Pregnant Wife Snaps at MIL and Mom for Babysitting Husband

Meet our 30-year-old protagonist, married for a year, and expecting her first child. She’s struggling with a difficult pregnancy while working a physically demanding job. Her husband, a former momma’s boy, has become more independent but still relies on her for house chores. Now, both her mother-in-law and her own mother are accusing her of being a bad wife for not taking care of her husband properly. Is she really at fault or is her husband just a grown man who needs to step up?

The Momma’s Boy Husband ‍♀️

The Overworked Wife

MIL and Mom’s Accusations

Husband’s Complaints

The Long Work Hours

Husband’s Rare Help

MIL’s Call

Standing Up to MIL

Mom’s Call and Response ️

Friend’s Opinion ‍♀️

Blaming Feminism?

Edit: Victim Blaming?

Husband’s Past Behavior

Sister’s Reaction

Mom’s Threats

Wife’s Dilemma: Bad Wife or Babysitter? ‍♀️

Our protagonist is caught in the crossfire between her MIL, her own mother, and her husband. They all seem to expect her to be a full-time wife, housekeeper, and now babysitter for her husband, despite her difficult pregnancy and demanding job. She’s standing up for herself, but her friend thinks she’s in the wrong. Is she really at fault, or is it time for her husband to grow up and take responsibility? Let’s see what the internet thinks of this situation…

NTA for standing up to toxic MIL and mom, but she married a man, not a child, and needs to reevaluate her expectations and priorities.

Commenter and replies call out lazy, misogynistic husband.

Married to a mama’s boy who wants a caretaker

NTA suggests quitting job to become traditional housewife, but beware consequences

Crack jokes aside, comment sparks amusing drug speculation

Husband is lazy and both mothers are enabling him. NTA

Commenter sympathizes with OP and criticizes outdated family members

Pregnant woman stands up to MIL and mom, gets support

NTA. User questions cultural norms and offers support. Reply explains mother’s projection.

Commenter advises OP to leave husband and cut off MIL and Mom

NTA, commenter calls out internalized misogyny, replies question parenting choices

NTA, prioritize your health and peace of mind. Leave him.

Couple’s conflicting views on gender roles cause tension.

Commenter and reply mock outdated views with humor

Commenter receives support for calling out lazy husband and family

NTA. Gender roles are outdated. Husband should take care of you.

Concerned comment and reply about pregnant wife’s stressful lifestyle

Commenter advises pregnant woman to reconsider her marriage

Set boundaries with MIL and mom, and husband needs ultimatum. NTA

NTA. Marriage is a two-way street ‍ . Tell your MIL it’s not the 1960s

Marriage red flags: Commenter calls out immature husband behavior

Put your foot down and prioritize your relationship

Commenter sarcastically suggests time machine to escape gender roles.

Commenter sympathizes with pregnant wife, calls out husband’s irresponsibility.

Commenter calls out AH behavior and time-traveling mentality

Online feminist defends wife’s decision to not be a housewife ‍ ‍ ‍

Husband prioritizes MIL over pregnant wife, commenter suggests child support ‍♀️

Pregnant wife not the a**hole for asking husband to help cook

Commenter supports OP’s decision, tells MIL and mom to back off

Commenter rejects sexist criticism and is not the a**hole

Defending pregnant wife’s right to rest, commenter slams gender stereotypes.

Partner should not rely on caregiver. NTA for snapping.

Stand up for yourself and your future child.

Supportive commenter advises pregnant woman to reevaluate relationship

Breaking gender roles and stereotypes, NTA for husband’s independence

Future mom doubts partner’s parenting skills, considers leaving him

Commenter supports OP’s decision and suggests divorce with humor

Fiery comment suggests husband is a man-child seeking sex mommy

NTA. The husband needs to support his wife, not mommy.

Commenter sympathizes with pregnant woman’s outdated family and work situation

Sarcastic solution to overbearing MIL and mom.

Outdated gender stereotypes called out

Dumping a mama’s boy is easier than changing them. NTA

Outdated attitudes? Definitely NTA, tell us more

Equal household chores should be a norm.

Redditors debate if OP is TA in babysitting dispute

User advises divorcing immature husband and toxic mother figures.

Sarcastic comment about the husband’s work, NTA judgment affirmed

NTA comment shuts down MIL and Mom’s babysitting request

Commenter advises leaving lazy and disrespectful husband.

Commenter sympathizes with OP, suggests counseling for resolution.

Take care of yourself, NTA

NTA comment calls out antiquated attitudes towards gender roles

Stand up for yourself and give him an ultimatum