Picture this: you’ve been struggling with a sensitive issue in your relationship, and you finally overcome it. You’re ecstatic to share the good news with your family, only for it to blow up in your face. That’s exactly what happened to one couple who decided to keep their pregnancy journey a secret from the husband’s mother. When the truth came out, the mother’s reaction was explosive. Was the couple wrong for keeping her in the dark? Let’s dive into their story.
The Long Backstory

Ready for Parenthood

The Struggle: Vaginismus

Seeking Help

Sharing with Mom-in-Law ♀️

Who Else Knows?

My Mom’s Concerns

To Tell or Not to Tell?

The Big Announcement

The Slip-Up

Mom Wants Answers ️♀️

The Explosion

The Dilemma ♂️

Mom’s Reaction

Friends’ Opinions ️

The Great Pregnancy Debate: Who’s Right? ♀️ ♂️
So, we have a couple who kept their pregnancy struggle a secret from the husband’s mother. When the truth finally comes out, the mother is furious, feeling left out and worried. On the other hand, the couple believes it was an intimate detail that they had the right to keep private. With friends and family split on the issue, it’s hard to determine who’s right and who’s wrong. Let’s see what the internet thinks of this situation…
Respect your wife’s privacy, NTA for keeping it secret

Keeping pregnancy secret from mom: NTA, but handle with care

Privacy matters. NTA for not telling your mother-in-law.

NTA defends wife’s privacy and shuts down entitled grandmother.

Mom overreacts to pregnancy secret despite fertility issues. NTA.

Keeping pregnancy private is okay, it’s not about secrets.
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Keeping secrets from an oversharing mom. NTA
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NAH verdict on keeping pregnancy secret from parents, advice given

MIL not entitled to personal information about your wife

NTA. Commenter sympathizes with OP’s mom but defends OP’s decision.

Protecting personal medical information is NTA. #NormalizeVaginismus

It’s okay to keep your sex life private. NAH.

Privacy matters. Wife’s decision to tell her mother was fair.

Privacy trumps nosiness. NTA for keeping Mom in the dark.

Personal decision to share pregnancy news, understandable for mom to feel left out.

Mother overreacts to pregnancy secret, but understandable to feel left out. NTA.

NTA. Parents aren’t entitled to every facet of your life
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Respect privacy: NTA for supporting wife’s decision to keep secret

Privacy is important, but honesty could have avoided explosion

Respectful NTA comment defends privacy in sensitive situation.

Sharing struggles with in-laws about vaginismus is not obligatory. Congrats!

Respect privacy. Wife’s health decision. Mom needs to cool off.

Privacy matters! NTA for keeping pregnancy a secret

Respect privacy. Mom’s immaturity justifies not telling her pregnancy news.

Sharing pregnancy struggles with mom is a personal choice. NTA
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Establishing boundaries with in-laws is important. NTA

Privacy matters. NTA for not disclosing wife’s medical information.

Respect privacy: NTA for not telling mom about vaginismus.

Respectful NTA comment supports privacy and offers congratulations ❤

Mother’s upset reaction understandable but wife’s privacy should be respected

Respect privacy: NAH for not telling mother-in-law about pregnancy.

Mom cares about OP and wife, upset they didn’t confide.

NAH verdict for pregnancy secret, tricky but congratulatory situation

Respect your privacy, but mom’s reaction comes from love ❤️.

Keeping secrets from mom: NAH or NTA?

Privacy matters. OP’s mom is upset but not an a**hole.

Condition is private, mother’s reaction disgusting. NTA.

Respecting wife’s privacy, NTA. Awkward conversation avoided

Privacy concerns arise as mom explodes over pregnancy secret

Different relationships with mothers, not unusual to not talk about sex.

Privacy is key. You don’t owe anyone details of your life

Setting boundaries with overstepping family member. Congrats on pregnancy!

Mom overreacts to pregnancy secret, fixates on wife’s anatomy

Supportive comment: NTA. It’s wife’s choice who to confide in. Congrats

Protecting wife’s medical info is NTA’s duty. Grandma needs boundaries.

Privacy matters. NTA for keeping intimate news to yourselves.

Keeping pregnancy a secret is NTA, but communication is key

Personal business is personal. NTA for keeping secrets

Respectful commenter defends OP’s pregnancy secret from overbearing mom.

Mother is hurt but commenter supports OP’s decision.

Navigating family dynamics with a new pregnancy

Respect your wife’s decision, set boundaries with your mother

Privacy matters. Only your wife and trusted ones should know.

NAH commenter empathizes with mom’s hurt over pregnancy secret.

Respect privacy. NTA for not sharing wife’s pregnancy with mother.

Privacy matters: NTA for not sharing personal information.

Keeping pregnancy secret: NAH, but mom’s reaction: 1/5 AH

Trusting mom during pregnancy: NAH vs. YTA dilemma
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Balanced response to pregnancy secret, ruling NTA.

Protecting your wife’s privacy is NTA, MIL needs to respect that

Congrats on pregnancy! Wife’s health is private, NTA. Mom needs chill

Asserting adult autonomy over pregnancy news. NTA

User questions OP’s role in wife not telling mother-in-law.

Keeping medical condition private is okay, mom doesn’t need details

NTA! Mom’s reaction was inappropriate. Congrats on the baby

Privacy matters, and NTA for keeping it to yourself.

Mother’s entitlement and narcissism called out by commenter.

Personal info is personal. NTA for keeping it secret.

NTA commenter defends wife’s privacy with witty comeback

Playing it off as fertility issues could have avoided conflict.
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Congratulations on the baby! NTA for keeping it private.

Supportive comment congratulating OP on pregnancy, NTA, and wife’s right to privacy

Setting boundaries with future grandparents. Vague infertility explanation suggested.

Keeping sex life private, NTA. Mother-in-law should not be involved

Respecting privacy is key. NTA for keeping it secret.

Respecting partner’s privacy, NTA. Healthy boundaries
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NTA commenter defends keeping pregnancy secret from overbearing mother-in-law

Respect privacy but don’t ignore mom, change subject if brought up
