Dinner Party Dilemma: 500+ Pound Brother-In-Law Left Off Guest List ️

Imagine spending months creating the perfect dining room for your spouse’s dream dinner party, only to have it turn into a family feud. One couple found themselves in this exact predicament when they decided not to invite the wife’s 500+ pound brother-in-law to their fancy dinner party. The reasons for the exclusion range from concerns about the brother-in-law’s ability to sit in their new dining chairs to past incidents of him harassing the wife over her cooking. But was this decision justified or just plain cruel? Let’s dive into the story. ️‍♀️ ️

Dream Dining Room Project ✨

The Dinner Party Plan ️

One Family Member Left Out

The Weighty Issue ️‍♂️

Alternative Seating Options ❌

Not Just About the Weight ⚖️

The Uninvited Call

Accusations of Bigotry

Standing Firm on the Decision

Family Fallout ️

Mixed Reactions

Clarifications and Limitations

Medical Chair Not an Option

Sister’s Involvement

Avoiding Personal Attacks ️

A Dream Dinner Party Turns Sour ️

So, what started as a dream dinner party to celebrate the completion of a beautiful dining room project quickly turned into a family feud. The couple’s decision to exclude the wife’s 500+ pound brother-in-law from the guest list sparked outrage among some family members. With accusations of fat-phobia and elitism flying, the husband stands firm, stating that the night is about his wife’s dream, not accommodating the brother-in-law’s weight and food issues. Let’s see what the internet thinks of this sticky situation…

Excluding BIL due to his weight and rudeness: NTA.

Excluding 500+ lb brother-in-law from dinner party: justified or cruel?

Excluding 500+ pound brother-in-law from dinner party: NTA

Logistical realities of not being able to attend dinner parties ‍♂️

Balancing health concern and fatphobia in guest list decisions

Excluding 500+ lb brother-in-law from dinner party: NTA

Navigating family dynamics during events can be tricky ‍♂️, but prioritizing inclusivity can lead to hurt feelings .

Excluding him is justified, he’s a bad guest.

Tough love is necessary. NTA

Difficult situation. If he can’t stand, can’t move party. NTA.

NTA for excluding 500+ pound brother-in-law from dinner party.

Setting boundaries with aggressive brother-in-law, NTA

Inviting sister but not BIL to dinner party causes drama ‍♂️

Hosting a dinner party, but leaving out 500+ pound brother-in-law?

Commenter sympathizes with host, others share seat struggles

Excluding 500+ pound BIL from dinner party: NTA

Excluding 500+ pound brother-in-law from dinner party: NTA

Stand your ground and keep your dinner party drama-free. NTA

Commenter stands up for host and calls out entitled behavior.

Excluding drama-causing, food-hogging brother-in-law from dinner party. NTA.

NTA – Enabling has led to entitlement and a 500+ pound brother-in-law.

Commenter calls out AITA culture on social media.

Focus on behavior, not weight. Address disrespect towards sister politely.

Sibling loyalty or party etiquette? Navigating family gatherings

Excluding 500+ lb brother-in-law from dinner party: NTA.

Compassionate response to difficult family situation

Encouraging weight loss or body shaming? NTA comment sparks debate.

Don’t let others’ insecurities weigh you down

Excluding him for being an AH? NTA, but tread carefully.

Don’t blame OP for not inviting 500+ pound BIL

Excluding 500+ pound brother-in-law from dinner party for safety reasons. NTA.

Setting boundaries for a healthier relationship with food and family

Avoiding drama at family gatherings, NTA suggests excluding brother-in-law.

Hospital dilemma: refusing surgery due to weight. NTA.

Inviting only his wife was rude and opened a can of worms

No dinner for the food hogging, rude brother-in-law

Calling out the enabler and defending the decision. NTA

Excluding abusive 500+lb brother-in-law from dinner party: NTA

Commenter calls out 500+ pound brother-in-law, sparks agreement.

Excluding disabled family member was rude, but safety concerns valid ⚠️

Horse not invited to dinner party, known to bite host. NTA.

Prioritizing feelings and finding creative solutions for dinner party drama

Inclusive hosting: accommodating guests with medical needs ‍

500+ pound brother-in-law left off guest list for valid reasons

Commenter thinks host is not the a**hole for excluding brother-in-law

Handling a weight-sensitive situation with grace and empathy

Clear judgement, no a**holes here!

Size and rudeness are not invited to dinner parties

Commenter believes host is not the a**hole.

No drama here, commenter approves of guest list decision

Inviting only one half of a married couple, ESH.

Excluding 500+ pound brother-in-law from dinner party: NTA

Addressing rudeness over disability is key. NTA.

Logical and reasonable decision, NTA. Considered his past behavior towards wife.

Excluding 500+ lb BIL from party: How to do it respectfully

Excluding 500+ lb brother-in-law from dinner party: NTA

Excluding the 500+ pound BIL from dinner party: NTA.

Stand your ground! You have the right to choose guests

Your home, your rules. NTA

Excluding BIL from dinner party understandable but excluding spouse not wise

Excluding 500+ lb brother-in-law from dinner party: NTA