Imagine this: You’re in a loving relationship and everything’s going great…until your partner’s family starts treating you like a bank! This is the reality for one man, who’s been thrown into a whirlwind of family drama and financial irresponsibility. His partner’s family seems to have a knack for spending beyond their means, and they’re looking to him to bail them out. But he’s had enough! Let’s dive into his tale of money, love, and the struggle to say no…
A Family with a Spending Problem

The Girlfriend’s Financial Transformation

Family Bailout: Round One

The Unexpected Expense

The Money Comes Back…From the Wrong Source

Family Bailout: Round Two? ♂️

The Final Straw

The Guilt Trip Begins

Financial Savior or Heartless Villain? You Decide!
Caught in a web of family drama and financial woes, our protagonist is left questioning his actions. He’s torn between his love for his partner and his refusal to enable her family’s financial irresponsibility. Despite his guilt and the emotional turmoil, he stands firm, refusing to be their financial safety net. But the question remains: Is he the bad guy for not lending them money, or is he merely teaching them a tough love lesson in financial responsibility? Let’s delve into the world’s top responses to this financial fiasco…
Offering money management courses to help them break the cycle.

NTA. Grown adults should be responsible in paying for their own bills/necessities. It was nice of you to help them at first, but it’s unacceptable for them to constantly use you.

Protect your assets and avoid family drama with a prenup!
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NTA. Don’t work hard to fund others’ poor choices. Stop it!

NTA: Tough love and candlelit romance vs enabling and begging.

NTA: Partner’s family taking advantage, causing financial frustration

Family financial advice backfires, leading to no contact decision

Don’t let her family drain your wallet!

NTA. Setting boundaries with family’s financial dependency.

Financial nightmare with leech-like ex in-laws, soul-destroying guilt trips

“NTA i used to be like your gf and lucky for me my partner was like you. I believed what they said and wanted to help but they were just spending their money on themselves knowing i would pay their food, bills and their kids needs. Your doing a good thing and she may be upset or little hesitant now but in the long run it will benefit her.”

NTA. No good deed goes unpunished

NTA – Don’t lend money; you won’t get it back

NTA: Are you a bank? Discuss future with girlfriend

NTA. Tough love for a better outcome.

Empowering your partner to prioritize her financial well-being

Don’t enable poor money habits! NTA

NTA: Set boundaries and let them learn to be adults

NTA. Family milking her for money, she needs to break free!

Setting boundaries with family: a relationship red flag?

NTA. Don’t fund their lifestyle. Let them face consequences

NTA: Asking for money, but not for financial education?

Is this a relationship worth a lifetime of financial stress?

NTA. Money lent to family is gone forever

NTA. Stand your ground, OP.

Setting boundaries with family and money: a delicate balancing act

Engaging with finances: NTA, discuss long-term impact with partner

Money troubles and family drama: when to stop enabling?

Affording a hotel but not car and electric? Not the a**hole.

NTA. Time to find a new girlfriend or be their ATM
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End the relationship now, she will always lend money to family

NTA: GF’s financial support for family is draining her savings

“NTA. My sister’s financial irresponsibility caused a family rift. “

Partner needs a reality check on saving for the future

NTA. Don’t be their ATM. Stick to your guns!

Enabling family’s financial irresponsibility: a recipe for disaster

NTA – Love story turned financial nightmare? Tell me more!

Family begs for money, refuses to resolve their own problems

NTA. Mixing family and money can tear relationships apart.

NTA. Set boundaries with your wife’s family for financial independence

Not the a**hole. Drama and money troubles make for a nightmare

NTA. Don’t financially entangle yourself with your partner’s irresponsible family

Ending the cycle of enabling.

NTA. Budgeting and living within means is key

Budgeting for relatives: NTA sets a spending limit

Helping family and friends with budgets: NTA’s financial advice

OP stands up for financial fairness, sparks debate on boundaries

Setting boundaries with money and closing the bank account
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Beware of leeches when marrying your partner!

Expensive hotel stay on Vday turned into financial nightmare. NTA!

“NTA. Adults should be motivated to spend within a budget. “

NTA. Help them create a budget for a decent relationship

NTA. Family financial burdens and the liberating power of boundaries

NTA. Beware: Marrying her means being a doormat for her family.

Valentine’s Day spending: NTA, prioritize bills over extravagant gifts

Toxic family dynamics and financial abuse. Protect yourself. NTA

NTA handles financial troubles, recommends tough love for girlfriend’s family
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NTA. Expensive hotels and unpaid bills lead to financial struggles.

NTA, but beware of the never-ending money drain from her family

Loan money with an arrangement fee to avoid constant requests

“NTA. Family needs to learn to take care of themselves!”

“Teach a man to fish”: Adults need to live within means

NTA. Set boundaries to avoid toxic patterns and financial burdens.

Not the a**hole. Share your story of love gone wrong!

Not the a**hole. Drama unfolds in a love-turned-nightmare.

NTA: No more hotels and monthly borrowing, hard noooooo

A financial nightmare turned love story with no a**holes involved

NTA. Taking advantage instead of taking responsibility

A lighthearted response to a comment, keeping the mood positive

NTA: Boundaries with freeloading family causing financial strain

Lend them money, recycle it endlessly

Keeping finances separate and avoiding shared bills.

NTA. Family splurges money, expects partner to foot the bill. ♂️

Budgeting lessons and leeching tendencies: NTA

NTA: Set boundaries and ask for a repayment plan

NTA: Asking about finances is fair when family constantly borrows.

NTA. They’re too embarrassed to show you their bills, but not so embarrassed to borrow money? That’s interesting. If you don’t put a stop to this now, it’s never going to stop.

NTA: No free ride! Don’t expect others to fund you

NTA. Practical advice for financial troubles. Take charge of your money
