Man Shuts Down Fiancée’s Aunt Fantasy

We all know that one person who tries to force their way into a family, but this story takes it to a whole new level! A man (M31) and his wife (F30) have two kids, M5 and F2. The man’s younger brother (M29) recently got engaged to a woman (F23) we’ll call Amber. From the beginning, Amber has been a bit too… comfortable with the family, and her antics have rubbed everyone the wrong way. But when she tried to claim the title of ‘Aunt’ at a family gathering, this dad wasn’t having it! ‍♂️

Meet Amber, the Fiancée

Amber’s Unwelcome Antics

Redecorating & Overstepping Boundaries

Sharing Without Asking

Amber’s Bold Claims

Brother’s Blind Love

The Proposal

Amber’s Aunt Ambition ‍ ‍

Dad’s Firm Response

Amber’s Defense

Dad’s Final Word ️

Amber’s Exit

Brother’s Reaction

The Call for Apology

The Family’s Opinion ‍♂️

Dad Puts His Foot Down

This dad decided enough was enough when Amber tried to claim the title of ‘Aunt’ at a family gathering. He calmly told her that she was not their aunt, and no amount of marrying his brother would change that. Despite Amber’s shock and her fiancé’s anger, our protagonist stood his ground, refusing to apologize. With Amber’s antics already making her unpopular in the family, it’s no surprise this dad put a stop to her self-appointed aunt status. ‍♂️ Let’s see what the internet thinks of this situation…

Debate over the ‘aunt’ label, but OP’s anger is displaced

ESH – Poor communication and lack of boundaries fuel family drama

Using ‘aunt’ is a term of love, not obligation. NTA.

OP stands up to entitled ‘aunt’ and sparks family drama

Debate over the aunt’s position on the family tree

Setting boundaries with Amber is important, but she’s still family. ESH

NTA. Shutting down toxic family members

Family communication issues and setting boundaries with obnoxious behavior

Debate over the technicality of ‘aunt’ vs. ‘step-parent’, YTA for handling

Setting boundaries with family can be tough, but important.

ESH but there were better ways to express displeasure

NTA shuts down aunt’s fantasy, reminds her of girlfriend status.

ESH but the title of ‘aunt’ is up to the children

Addressing Amber’s behavior privately could have been more effective

Defining family titles can be tricky, but NTA here

ESH fight should not have been had in front of children

Using technicalities to define relationships misses the point

Choosing who your kids are around ‍ is important, but communication is key

Commenter accuses OP of being the a**hole for sabotaging family ties

Commenter questions OP’s timing and suggests context for aunt’s comment.

Commenter defends NTA judgement, gets sassy reply

Choosing not to call someone aunt doesn’t make you TA

Direct communication is key. YTA for being rude publicly.

Choosing family for your kids is your right

Commenter is not the a**hole in this situation

Commenter is not the a**hole in this situation

ESH, but communication is key. Amber may need guidance.

Aunt by marriage? ESH but she sounds like a pill

Calling out the aunt was wrong, but she is still family

Commenter is not the a**hole in this situation

Setting boundaries with family can be tough

Setting boundaries with inappropriate family members

Fiancée’s aunt makes rude comment, NTA stands up for family

NTA shuts down toxic family fantasy

Commenter calls out everyone in a weird situation ‍♂️

Commenter advises brother to talk to clueless teenager fiancée. Hopeful for growth

Fiancée’s aunt wants to be titled despite being rude. NTA.

Commenter calls out OP for being rude and immature

Commenter calls out OP for being selfish and judgmental

Setting boundaries with disrespectful family members.

NTA- Supportive comment calling out toxic behavior of fiancée’s aunt

Fantasies aside, YTA for rude behavior towards future family member

Setting boundaries with toxic in-laws is necessary. NTA

Engage in family diplomacy and confront issues as they arise

Aunt’s behavior is unacceptable, brother needs to step up

Defining emotional ties to aunts/uncles, and earning trust/responsibility

Commenter calls out bad behavior in a family feud

Commenter calls out OP for being rude in response

Defining children’s relationships is okay, but be nicer about it

Brother’s track record suggests aunt won’t be around. NTA.

Choosing family is valid, even if not technically related

Setting boundaries with pushy family members

Engaged but not married, NTA explains why ‘auntie’ is reserved

A comment warns OP of the consequences of his actions. ⚠️