Imagine your closest friend is getting married in a breathtaking location in Sicily. You’re thrilled, right? But what if you’re asked to be a bridesmaid and then told you have to foot the bill for your own extravagant lodging, hair, makeup, and even gold accessories? This is the predicament one Canadian woman found herself in, when her friend’s dream wedding started to feel more like a nightmare.
The Dream Wedding Announcement
The Well-Off Couple and the Uninvited Sister
The 5-Star Hotel Surprise
The Exclusive Shabbat Dinner ️
The Rehearsal Dinner Dilemma
The Gold Accessory Request
The High Cost of the Wedding
The Lavish Honeymoon Plan
The Bachelorette Party Backlash
The Unappreciated Effort
To Go or Not to Go: The Wedding Dilemma
Our bridesmaid is left in a quandary. With the wedding costs skyrocketing, her friends and family are advising her to skip the event altogether. But can she really let down her closest friend, despite the financial burden and feeling unappreciated? Let’s see what the internet thinks of this situation…
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NTA if you decide not to go. $5000 is a large chunk of money to have just sitting around to spend on something like this that I’m sure you’d rather spend on something that will improve your own life. Whatever you do, don’t borrow the money by putting all the bills on credit cards. Plus, you are either giving up a week’s vacation or a week’s pay to do this. It’s one thing if this is your absolute best friend in the world to shell out this much for their wedding but it seems like she’s expecting an awful lot without even considering the financial impact it could have on you.
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“Wedding expenses can add up, but $5-8000 is ridiculous! “
NTA. $8,000 to be a bridesmaid? That’s a friendship dealbreaker!
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“NTA. Why pay for more nights if no events?”
Politely decline and let someone else handle the wedding planning.
NTA. Don’t waste your time and money!
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NTA: Treat yourself! Take that dream vacation or make a big purchase!
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Sounds like a total nightmare!
Is it worth spending so much for a destination wedding?
NTA. Bridezilla expects too much and takes you for granted.
Destination wedding expenses and logistics explained. NTA if declined
“NTA and I would not go. This marriage won’t last. “
NTA: Set boundaries and skip the extravagant wedding.
“NAH. Don’t expect compensation for attending a destination wedding. “
Friend’s entitlement and neglect foreshadow a disastrous marriage.
NTA. Spending 5k on someone else’s wedding is bonkers!
Consider attending as a guest instead? Cost may still be high.
Weddings should be enjoyable for all! NTA, save money!
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Friend uses bride for money, NTA declines.
Destination wedding in Jamaica with thoughtful accommodations and activities.
Stand your ground and cut ties with these selfish people!
Wedding expenses: Is $8k too much? NTA thinks so!
Turn the wedding into a holiday and explore local attractions!
“1% wedding drama – NTA, skip the sh*tshow! “
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“NTA. Weddings are out of hand! Your friendship is at stake. “
Wedding expectations are ridiculous! Drop out and save yourself!
Politely decline to be a bridesmaid due to financial constraints.
Wedding expenses: Who foots the bill?
NTA! Don’t waste your time and money on this rude bridezilla!
NTA! Unappreciated at a dream wedding? Time to bail!
NTA. Friend’s bridezilla demands are unreasonable and unfair. Treat yourself!
Is your friend worth the money and hassle?
Drop out? Find cheaper hotel and share room with others!
NTA but your friend definitely is.
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NTA. Wedding party excluded from limited guest list? Super weird.
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Spend less on hotel? Nope! White Lotus show ruined it!
NTA. Bride’s fiance is controlling and causing arguments.
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Friend’s fiancé is selfish and blinded by love. NTA!
No entertainment provided, should’ve been allowed to stay elsewhere. NTA.
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NTA- Worried about hidden fees and being unwelcome at remote wedding
Sensible move! Opted for an Airbnb near the fancy hotel.
