Buckle up, folks, because this story is a wild ride! I’m a 28-year-old woman at my wit’s end with my boyfriend’s shady financial dealings. We’ve been together for 13 years, but lately, things have taken a turn for the worse. My man lost his job, and I’ve been busting my a** to keep our family afloat. But get this – he’s been secretly sending money to his brother behind my back! I’m talking $50-$75 a week, y’all. And when I confronted him about it? Oh, he had the nerve to say his bro needed help with gas money. Gas money, my a**! I smell a rat, and I’m not gonna stand for it. So, I did what any self-respecting woman would do – I cut off his access to our joint account faster than you can say ‘financial infidelity’! But now, I’m wondering… was I too harsh? Stick around, and let’s dive into this messy situation together!
Rip Shit Angry: BF Secretly Sending Money to Brother!
BF Lost Job, I’m Pulling Extra Hours to Make Ends Meet
Barely Scraping By on My Income, Feeding 2 Kids
Miracle Promotion & Bonus After 6 Years!
Overheard BF’s Secret Phone Call About ‘Weekly Amount’
️♀️ Snooped Bank Statements, Found $50-$75 Weekly Transfers!
Confronted BF: ‘I’m Not Supporting Your Brother!’
BF: ‘I Won’t Stop Helping My Bro, He Needs Me’
Shut Down BF’s Debit Card Access!
BF Claims I’m Ignorant, It Wasn’t ‘Breaking the Bank’
Together 13 Years, All $ is Mine Since He Lost Job
️ BF Started Sending $ Just 7 Days After Losing Job!
Plot Twist: Bro Bleeds Family Dry for Shady Ladies!
️ Bro Moved Out So Stranger Could Live in His House!
‘Gas Money’ Excuse Was Likely a Lie! ⛽
Internet Jury, I Need Your Verdict! ⚖️
Alright, my dear internet friends, we’ve reached the end of this wild tale. To recap: my boyfriend lost his job, I’ve been working my butt off to support our family, and he’s been secretly sending money to his shady brother. Oh, and did I mention his bro has a history of bleeding the family dry for his questionable lady friends? Yeah, it’s a mess. So, I put my foot down and cut off my man’s access to our joint account. But now, I’m second-guessing myself. Was I too harsh? Should I have given him a chance to explain? I need your wisdom, oh wise internet jury! ⚖️ Let’s see what the verdict is on this financial fiasco. Don’t hold back – I can take it! Give me your most honest, hilarious, and brutally real opinions. ️ I’m ready for the roast!
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NTA. Huge breach of trust Relationship breaker if he’s been doing this a while Don’t give him access until he’s trustworthy again.
ESH situation. She shouldn’t shut down his card, but take him off the account.
Protect your finances and privacy, kick him off your account
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Financial abuse? ESH for siphoning money & cutting off completely.
Money monitoring in relationships is crucial for financial stability
Sharing finances can be tricky, but controlling behavior isn’t okay. ESH
Cutting off SAHP’s money is financial abuse. YTA.
Separate finances and return his money. Communication is key.
Joint account is family money, not yours. Financial abuse? ESH.
Partner sends HER money to brother, NTA points out illogical behavior
NTA. Joint finances are tight, bf shouldn’t give money without discussion.
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Partner sending HER money to his brother? NTA says furious commenter.
Both parties at fault, suggest calm conversation and compromise.
NTA! Boyfriend stole money, entitled attitude. Cut him off.
Take control of your finances and your life. ♀️
Both parties could have handled it better.
BF secretly sent HER money to brother, NTA for being upset
Denying access to money is abuse. YTA for doing so.
NTA – Money secrets are not cool in a relationship.
Protect your money and dump the thief
Communication is key in relationships
Setting financial boundaries with partner’s family. NTA
ESH; he should’ve talked to you about this. You sound very controlling.
NTA: Honesty is key in any relationship.
Separate accounts may solve the problem. NTA.
Defending boyfriend’s financial help to brother, questioning attacks on him.
Talk to your spouse about shared finances instead of controlling it
Curious about the timeline. NTA, not his money.
Joint account means it’s the couple’s money now. YTA.
Being financially responsible is important, even with family.
NTA – Husband’s brother has a job, he should support himself
Separate accounts are crucial, protect your money and assets. NTA.
NTA. Boyfriend needs to contribute to household funds.
NTA. Keep finances separate, he gets his own account
Joint account with BF not advisable, recommends married commenter.
ESH. Instead of attack mode, have an adult conversation
Financial transparency is key to a healthy relationship ❤️
Money secrets caused trust issues in relationship. Communication needed.
Joint account, burnt savings, and a secret transfer. Drama alert
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Lock up your money and tell him to find work
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Keep your finances separate to avoid giving money to in-laws
Encourage partner to ditch leeching BIL, grow a spine.
Navigating finances in a relationship can be tricky
User calls out financial abuse, deems OP as YTA.
Toxic communication can be a relationship killer
Joint account not a great idea, separate accounts advised
Money secrets reveal soft ESH situation. Split finances to avoid repeats.
Separating finances can prevent money issues in relationships.
Something sketchy going on with boyfriend’s money. Separate accounts suggested.
Protect your assets Create a new account ASAP
Close the shared account immediately! But legally he could take it all
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Partner’s lack of contribution justifies not sharing with brother.
NTA, but consider getting your own account to prevent theft.
Take control of your finances and protect yourself from abuse
NTA. Boyfriend sent HER money to his brother without permission
