s offended by you eating cheese. Real men would pound those suckers back right with you,” wrote LordCqt. Some people wondered if he had any issues with other phallic-looking food—like corndgos, hotdogs, or even bananas.
People also felt he wasn’t ready for a relationship
Although her boyfriend is 25 years old, the issue he has with balls of cheese proves, to many, that he is too young and immature to be with anyone seriously.
“Dude, this is insane. A 25 year old shouldn’t be insecure about what type of cheese you eat. He’s not ready for a relationship. I think I’ve seen it all on this sub, and yet, here we are. What a ch*de. And he is NOT a great guy. He’s a controlling weirdo,” wrote Dontfeedthebears.
Some individuals suggested he may need some professional help
Users online felt as though he may need some counseling, based on his behavior and the imagery he conspired in his head.
“Tell him that if he ever brings up anything so stupid ever again that will dump him on the spot. His issues with you eating cheese are his to deal with in therapy and he needs to keep any thoughts or feelings he has on that subject to himself permanently or this relationship needs to be over,” shared Ancient_Bicycles.
Others said that if she does this, it’ll spiral out of control
Women online said that if the girlfriend gives in and gives up her mozzarella balls, it’ll keep spiraling from there.
“If you stop eating mozzarella cheese balls to make him ‘comfortable,’ he’s just gonna think ‘good, she’ll tolerate that crock of sh*t, she’ll do whatever I tell her’ and it will get worse. Stand your ground. If a man wants to lose you over cheese, let him. You’ll have won,” commented viscilly.
Do you think it’s a normal request or is it taking things a step too far?
H/T: Reddit
