Ever been caught in the crossfire of family drama? Imagine being the go-to baker in your family, whipping up delicious cakes for every event, only to be treated like a hired caterer by a picky sister-in-law (SIL). Now, she’s pregnant and expecting a cake for her baby shower. But our home-baker heroine has had enough! She’s refusing to bake the cake, stirring up a storm of family conflict. ️
The Baker in the Family

The Baby Shower Request

A History of Baking…and Drama

The Reason for Refusal

A Picky SIL and a Stressed Baker

The Aftermath of the Cake Disaster

The Current Cake Conundrum ❓

A Family Divided ⚔️

The Email Fallout

Family’s Reaction to the Email ️

Pressure from the Husband

The Baker’s Dilemma

The Emotional Toll

The Weight of Past Cakes

To Bake or Not to Bake? ❓

A Baker’s Rebellion: No Cake for Picky SIL’s Baby Shower
Caught in a whirlwind of family drama, our home-baker heroine is refusing to bake a cake for her picky sister-in-law’s baby shower. After being treated like a hired caterer during a previous baking ordeal, she’s had enough! But her refusal has stirred up a storm, with her SIL accusing her of excluding her during a major milestone. Even her husband is urging her to bake the cake to keep the peace! ⚔️ As the icing on the cake, she’s feeling the weight of her past cakes, knowing her SIL’s baby shower will seem less ‘special’ without her signature bake. Will she give in or stand her ground? Let’s see what the internet thinks of this situation…
NTA! Be firm and don’t engage with her drama

NTA!! A good response might be, “I understand what you mean about remembering this in the future. I bake as a gift, because I enjoy it. I do remember from last time that you have very particular ideas for what you’d like, so I’m sure you’ll be much happier going through a professional baker this time, to spare any hurt feelings between us.” ♀️

NTA, but be honest about why you’re not doing it.

NTA. SIL’s manipulation and toxic behavior are recipe for drama

NTA: Stand up for yourself and don’t be a doormat
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NTA! Stand your ground and shame on them for not respecting you!
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NTA. Set boundaries and prioritize your own enjoyment.

A sassy response teaches a lesson on consequences with love

NTA, be honest with her about past cake experience. ♂️

“NTA. Stand your ground and let your history speak for itself! “

NTA – Honest conversation can mend the cake and the relationship

NTA. Husband’s an a****e. Don’t bake cake, ignore drama queen.

Grossed out by husband’s pushy behavior. You’re not the a**hole! ✊

NTA: Snarky SIL prefers criticizing over making her own cake

“NTA. Your baking is a gift, not a demanded obligation! “

NTA, be honest about why you won’t make the cake ♂️

SIL’s dismissive attitude backfires! Baker stands up for themselves. NTA

NTA, firmly explain why you won’t bake for her again

NTA stands up to entitled and manipulative SIL. Drama unfolds!

“Refusing service to a customer I neither need, nor want.”

Putting your mental health first is key! Communicate with hubby!

NTA: Be honest about why you’re not making the cake ♂️. Actions have repercussions .

NTA- Spread love, not lies! Stand up for your baking skills!

NTA, and your husband s***s too. Drama in the family!

NTA! SIL insulted you and called you sensitive. Drama ensues!

“Audacity of SIL’s request after your loss is breathtaking.”

Stand your ground! Don’t let emotional manipulation win!
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NTA! Stand up for yourself and set good boundaries

NTA, set boundaries with a blunt but honest response.

Engage with your combative SIL by pandering and deflecting

SIL micromanages cake for own baby shower, OP not baking. NTA

NTA, but could have been more tactful. Avoided potential drama ♀️

NTA, but ask for payment or pitch in for professional cake

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Last Updated on November 4, 2023 by Diply Social Team