Imagine living with a partner who throws temper tantrums over meal timings, restricts your food choices, and guilt-trips you over their medical condition. That’s the reality for one woman (29) who’s been with her partner (30m) for almost 8 years. He’s a type 1 diabetic, and she’s been trying her best to accommodate his needs. But when he started calling her selfish for wanting to enjoy a treat, she finally snapped back. Did she go too far, or was it time to put her foot down?
The Diabetes Dilemma
Mealtime Meltdowns ⏰
Temper Tantrums Ensue
Waiting to Unleash
Her Attempts to Help ♀️
Family Meals? Not Really
Double Standards
Hurtful Comments
The Breaking Point
She Snaps Back
Silence and Departure
Diabetes Drama: Who’s the Real Victim Here? ♀️
After years of dealing with her partner’s temper tantrums, food restrictions, and hurtful comments, one woman finally snapped back, telling him she’s not responsible for his diabetes outside of emergencies. While she doesn’t want him to feel left out or uncared for, she feels like he’s punishing her and her daughter just because of his disability. Was she justified in standing up for herself, or did she cross a line? Let’s see what the internet has to say about this situation…
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