Imagine being adopted at the age of five and growing up with loving parents, only to find out years later that your biological mother wants to meet you. This 18-year-old girl faced that exact situation, and her decision not to meet her biological mom has sparked a heated debate. ️ Let’s dive into her story and see if she’s being heartless or simply making a reasonable choice.
Adopted and Loving It
A Surprise Call
Family Meeting
Message Delivered
Social Media Sleuthing
The Reason Revealed
Half Siblings Exist
Decision Remains Unchanged
Best Friend’s Verdict
The Ultimate Question
Update: Staying Firm
Friendship Lost
Gratitude Expressed
To Meet or Not to Meet: The Dilemma
This 18-year-old girl, adopted at the age of five, was recently informed that her biological mother wanted to meet her. After discussing it with her family, she made the decision not to meet her bio mom at this time. Her best friend, however, thinks she’s being an a**hole for not giving her biological mom a chance, especially after discovering that she was just 15 or 16 when she gave her up for adoption. Despite the backlash, our young protagonist remains firm in her decision. Let’s see what the internet thinks of this emotional rollercoaster…
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Your friend should support your choice, NTA
Respect adopted children’s decision to meet biological parents.
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Biological mom respected their decision, NTA for refusing to meet
Friend overstepped boundaries, NTA. Politely tell them to shove off.
Choosing not to meet bio mom is NTA’s decision alone
NTA. Compassionate comment recognizing the teen’s decision and boundaries.
Heartfelt support for teen’s decision to not meet biological mom ❤️
Friend calls them a dick for not meeting biological mom. NTA.
NTA. No obligation to meet bio mom just because she’s curious.
Respectful refusal to meet bio-mom, friend must respect boundaries
Don’t let others guilt you into meeting your biological mom.
Friend’s actions were inappropriate, NTA for refusing to meet bio-mom.
Respectful friend respects OP’s decision not to meet biological mom
Respect boundaries and make your own decisions. NTA
Adoptive parent supports child’s decision to not meet biological mom ❤️
Choosing to meet your biological parent is a personal decision ❤️
Meet your biological mom to satisfy your curiosity and gain support ❤️
Respectful NAH decision defended against pushy friend
NTA! A fellow adoptee shares their experience and offers support
Respectful NTA comment defends teen’s decision to not meet bio mom.
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NTA. Your life, your choice. Friend should have stayed out.
Meeting biological family is a personal decision, NTA explains.
Confused commenter asks about adoptive parents’ gender and number
NTA’s cousin was adopted at birth but refused to meet biological mom.
Boundary-crossing friend gets the boot. NTA
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NTA but consider a visit, she may want to apologize
Teen refuses to meet biological mom, commenter has dark humor.
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Biological mom wants to meet, but teen’s choice is valid
Friend pressures teen to meet bio mom, commenter says NTA.
NTA. Choosing not to meet bio mom is justified
Bio mom respected boundaries, friend needs to back off. NTA
Choosing not to meet bio mom, friend needs to back off
Deciding to meet biological parents is a personal choice. NTA.
Setting boundaries with biological family is important. NTA
Adopted teen receives support for refusing to meet biological mom.
Respectful NTA comment with supportive replies.
Don’t let others pressure you into meeting your biological mom
Friend needs to mind her own business
Biological mother is egg donor, NTA for refusing to meet.
Setting boundaries with friends. NTA for standing up for yourself.
Friend overstepped by pushing reunion. Bio mom understands OP’s choice.
Respectful NTA comment about meeting biological parents, with cautionary tale.
Bio mom’s intentions questioned, commenter supports teen’s decision.
Take all the time you need.
Respectful comment defends personal decision with NTA verdict.
Respectful friend supports teen’s decision to not meet biological mother.
Bio mom not TA, but meeting her is not necessary ♀️
Choosing to meet or not meet biological parents is personal.
NTA’s friend behaving inappropriately, not a hero, drop if continues.
Adopted children have the right to choose.
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NTA bio mom comment: Do what’s comfortable for you
Your friend is drama-loving and inconsiderate. NTA ♀️
No obligation to meet bio mom. Choice is yours
Friend betrays trust and disrespects boundaries, commenter not at fault.
Biological mom’s absence doesn’t make her entitled to a relationship. #NTA
Teen chooses not to meet biological mom, NTA reigns.
Respectful NTA comment defends teen’s decision to not meet biological mom.
Your life, your choice. Your friend needs to respect that.
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Blood doesn’t entitle presence or good will. NTA
NTA. Heartwarming story of finding birth family at own pace
Family is who you choose, not just who you’re related to
Adopted teen seeks only medical history from biological mom. #NTA
Be careful who you trust with personal information
Adoptee shares personal experience and supports teen’s decision.
Biological mom gave up rights, friend should stay out. #NTA
Respecting boundaries is important, but friends can still offer support
